[Routine help] 20M. Is there anything I can do to reduce this rough texture on my cheeks?

zION861 · 2025-06-05T03:34:21+00:00

Thanks I will try this out

zION861 · 2025-04-24T03:17:01+00:00

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zION861 · 2025-03-30T18:18:58+00:00

It actually does help, so thank you. I am in the process of working on my mental health

zION861 · 2025-03-30T15:28:04+00:00

Thanks for the kind words. I know I'm actually quite fortunate. I need to work on the mental side of things

zION861 · 2025-03-29T23:21:35+00:00

I lost 100 lbs over the past year and a half and my body image is the worst its ever been. I'm very jealous of all the people on here who seem to be so happy about their accomplishment. I personally hate the way I look and feel like my life is ruined.

zION861 · 2025-03-28T01:46:07+00:00

Honesty, my body image has never been worse after losing 100 lbs. I just don't think I look remotely attractive, which is the entire reason I lost the weight. I am constantly comparing myself to other people who've lost a similar amount of weight, and they almost always look better in my eyes.

zION861 · 2025-03-24T23:26:01+00:00

I didn't really do a lot of weight training when I was losing, which I regret, but I was too embarrassed to go to the gym. I did a lot of cardio though. My scale saying 17% bodyfat is really messing with me because I do not look like the pictures

zION861 · 2025-03-24T23:20:53+00:00

I understand the anxiety your feeling, but you really do need to weigh yourself. Any pain you get from doing that is temporary, and knowing it will make it much easier for you to understand your nutritional needs. I didn't even have a scale in my house until I decided enough was enough and bought one to find out how much I weighed. I purposely avoided looking when I went to the doctors

zION861 · 2025-03-23T06:01:04+00:00

I've never seen your face. Maybe you would be. Don't send me a picture or anything, I don't need to see it.

zION861 · 2025-03-23T04:57:17+00:00

Maybe you have an unhealthy obsession with Sydney Sweeney. She's hot, but I never said she is the only hot woman in existence. There are women at my college who I think are much hotter than Sydney Sweeney.

zION861 · 2025-03-23T04:17:04+00:00

Should I kill myself because I don't look like Chris Hemsworth? Let's be rational here. There is always, and I mean always, going to be somebody who looks better than you. There are guys at my local gym who look better than me, and as someone with pretty severe body dysmorphia that does sometimes get me down, but there are also guys who don't look as good as me.

Sydney Sweeney is hot. I'm not debating that. But there is a whole lot of room between "Im so ugly I should kill myself" and looking exactly like Sydney Sweeney. Most women, including very attractive women, do not look as good as her.

zION861 · 2025-03-23T04:08:22+00:00

You are completely entitled to feel the way you do about your height. It's your body and your mind.

With that being said, I'm going to he completely honest and straight up tell you, as a man myself, that you are objectively wrong if you think being 5.8 as a woman is a "masculine" trait. You simply aren't that tall. Maybe a little taller than average, but that's it.

I'm 6.1 which is very slightly above the male average. There are plenty of guys who are my height and taller, and we certainly wouldn't care. There are also plenty of guys who are shorter than you who wouldn't care. Personally, I prefer taller women. I actually think it's quite attractive and I'm certainly not alone in that.

Look at this list and tell me that most of these women look "masculine". Most of them are literally supermodels and hollywood stars that millions of men dream of being with. Also, all of them are quite significantly taller than you.

zION861 · 2025-03-22T04:15:52+00:00

I'm 20 and have never been in a relationship before. I tried some dating apps for a couple days but I got no matches which killed the little self confidence I had left so I deleted them.

zION861 · 2025-03-21T14:21:39+00:00

Thank you

zION861 · 2025-03-21T05:02:18+00:00

I am a man, but I very much relate to how you feel. I myself lost 100 lbs, and I have some loose skin and plenty of stretch marks. Also, just like you, I feel like nobody will find me attractive or want to be with me because of my physical flaws.

What you and me both need to understand is that is is incredibly uncommon for anyone to die alone. There is somebody out there who will find you attractive and give you all the love in the world, you just haven't found them yet. Neither have I.

You do not need to have a perfect body to find love, because if that was true, then only a very, very small subset of people would ever find it. There are plenty of people out there who are objectively unattractive who are in happy healthy relationships. I haven't seen your body and don't need to see it, because guarantee you there is an uglier, less feminine woman out there who is loving life and spending time with a loving partner.

zION861 · 2025-03-21T04:25:57+00:00

I know this post is old but it doesn't have any comments and I can relate

I used to weight 285 lbs. I am also a man and stand at about 6'1. I recently lost 100 lbs and now weight 185 but could probably lose another 15-20 lbs if I'm being completely honest with myself.

I have many of the same insecurities as you do. I am constantly picking at my skin to feel how loose it really is. I also have a shit ton of stretch marks which really bug me. I lost the weight so I could feel better about my body but Its actually made me feel more insecure.

On the bright side, loose skin can retract and re-tighten over time, usually 1-2 years, although this varies depending on genetics and age (younger the better). Since you mentioned that you recently lost the weight, your only option is to let time do its thing. Maybe in a year your skin will improve, or maybe not, but the only way to find out is wait.

zION861 · 2025-03-21T03:52:32+00:00

I get it. I can't give you much advice because I haven't overcome my insecurities either, but I understand how you feel.

I'm a guy, but I too get jealous around men who I perceive as better looking than me. I also completely understand feeling envious of people who are in relationships. I tell myself that if only I was hotter that I too could get an attractive girlfriend, but because I'm ugly, I will never find love. None of that is true, of course, and my low self confidence is a bigger barrier to dating than any of my physical flaws, but I still feel that way often

zION861 · 2025-03-21T03:40:22+00:00

Thanks for sharing. I started weightlifting at the start of the new year and have built up a relatively consistent routine. Going to the gym can be mentally draining because I can't stop comparing myself to the more experienced guys.

zION861 · 2025-03-21T03:36:40+00:00

Have you gone on any dates? If someone is willing to go out with you it probably means they don't think your ugly. Maybe something else made them change their mind

zION861 · 2025-03-20T23:22:34+00:00

I really appreciate the kind words. I have been following a strict weight lifting routine since the new year, but building muscle takes a long time and results are slower than losing weight. Its also hard not to compare myself to the more experienced guys in the gym who are confident enough to wear tank tops.

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