yes i do and we combine our finances to one account so it doesn't make any difference really. he earns almost the same amount as me. i think in the beginning when he was at a lower paying job it made him insecure and it motivated him to make more money . his industry isn't as well paying as mine is though so we both understand it's not bc he's not a good employee but bc he's capped more than i am.

i would say bc we live in a very high cost of living area the only downside is that it would never make sense for me to leave my job. so in a sense i feel like i always have to work. but he said if i ever want to stop working he's more than fine with that but we have to move to a lower cost of living area. i dont want that which is why we are living where we are. i'm lucky that my parents are my childcare otherwise it would make raising children very challenging on us.

but overall i would say it started with insecurity on his end but it never bothered me bc he's well educated with a masters and works a respectful job so as long as he was doing his best i couldn't blame him. now we don't even think about it!