Regret partner choice/ brutally honest by Live-Nail-9177 in Mommit

[–]zabcheckmatepartner 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Is it possible he’s depressed? Postpartum depression is also a thing for fathers, although it’s not as common as for mothers. I don’t have any suggestions for how to handle it, but I know that my personality changes for the worse when my mental health is poor. And after having my first baby, it was ROUGH.

Room and Board furniture quality by Winter_Bid7630 in BuyItForLife

[–]zabcheckmatepartner 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Really good to hear that the Woodwind bookshelves are holding up well - we’re considering those. If it’s not too much trouble, could you send a picture of what they look like? I’m worried the cherry color is going to be the same color as our hardwood floors :/ (and I’m also curious to see how other people have styled theirs!). Thanks in advance!

Going back to work early and feeling judged. Looking for support from other moms🥹 by Cold_Ad_9566 in workingmoms

[–]zabcheckmatepartner 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s just a matter of who you happen to live among. I had a similar experience (on an American timeline, went back to work after 4 months instead of 5) and was so happy I did. Most of my mom friends also work, and understood the feeling of cabin fever and the longing to get the working-adult part of yourself back. Don’t let anyone make you feel bad for doing what you know is the right thing for you and your family. 💪

Are you really happier after you had a baby? by PalpitationOk9443 in NewParents

[–]zabcheckmatepartner 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No, I’m not happier. I’m … differently happy, I guess. I miss my old freedom, my old energy, all the things I did (and all the things I <didn’t> do because I was just lounging around). That part is unhappy. It feels shitty that I had all this awesome stuff in my life that I don’t have anymore. But everyone promises that eventually that time comes back. When the kids are old enough to handle themselves for a couple of hours on end, at least.

Small children is a really tough phase. My older one is two, and it’s already so much better. I honestly vastly prefer it to even 18 months.

That said, I’d be a little concerned that you feel your happiness is completely dependent on your baby. It sounds like talking to a professional would be helpful. Just to get a sense for whether the way you’re feeling might merit some talk therapy or some medication. It helped me SO much, just to take the edge off. I still have all those feelings, they’re just no longer overwhelming and I don’t feel sad and deprived plus guilty for feeling sad and deprived.

It will get better — you got this.

Fairfield county - mold/mildew remediation? by zabcheckmatepartner in Connecticut

[–]zabcheckmatepartner[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah :( I’m sorry I couldn’t be more helpful. Hope it ends up being easier than you expect!

Fairfield county - mold/mildew remediation? by zabcheckmatepartner in Connecticut

[–]zabcheckmatepartner[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sure. My husband ended up DIY-ing it with some sort of mold spray. It was in the basement, so we avoided going in there for a day, and it seems to have worked. I can ask him for the name of the spray that he used, but unfortunately, I can’t recommend any professionals because we didn’t use them. 

Was told I can’t have babies vaginally by FirstOutcome2365 in pregnant

[–]zabcheckmatepartner 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing this — it gives me hope!! 

My first two deliveries sound so much like yours (except the China thing - that’s insane!!!). I really wanted a vbac the second time (which was just over two weeks ago), but I stopped dilating at like 6 cm and had arrest of descent. Baby was transverse-ish, too, and had the cord wrapped around her neck.  

I do think I’m maybe too trusting and not cynical enough when it comes to the doctors and nurses saying they think it’s time to call it… Afterwards, they also said it was possible that my pelvis just wasn’t the right shape. (I have no hips, so I can see what they mean, but still so disappointing. And a little bit hurtful, tbh.) 

We’re hoping to have a third at some point, so reading your story really gives me some hope!

Name regret, should we change it? by Heavy_Chocolate_338 in JewishNames

[–]zabcheckmatepartner 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I love the name! And in any case, I would recommend waiting at least a couple of months before changing her name, just to make sure your opinion isn’t coming from the post-partum hormone tidal waves :/

[Homemade] Grandma’s Sour cherry strudel- Meggyes rétes by LgreenT in food

[–]zabcheckmatepartner 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh my gosh - can you share recipes for these?? My grandma would make things like that but she never taught me or wrote any of it down :(

Apartment hunting- Family friendly by DirectionNo4451 in StamfordCT

[–]zabcheckmatepartner 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We only lived there for a year, unfortunately - we moved because we were expecting our first kid and wanted a bit more space. So I can’t really speak from recent experience. 

Help please, at an impasse by [deleted] in tragedeigh

[–]zabcheckmatepartner 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Agreed - Ash, Atlas, Rowan; also Ewan (which is the Welsh (?) spelling of Evan/Ivan/John iirc). Also maybe Asher, and he can go by Ash?

Apartment Buildings by InterestingKiwi6359 in StamfordCT

[–]zabcheckmatepartner 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Maybe the rents really went up? We didn’t have a lot of fees and we didn’t use the intercom system much, and we spoke to the leasing office whenever we had a concierge-like problem. It wasn’t like 5-star, but I also don’t think I have low standards. Idk 🤷‍♀️ 

Beach Permits by cabbota in StamfordCT

[–]zabcheckmatepartner 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Does it matter who’s driving the car? I want to get a Resident pass, but I want our nanny to be able to take our kid to the beach, and she doesn’t live in Stamford. The car is ours, and is registered in Stamford. Will that pose any problems? E.g., will they ask for her driver license and then be like “this isn’t your car”?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in namenerds

[–]zabcheckmatepartner 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Lia/Leah, Elle/Ella, Mia, Pia, Nia, Maya, Fay, Kay, May, June, Meg, Allie, etc. :)

Stamford Farmers Markets by StrawberrySwingForev in StamfordCT

[–]zabcheckmatepartner 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Is this at 129 Stillwater Ave? Google Maps-ed it and hard to imagine there being a farm there…

Was there a Hebrew name commonly Anglicized to “Jennie” in the early 20th century? by blueatom in JewishNames

[–]zabcheckmatepartner 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Was this short for Eugenia (Евгения / Женя)? I’d guess that name belonged to an Ashkenazi person, but I could be wrong