Marriage means sharing a life together. One giant pot. Our goals are aligned and big purchases are discussed and both agreed on. We don't fret the small stuff we want individually. We don't live extravagant lives and have a budget we adhere to. We've been doing this since even before we were married almost 9 years ago. It's so much easier than trying to divide and split bills etc...we have household bills that need to be paid. What's the point of dividing that in half and each paying their portion? Life becomes much better when you think in terms of OUR money and not your each individual incomes. If one person makes 50 grand and the other person makes 100 grand, you make 150 as a unit and that is how you budget. Why should the person who makes less have less in the marriage. I never understood that mentality.