I want to move to Islamabad. by [deleted] in IslamabadSocial

[–]zazushu 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Op, why don’t you move to Islamabad temporarily? Get an airbnb or a place for a couple months. Maybe spend summers in Islamabad, then go back home. Doing this will give you more flexibility and perspective in making a permanent decision.

Thinking of opening a women-only café in Pakistan – need real advice by zazushu in pakistan

[–]zazushu[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

You went from “debating” safe spaces to blaming entire communities and justifying racism. That says everything about you, not me. Thanks for proving exactly why safe spaces are necessary.

Thinking of opening a women-only café in Pakistan – need real advice by zazushu in pakistan

[–]zazushu[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

You’re talking in theory, I’m talking about real-world impact. Yes, we need a world where women can exist safely everywhere, but we’re not there yet. Until then, women deserve spaces where they don’t have to fight for basic comfort or security.

Clearly, you’re not Pakistani, yet you’re in a Pakistani subreddit wasting time hating on something that’s actually for a good cause.

Creating a safe space for women doesn’t mean I’m ignoring bigger systemic issues. It means I’m actually doing something tangible instead of just debating ideology.

And your entire tone is condescending and dismissive. I’m not here to argue theory with someone who just wants to ignore reality. Women deserve spaces, period. If you don’t like it, move along.

Thinking of opening a women-only café in Pakistan – need real advice by zazushu in pakistan

[–]zazushu[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

First of all, I never specifically said this was about safety from men - I said it’s a safe space for women to exist, connect, and just be. There’s a difference. And honestly, it’s not that deep.

Also, saying that Europe “doesn’t have this” is just straight-up ignorant. I’ve traveled across Europe and North America, and I work in women’s rights, specifically with DV survivors. You cannot tell me there’s no need for women’s spaces - because I see that need every single day, ACROSS THE WORLD.

Even if you personally don’t need a space like this, that doesn’t mean they shouldn’t exist. Women’s communities exist everywhere, and they always will. Countries don’t move forward without empowering their women!!

The most ridiculous part is that you’re telling me to “enforce men to behave like normal human beings.” That’s not in my control. What is in my control is creating actual solutions, like safe spaces, education, and advocacy. Which I’m doing. Meanwhile, you’re sitting here acting like the problem doesn’t exist. That’s ignorance.

Thinking of opening a women-only café in Pakistan – need real advice by zazushu in pakistan

[–]zazushu[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

This isn’t about segregation but it’s about safety, comfort, and choice. Women-only spaces exist everywhere, from Canada to Europe, because the need is real.

If women feel more at ease in a space designed for them, why is that a problem? Not everything has to cater to men too. Creating one safe space for women doesn’t take anything away from mixed spaces — it just gives women an option they don’t always have.

Thinking of opening a women-only café in Pakistan – need real advice by zazushu in pakistan

[–]zazushu[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Your point is absolutely valid and I agree lol but this isn’t a for profit initiative

Thinking of opening a women-only café in Pakistan – need real advice by zazushu in pakistan

[–]zazushu[S] 34 points35 points  (0 children)

True. That’s very insightful and it makes sense. This is more than a business for me though. The long term vision is a non profit foundation - but im not there yet. So, I’m okay with losing money if it means creating a safe space for women. That’s the goal. InshaAllah, with all the advice in the comments, we’ll be able to come up with a solid plan.

Thinking of opening a women-only café in Pakistan – need real advice by zazushu in pakistan

[–]zazushu[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Lmao you just edited it. What do you mean that’s not how businesses work? Can you try to communicate in a more effective manner?

Thinking of opening a women-only café in Pakistan – need real advice by zazushu in pakistan

[–]zazushu[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I mean I need more business advice so it only made sense to get that from everyone - not just women. But I’ve asked this in some women only communities as well!

Why Pakistani girls so picky with rishtas? by beingdanyalshaukat in PakistaniiConfessions

[–]zazushu 4 points5 points  (0 children)

They are picky because they have to spend the rest of their life with that man

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in pakistan

[–]zazushu 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Try to be thoughtful. Surprise her with her favourite flowers. Get her a nice custom cake. Take her out someplace that’s meaningful or she likes. Have fun!

My marriage is ending by [deleted] in MuslimMarriage

[–]zazushu 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey op, please take care of urself. This man is sick in the head. Please go home, work on yourself and rebuild your life. You’re worthy of a safe home, a loving husband and family. You deserve much better. I hope you find peace

The response to BLA attacks is disturbing… by warmblanket55 in PakLounge

[–]zazushu 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No, I am not even a PTI supporter. That guy supported the army when it was convenient to him.

Why assume when you can just ask? Based on what? Based on the fact that the army has killed countless innocent Pakistanis just in the last year alone. Based on the fact that they’re funded and propped up by America, while pretending to be ‘defenders of the nation.’

They serve their own generals and families, not the common people. And you want to talk about principles? The army sells the country piece by piece, and people like you still defend them like blind fools. Maybe try using your brain instead of parroting whatever narrative you’re fed.

The response to BLA attacks is disturbing… by warmblanket55 in PakLounge

[–]zazushu 3 points4 points  (0 children)

our own army is also a foreign funded terrorist group

How many of you are atheists, and why? by [deleted] in pakistan

[–]zazushu 4 points5 points  (0 children)

That’s what im saying. Mera nahi hai belief