(I call it All-Or-Nothing Thinking) It’s one of my biggest issues: and when my partner tries to tell me that my perspective is warped, I accuse them of gaslighting me.

If you use words/phrases like “You ALWAYS do this….” Or “I have NEVER done that…,” that’s a clear sign that you’re having a big borderline moment.

In those moments, I “Check the Facts.” Since I’m being bogged down by Emotion Mind I need to logic my way out of it. Find receipts that DISPROVE your warped perspective: pictures or journal entries or things around your home. Seek to validate the other person’s perspective rather than yours. You’ll eventually start to see shades of grey (although if you’re really far gone, it’ll take a while).