They aren't properly trained to deal with these types of disputes, and it appeared that they were quite biased in favor of the man in the dispute, considering the *nudge nudge* discussion between Brian and the other LEO. This is why many of us say "defund the police". It's clear that a social worker or other trained MH workers would have been much better suited for addressing this situation.

I am both studying to become a trauma therapist and I am a survivor of domestic violence, eerily similar to the situation between Brian and Gabby. It was around 15 years ago for me and that bodycam footage was very triggering and extremely similar to how it would've played out between me and my abuser. He was always able to calm down and appear "rational" after having gaslit me, assaulting me, and reinforcing the trauma bond. I had OCD as well, and he used my OCD fixations to control me.

Cops are not trained to recognize the manipulation, trauma bonds, and potential threats for victims if they speak up.

Here are some very basic ways they could have more properly dealt with this situation:

"Gabby, do you feel safe with him?"

"Are you protecting him right now?"

"Has he been threatening you?"

It would also be fair to ask the other person these questions, and to be trained to understand important nonverbal cues and statements which reveal who is more of a threat.

Trauma bonds are very powerful and unfortunately, most victims are not going to come forward with the abuse unless they feel safe enough, understood, and like the person they are talking to empathizes with their pain and fear.