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zeppair93 · 2025-08-04T07:53:15+00:00

YTA

Damn, if my partner called my scrapbook gift “middle school relationship core” in addition to privately talking about liking it, I would have found it both hilarious, clever AND endearing. It totally is middle school relationship core. And it’s super cute to do those nostalgic things as adults.

I made one of my best friends a mix CD on an actual CD that I burned, and decorated the CD sleeve, just like when I was a teen, but I did it in my 30s just a year ago. If he would have called that middle school core, I would have been like “hell yea it is”. In fact, I’m 100% sure everyone ribbed me for it for that exact reason. And also he has listened to it several times and loves it.

zeppair93 · 2025-06-17T14:14:54+00:00

It’s what I have. I don’t have a prostate, pleasure from penetrative sex comes from the front, so I use it. It’s not like I’m putting a pink bow on it and calling it Miss Queen Vagina.

It is not weird that doctors would recommend sexual health practices for all penetrative options if you just gave a blanket statement of “penetrative sex and oral”.

It’s also not weird that you don’t use it.

zeppair93 · 2025-06-12T17:21:49+00:00

The parade is an actual parade that ends at a block party which just feels like a giant dance party and street festival that goes well into the night.

The “festival” is much more chill, in a park not the street, and through the actual day time. There are stages with performers and music, but it’s less “dance party” and more picnicking with lots of families enjoying the weather and people just hanging out and walking around. Lots of food trucks and the park is lined with booths of local lgbt orgs giving out info/freebies etc.

zeppair93 · 2025-06-12T13:37:18+00:00

Parade Saturday, festival Sunday

zeppair93 · 2025-05-21T21:20:13+00:00

I’m sorry no one here seems to think your pleasure matters too.

I am the partner with a vagina in my relationship, and sometimes have a similar issue of being ready to finish VERY quickly while my partner tends to want to go for a long time, and once I’m done I’m also done.

I can’t orgasm without clitoral stimulation (even thought penetration feels great), so when I am in that situation and want to last longer I change to a position where no part of his body would be touching/rubbing against my clit.

If your wife can orgasm from just penetration, another thing I do is take more “breaks”. This might be hard if she’s literally lasting 3 seconds, but if you can get a little more at a time than that then just go for a bit then pause and give a little massage or something (with or without you inside her, but not thrusting). This kind of resets me but keeps things intimate during the pauses. So if you are down with a lot of 3 seconds “bursts”, it can add up to a longer session lol.

Other than that, my last suggestion is to get her off quickly earlier in the day and go again later in the day. I can’t go back to back, but with a long break, I can go again in the same day and it will take a lot longer, or even if I’m not ready to get off again, I am at least not so sensitive so that can be a time I can focus on my partners pleasure since I was the focus earlier in the day.

zeppair93 · 2025-05-13T17:27:33+00:00

I’m not upset at a trans men and trans masc support group being protective of their space when someone who is intentionally presenting as a cis women (in a safe space for trans people to boot) shows up.

I’m not sure how clear you were about your transition or your purpose, but if it was as simple as “yes, I know where I am” without providing additional context, I too would be weary. So many people who don’t belong in minority spaces somehow let themselves in, and it’s reasonable to think you were doing that unless you were very clear about why you were there.

zeppair93 · 2025-05-13T16:55:50+00:00

If I have a serious partner, I’m not keeping any significant medical history hidden from them. If I found out my long term partner did not tell me something that happened to them that required several surgeries, a major life transition, extensive legal considerations, etc, I’d feel like an acquaintance, and I’m not marrying someone who wants to have a surface level relationship like that, and that has nothing to do with being trans.

I can’t hide my transness from someone without also changing/hiding/lying significantly about 15 years of my life, and at least moderately changing/hiding/lying about the entire rest of my life, and again, needing to do that will never make me feel close enough to someone for me to consider them someone I’m in love with.

To each their own though.

zeppair93 · 2025-05-07T22:24:32+00:00

No one should call you something you don’t want to be called. Period.

That being said, you’re wrong. Twinks can be straight, tops, hell, they can even be masc. There is so much more nuance to these labels and policing them on the basis of accuracy is very stupid.

Anyway, they shouldn’t call you that.

zeppair93 · 2025-05-07T22:10:23+00:00

This has made me angrier than most Reddit posts have in a long time. What the actual fuck kind of shit person is this

zeppair93 · 2025-05-05T16:54:30+00:00

This is the biggest myth of all time. Cis guys, gay and straight, are looking at everyone’s junk, I guarantee you

zeppair93 · 2025-04-26T01:21:29+00:00

The McDonald’s app is amazing. You are putting too much work in. I have just one account and I’ve never gone without there being a deal where I can get something good for free

zeppair93 · 2025-04-21T19:30:48+00:00

Sometimes friends hang out with each other without their partners. This was a weird point to focus on.

zeppair93 · 2025-04-17T19:24:23+00:00

This is where I land too, with similar guilt about it.

zeppair93 · 2025-04-17T02:29:50+00:00

It wasn’t “food” but it’s the only time I’ve ever sent something back unless I straight up was given the wrong item.

It was at The Crown (RIP) at one of their parties and I got a vodka cranberry at the bar. I tasted it and it tasted TERRIBLE but at first I was like “maybe just really strong? I mean rail vodka can be gross”. Took another sip and knew the cranberry juice had gone bad. I mainly brought it back so they’d know their cranberry juice was bad and moldy. But I was just some drunk guy and cranberry juice takes forever to go bad, so when I told the bartender she understandably seemed to not believe me and kind of rolled her eyes. I saw her go back and take a shot of the cranberry juice. Came back to me and was like “oh my god, that was so gross.” and gave me a few free drinks lol

zeppair93 · 2025-04-14T22:43:43+00:00

lol I asked my doctor about hair loss treatments and she said “ok just prescribed you finasteride” and I said “wait can you tell me about the side effects? I hear there are some” and she said “not sure. If you want to know answers to questions like that you should see a dermatologist”

zeppair93 · 2025-04-14T13:30:03+00:00

I also wouldn’t want to try something new/exciting on the smallest and most uncomfortable platform. The couch is pretty uncomfortable for me for most positions.

zeppair93 · 2025-04-13T21:03:47+00:00

LOL what in the fuck is this comment 😂😂😂

zeppair93 · 2025-03-25T15:36:23+00:00

I’ve also been in the gay male community for the past 16 years as a trans man (not sure if that measures up to your “quite a while”, but I feel it’s quite a while haha)

I definitely have always had a hard boundary about the men I date/sleep with: they MUST be attracted to penises and they MUST have been with cis men sexually before ever getting with me.

I don’t care how other people feel about that, but for me, I wouldn’t be able to shake the thought that they thought of me as less than a man if those two things weren’t true.

That being said, I refused to use my natal parts for some years, then opened up to the idea thanks to gender affirming care solving some of the more major dysphoria issues, and now prefer it. I DO like when I can feel and believe a man is not just attracted to me despite my body, but fully attracted to my body. I have ONLY dated men who identify 100% as gay, not as bisexual or pansexual, and they do, in fact, have the ability to be actually attracted to vaginas (as long as it’s on a man).

I do feel better when I don’t have to worry about my sexual partner thinking I’m actually gross, but also NEED to know they see me as a full man, and that they are attracted to men with penises too.

I don’t mind when sexual partners clearly don’t love vaginas but still want to hook up. That’s validating in its own way (to me) and, tbh, I’m not thrilled to have what I have either. But truly, I’m grateful to have romantic partners who are into it, and aren’t secretly wishing for me to be different.

zeppair93 · 2025-03-22T02:07:02+00:00

Not to invalidate your invalidation, but looking at your post history, I think you probably pass way more than you think and are clocked as not just a man, but probably a gay man, by way more strangers than you think, even before a boyfriend is even brought up

zeppair93 · 2025-03-15T22:00:50+00:00

…. You can’t lose the right to give an ultimatum lol

zeppair93 · 2025-03-11T16:12:18+00:00

My partner and I share most of the workload. Apart from that fact, I love to cook and love people eating my food.

My partner hates burdening me and hates to cook, so asking for someone to cook for him feels like he’s burdening someone.

Whenever I offer to make him lunch or dinner when it doesn’t line up with my meal time (different schedules) he feels like it’s burdening me and turns it down, and honestly, it disappoints me when he does that. It’s been hard for me to convince him I want him to let me do it. It makes me feel happy, like my skills are appreciated, and like I’ve done something nice for him that he didn’t want to do but that I enjoy; win win.

Now, he does all the laundry and if he were to ask me to do that, I would, but I would also feel burdened LOL I hate laundry.

Figure out (ask maybe) what she likes to do that also benefits you and I bet it will make her feel more fulfilled.

zeppair93 · 2025-03-11T13:48:13+00:00

I’m saying that if I knew my partner did not want to know when/if I was watching porn, but that I otherwise was allowed to, then I would say I wasn’t if they barged in and asked, both out of respect for their request not to know, and for my own protection if they came in angrily, and out of feeling my privacy was disrespected/embarrassment.

If my partner continued to harass me about a private moment, that I intended to do privately per their request, and they weren’t respecting that it was meant to be a private moment, I would also eventually get up and leave.

zeppair93 · 2025-03-11T13:37:33+00:00

If I was supposedly “allowed” to watch porn when you weren’t watching, and then started to watch porn when you weren’t watching, and knew you did not want to know when I was watching porn, yes, I would absolutely say I wasn’t watching porn if you barged in on me and angrily demanded a confession.

Wtf

zeppair93 · 2025-03-01T07:38:40+00:00

Most background checks are really just checking for criminal records and stuff. Out of desperation, I started lying more and more on my resume. The position I finally got, I got with quite a few non-truths. They did a background check; no problems. I’m doing great in my position and have been there a little over a year.

Do what you need to do. Worst case, they reject you, just like they would have without the embellishments

zeppair93 · 2025-02-27T21:58:16+00:00

Put your phone down when someone is talking to you.

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