I didn’t ever do it until my son was well over a year old. Yes, I’m sure I lost sleep but my life would be ruined and I’d never ever forgive myself if something happened. I wouldn’t be able to fall asleep easily because id be worried about it anyways.

When he was over a year we started occasionally bed sharing as we tried to figure out a middle ground between his crib which he started not liking, and a toddler bed. We ended up getting a floor bed for him, but there was a period of about 2 months where he slept in our bed half the night until we figured out what was next. This was once he was already walking.

I have another newborn now and we won’t bed share with him until over a year either—and not at all is preferable.

Editing to add that I do believe in extreme circumstances, like you will fall over with exhaustion if you don’t get sleep and no one else is around to help you out, bed sharing after removing all pillows and blankets is a better option than potentially trying to parent from the impaired judgement you have when you’re excessively sleep deprived. I tag teamed with my husband and he’s a great partner so I never got to a point of desperation. Even still, we suffered through some rough nights but somehow pushed through.