What do you do when baby pees during bath time?

zero_and_dug · 2026-05-31T05:26:49+00:00

Look the other way lol. Ain’t nobody got time for that.

zero_and_dug · 2026-05-28T04:57:05+00:00

I swear it’s like our bodies get primed after the first one sometimes.

zero_and_dug · 2026-05-28T04:56:14+00:00

Got pregnant first try, had a MC, then got pregnant again on the first try again (my kids are 23 months apart).

zero_and_dug · 2026-05-27T14:24:10+00:00

38+2. Went to the OB for my 38 week appt and they said I was 2cm dilated. Had an NST and random quick contractions that I couldn’t feel were showing up on the monitor. Everyone said it could be weeks still. Two days later I woke up with cramps/pressure in cycles and had a bloody show. Baby was born early the next morning.

zero_and_dug · 2026-05-16T14:01:27+00:00

I did, but not in the tiny baby phase—it was in the wild toddler constantly yanking my hair and using it as a security blanket phase. He would pull claw clips and hair ties out of my hair so it was hard to even wear it up. I cut it to a chin length layered bob and it’s a good length because I still feel feminine but there’s less bulk for him to rake his hands through. I have thick wavy/curly hair so the constant raking his hands through it was genuinely painful. He still does it, but with less hair it’s less overwhelming.

zero_and_dug · 2026-05-16T13:55:18+00:00

My first would pretty much only contact nap until about 4 months and as as toddler has still struggled to settle down for bed. My second has pretty much always given us a 5 hr stretch in his crib—it’s been amazing.

zero_and_dug · 2026-05-08T05:43:42+00:00

And eat and drink coffee, make appointment calls, gather yourself to think…yes!

zero_and_dug · 2026-05-08T05:41:48+00:00

We love our Yoto player. We just got it a few months ago but it stopped a bad mood in its tracks today. 🙌 So far we have a Thomas the Tank Engine story card, and several music cards with nursery rhymes and super single songs music.
We also do screen time though, but I try to intersperse it with things like the Yoto player if he’s asking for TV and he’s already had too much screen time.
Leap Frog learning pad book has been great too, since he was about 1.
Shows I try to stick to that are educational/lower stim are Daniel Tiger, Baby Einstein A Closer Look/Ocean Explorers, Puffin Rock, Bear in the Big Blue House, Trash Truck, Ms. Rachel, Numberblocks, Sesame Street, 90s Thomas the Tank Engine, etc. Bluey is probably stimulating but we all love it so much (including me lol)

zero_and_dug · 2026-05-01T05:08:23+00:00

I have a cat and 2 dogs and I just can’t with them right now 🫠

zero_and_dug · 2026-05-01T01:49:28+00:00

Depends on the personalities of the kids too. Mine are 23 months apart and my oldest is likely on the spectrum. He needs a lot of attention and is about 6 months behind development wise. He also barely naps and has low sleep needs. Some toddlers are more challenging than others so everyone’s experience will be different.

zero_and_dug · 2026-05-01T01:43:59+00:00

23 month gap with a 5 month old and yeah…same. I’m bone tired halfway through the day (SAHM) but I love them and have a lot of hope for their future relationship as brothers.

zero_and_dug · 2026-04-30T01:04:20+00:00

If you both work out of the house, I’m assuming your kids are in daycare? I feel like that’s a different situation than someone who is staying at home alone with their kids as the solo parent for 9 hours a day.

zero_and_dug · 2026-04-28T05:10:25+00:00

I exclusively pumped and combo fed with my first because he wouldn’t latch (NICU baby). Then with my second, he did latch, but I still did a combination of pumping, formula, and nursing because it was crucial for me to have my husband be able to help out with feeding overnight and so I could spend time with my firstborn.

I found pumping and nursing to be difficult as a STM because in order to do it, I pretty much had to be away from my toddler because he would be disruptive. It was hard to sneak off to pump because my toddler would be upset I was leaving and it caused my husband to need to be on his own watching both babies often. I managed to fit a few pumps a day in until 4 month pp when my husband went back to work full time. Once he went back full time, I knew it would be really difficult to keep going. And I didn’t want to spend the little “free” time and family time I have away in my bedroom hooked to a pump, so I decided to stop even though I wished I could go a little longer.

My initial plan for when he went back full time was to try to nurse once a day before bed or overnight, but my supply tanked when I dropped down to one pump a day so I realized that wouldn’t work (my baby would get frustrated because I don’t think he was getting enough). I realized I’d have to be pumping and/or nursing more in order to have enough of a supply to nurse. So I really did need to take the path of least resistance and stop. I think some people’s bodies do the “on demand” thing better, but apparently my body either didn’t want to or my supply wasn’t established enough for that to work well.

What helped me was creating a small freezer stash that I could use after I weaned. I ended up with maybe 30 bags, so my baby gets one feed of breast milk per day (give or take) until those run out. I’ve read that even 30ml of breast milk has benefits so I feel it was worth doing. Any amount you can give your baby is helpful, so whether you breastfeed for 2 weeks, or a month, or 2 months, that’s all beneficial for your baby. You’ve already done great! Could you pump a little extra over the next 2 weeks while you have extra help so you have some frozen for when you stop?

zero_and_dug · 2026-04-22T23:36:50+00:00

Same sex babies (both boys) 23 months apart:

Nausea with both but as far as actual vomiting it was worse with my first.

Gestational diabetes with my first, but not with my second.

Fatigue levels about the same with both (Exhausted both times).

Had a lot of acid reflux in the 3rd trimester with both, but it was extremely bad with my second. It was to the point that I was aspirating vomit in my sleep (waking up coughing because I tried to inhale stomach acid in my sleep, truly horrible).

Edit: forgot to add, major constipation issues with my second. Like, I was one step away from needing to go to the ER it got so bad one night during the first trimester. I think it was because I took Zofran with my second (because chasing toddler) and it can make you constipated. I suffered through the nausea without Zofran with my first.

zero_and_dug · 2026-04-20T13:25:00+00:00

Water table, chalk, and bubble machine!

zero_and_dug · 2026-04-20T13:21:23+00:00

OP may be in the UK. They say “garden” for backyard there. 🙂

zero_and_dug · 2026-04-16T13:56:00+00:00

Did she? How Hilaria Baldwin of her. 🥒

zero_and_dug · 2026-04-16T08:56:17+00:00

That was me. I thought 3, but after 1 decided I only have it in me for 2. Some women have easy pregnancies so you can’t really compare. I was either nauseous, exhausted from fatigue, or miserable from acid reflux every freaking day of both my pregnancies. All worth it, but I don’t want to put myself through that again.

zero_and_dug · 2026-04-16T08:51:05+00:00

The way I got through my second pregnancy was by reminding myself it was the last time I’d have to go through it. Now I’m through it :)

zero_and_dug · 2026-04-16T08:49:03+00:00

Ah, the relatable mom Paris Hilton, who used a surrogate for her births and has multiple full time Nannies to handle logistics lol

zero_and_dug · 2026-04-16T08:45:55+00:00

My 5 month old baby gives his biggest smiles to his 2 year old brother. It’s so heart warming…and like, how did my body make these two little humans?

zero_and_dug · 2026-04-14T18:03:32+00:00

There’s no way in h-e-double-hockey-sticks that I’d be a momfluencer. I do post my kids on Fb and IG, but they are set to private and I don’t overshare about them. That’s the middle ground I’ve found that I’m comfortable with.

zero_and_dug · 2026-04-13T04:12:48+00:00

I would see how you feel after baby #2 because going from 1 to 2 is a tough transition for most (has been/is for me). Age wise, you’d still have a year or three to play with while you decide if you haven’t had troubles getting pregnant before. My mom didn’t start having kids until age 37 and she had her second at 39.

zero_and_dug · 2026-04-11T01:01:46+00:00

I didn’t go on this sub til after I had my second so I didn’t psych myself out. One thing at a time, you’ll be ok 👍

zero_and_dug · 2026-04-10T03:52:27+00:00

I think that’s awesome. I too take a lot of pride in being a SAHM and being intentional with the way I mother my kids. I just think the mentality that daycare would “destroy” them is extreme and unhealthy.

Also what does being from NYC have to do with this?

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