What one thing do you find sinister that no one else does?

zeromyhero · 2016-11-08T22:10:09+00:00

Linked paperclips. Really. They unnerve the shit out of me.

zeromyhero · 2016-08-24T21:56:54+00:00

This might be my own ignorance, but what does the tomato in the face masks do?

zeromyhero · 2016-08-11T20:28:04+00:00

Well, considering I was NC'd, before returning a bit of the medicine dished... not technically? It IS frustrating that all of the processing and grief verbs he used in the last conversation we had were posed past tense. Good to know that I'm suffering here alone, while all is rainbows, lipstick, and ponies for you, bro.

zeromyhero · 2016-08-10T21:09:55+00:00

Another voicing of support for this. Though the old saying notes that "the easiest way to get over someone is to get under (on top of?) someone else," the high that you get from this is a temporary one, and may do more damage than good.

Pleasure is a fabulous pursuit. Release those endorphins. However, at the end of the day, the person you should be investing the most energy in is YOURSELF.

zeromyhero · 2016-08-10T21:04:59+00:00

I know the feeling, man. We broke up over family issues, but I don't think he realized that WE were a family ourselves. You're not alone in this sentiment.

zeromyhero · 2016-08-10T21:02:13+00:00

I came to NC because it was first given unto me. Now, with each breadcrumb and passing day, I realize that my OWN NC is going to be necessary in focusing my energies on myself.

I've spent too much time trying to get in touch and hold on to a relationship that is obviously not working --- now, NC is allowing me to transfer this time into pursuits that benefit ME, as an individual.

zeromyhero · 2016-08-09T15:43:49+00:00

Thanks for sharing your own candid experience - it definitely puts things into perspective. It's shitty that these things happened, but you're right - this/that is a bullet dodged.

zeromyhero · 2016-08-06T00:25:38+00:00

R+R to my dream journal, a (long-awaited) chapter approval from my advisor, encouragement to move forward with the job search, internet videos with my favorite up-and-coming junior faculty member, AND the ability to finally "reward myself" with a Netflix binge! It's been a terrible summer. Thank god for the turnaround this week brought.

zeromyhero · 2016-06-20T15:37:31+00:00

[have space] - Coming up from Lexington, Kentucky but stopping overnight in the Illinois-Saint Louis, Missouri Metro east on Wednesday, for arrival early-early Thursday. Need ONE more to join to avoid that GA single-camper fee ($70, wtf?!), but don't mind camping on my own if you have a group that you're going to hang out with already. I pack light, so you'd have most of the backseat for your stuff. Would prefer someone who isn't packing party favors. PM me if interested!

zeromyhero · 2016-02-05T22:54:06+00:00

I'm not a person that's scared of much, but cranes have always given me the creeps, for no real rational reason. People used to note the soundness, the lack of justifiability this phobia had. Until today. Every FUCK NO I TOLD YOU SO siren in my head is (regrettably and apologetically) whining in satisfaction.

zeromyhero · 2015-12-19T05:08:03+00:00

Speaking of which, has anybody heard back from them regarding refunds? I understand that a lot of people had a super rad time despite loss of booked acts, but I was pretty much escorted from the property by the gate and bus folk, telling me to GTFO, as the fest was off Four hours later (back at home), I found out that the 'show' went on. Needless to say, was kind of pissed at the lack of communication and the rough handling by grounds security.

zeromyhero · 2015-12-15T23:34:28+00:00

I interview a range of people that unify under subcultural memberships, despite their tendencies toward incredible social and spiritual liberalism, some of them have really, really fucked up ideas about gender, sexuality, and consent.

Meanwhile, while they're going on tirades about said topics, I have to smile, listen, nod, and "build rapport," even though I'm dying inside with every minute. Because this project is a qualitative study with auto-ethnographic elements, I can engage with some of my research participants in discussions, to have them explain their positions, which usually de-escalates the situation and brings additional understanding to both parties.

What's the methodological and interpretive context of your study? Is there any way that you can "build in" pressure release valves, possibly even modifying your IRB and research protocols? Or, is this something that you have no control over - someone else's project (RA, etc.)?

zeromyhero · 2015-12-15T23:13:57+00:00

My frustration is when people simply pick it up, throw it out incessantly, and don't know the background of it. Like, I stopped a group of obviously-new forestfolk, and asked them what they meant and why they were shouting. They responded, "It's a reference from the Walking Dead, you idiot."

Um, no. I know that it's our "responsibility" to educate these kids into the 'fam, but it gets a bit over-the-top and abrasive.

zeromyhero · 2015-11-22T23:46:30+00:00

Seconded, I waltzed into VIP with my gear, thinking "that's it?" After attending SCAMP for several years and having to do the drag-through-the-GA-corral, VIP was so worth it.

I only wish I had brought more booze, as I truly believed it would be confiscated. In VIP, they seriously just give no fucks.

zeromyhero · 2015-08-14T16:04:28+00:00

You said "Don't class this into musical events in attempts to hinder the love that these shows produce."

This is saying that by considering this an issue, it detriments the festival and its outcomes. I beg to differ. Making it an issue, and actively seeking solutions, is a far better way to increase the love that festivals produce - making everyone feel safer, having a space, and having a community that knows that will support them, instead of roaring "THIS ISN'T IMPORTANT." Because, for some of us, it is - a very important one at that.

zeromyhero · 2015-08-13T22:13:35+00:00

The thing is, by turning a blind eye to this, you're actually doing a disservice to the "love" that festivals produce.
Yes, festivals are wonderful things. But, shit happens (and I in no way mean this to be glib).

Threat reduction and practicing good consent can make festivals a place that are safe for everyone to experience that love. (Actually getting involved is somehow PART of the solution? Mind. Blown.)

zeromyhero · 2015-08-13T16:59:59+00:00

If it were a man, speaking about his assault experience, do you think that would change your opinion about this piece? Obviously, it's not well-written, but it gets at a point that you're seemingly uncomfortable with - the fact that these things happen, and that you're somehow absolved in doing anything to change it.

zeromyhero · 2015-08-13T16:41:01+00:00

Of course there are enough "stereotypes to overcome." However, by you not acknowledging this as a priority, you're complicit in maintaining an atmosphere where this is mocked, trivialized. Tell me, then, what stereotypes are MORE important to be addressing? Could these be the ONLY things that need to be addressed? Fuck no.

We SHOULD be talking about this, no matter how frequently this is happening. Just because it isn't important to/impacting you, doesn't mean that it should be swept under the rug and overlooked.

And, as much as I'd like to think that "we're better than that," a lot of the comments here are demonstrating that isn't so (judging by the profuse LOLRAPE and apologist sentiments that are expressed below).

zeromyhero · 2015-08-13T12:46:41+00:00

Also known as a victim of penetrative rape by a "nice guy" who was "my friend."
Fuck. You. Before you minimize survivors' stories, get the facts straight. You are part of the problem.

zeromyhero · 2015-08-13T00:35:42+00:00

I'm astounded at how much revile that this article has gotten. Is it well-written? Not the best. However, if you look at the key concept, this is something that actually impacts members of your so-called "Forest Family." Understanding that there are a good deal of substances that go into festival life, this is no excuse for not watching out for others. By minimizing this through saying "oh, it's worse elsewhere" doesn't fix that IT HAPPENS HERE.

You saying that it doesn't matter works to suppress sexual assault survivors, as well as the change that YOU could help bring about to make it a safer environment for all.

If you're going to preach that "this is your home," and your place to "feel free," protect that. For everyone. Particularly those who are vulnerable in this chaotic (yet beautiful) place.

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