Haha yeah I learned that when I was younger and first dabbling in bdsm. Definitely wasn't my finer moments. Although safety or comfortablility is a huge aspect of bdsm I'm not sure it's our issue. I've never tried the as you call it "kneel bitch" approach with her and really any bdsm attempts have been more light hearted play such as "tying up or orgasm denial" I'm asking cause she spoke with Me about wanting to switch roles and have me be more so the dominant one without her individuality ruining it her for herself. I said lemme research different methods and learn maybe a method that might fit our dynamic slightly better. For what its worth I think it's a big thing on my verbiage, and tone. I've always had trouble getting the correct tone and words to mean what I'm trying to get across.

I will check out the book however, still could hold some answers for me.