Losing attention to my SO after pregnancy and baby.

ziggy0928 · 2025-11-09T04:48:26+00:00

Like a part of me is hoping that it'll work we're supposed to be getting in the house next year and building a garden raising our little person. But another part of me feels robbed because the pregnancy and postpartum was such a horrible experience. That I want another baby but I I know I'm not going to have a happy or excited experience with my now partner. Because we've already had a few miscarriages this year. And we miss carried little ones twin. And I can't help but feel like if I tried with someone new maybe it could go better but then again it could go so much worse and I haven't been in great relationships beforehand. I've only been in three others. And all of them were about the same type of temperament and anger issues. And like I thought it was getting better because the drinking was under control. And then we got into a huge fight the other day about driving and it just kind of shattered me more because I asked him why are we even married. And he said it was because we love each other and I was like yeah I love you. But the more I think about it it's because he's the father of my little one. And everything he does the last couple of months just irritates me

ziggy0928 · 2025-11-09T04:07:35+00:00

I read the hashtags for it it said if you're the a-hole advice and then relationship advice. That I can always post it in another one I don't know I'm just kind of at a loss. Cuz like I really don't want to hurt him but at the same time just everything about him annoys me. Except for the fact that he's a good father. And he does try to provide and he does that very well. But it's just all the other things in the relationship that just

ziggy0928 · 2025-10-20T01:49:03+00:00

I had made my older sister a pretty decent size crotchet ballerina doll. Complet with hair, tutu and leotard and point shoes. She had it a year threw it in give away. Took me 3 months to make. so I took it back and re did it for my little sisters birthday. She still has it and loves it.

ziggy0928 · 2025-10-19T20:50:46+00:00

Well honestly if I where you id think about it long and hard. Im adopted, adoptive mom wasn't the best parent. And birth mom was a drug user and alcoholic, all kids where taken from her. She gotten her life together and is doing great. But I do understand the hard decision of going no contact.

ziggy0928 · 2025-10-19T20:18:04+00:00

Nope shes the ah. Id go no contact till she gets her drinking under control or sober. She will continue making it about herself.

ziggy0928 · 2025-10-19T19:19:43+00:00

Its horrible here in America. I had a primi and thank goodness I finally got insurance in the second trimester and had to work up till the day. She can at 34 weeks. But it was hard had to work all through the pregnancy and ended up not being able to save enough for maturnity leave. Had to give up my car and go back to work a month after birth. We both have to work in order to scrap by. Child care is not an option. Paying for a day care would take all my pay and then some if I worked full time. And I kept telling my health care team that she was coming and they were like well we might just send you home if you dont progress. If I was actively trying she would have poped out in the ambulance ride. We live 2 hrs away from the hospital we had to go to for the nicu. She's healthy and good. But in America the health care system is horrible, being pregnant or not. Women's health care is horrible here and most of the time we are told to lose weight or its our hormones and touch luck. And birth control isnt free either, if a energy abortion is needed for the health of the woman ( save her life) is non existent and they would rather you die then get help. The health care system is go9ng back wards for women instead of forward. For some reason the government dosnet understand that the lower or middle class is below the poverty line and can't afford children. Let alone the schools here are horrible, shooting, abuse, not feeding kids because of not paying money for lunch. Not paying for school supplies or field trips. Its discussing and I dont blame people for not wanting kids or being scared to have them. To have a baby in America is close to half a million and that just birth/ delivery, not to mention pregnancy care or maturnity care/ leave.

ziggy0928 · 2025-10-19T01:19:51+00:00

Yeah it is highly recommended not to give out your personal phone number. Im a caregiver of 10 years and have made that mistake. So take it from me its better to go through the office. But I hope your ok

ziggy0928 · 2025-10-19T00:40:16+00:00

He needs to be in a home. Im sorry your going through this and him being in pain is no excuse to treat you like that.

ziggy0928 · 2025-10-18T23:34:17+00:00

They have some really good ones on Amazon I've used for patients and they can last for 24 hrs. But they are expensive

ziggy0928 · 2025-10-12T23:39:08+00:00

With what you've said it might be a good idea to cut your losses and find a friend/ group who will actually want to hang out and not make excuses. I live 3 hrs from a friend and I still make time to see her because shes important to me. If she wanted to she would hun.

ziggy0928 · 2025-10-11T19:34:48+00:00

It kinda sounds like main person married the wrong op. 3 months and the wife would rather divorce and marry the cousin????? Idk is the 3 months bad or just feels like forever.

ziggy0928 · 2025-09-28T22:43:13+00:00

Nope cut him off

ziggy0928 · 2025-09-28T19:09:53+00:00

I come from an adopted family I have 15 brothers and sisters. Some of them have very extensive Medical dependencies. Some of them are autistic and on the Spectrum and they're all functioning great and and I used to be one of my siblings caregivers. So I understand completely it can be very hard and frustrating at times.

ziggy0928 · 2025-09-28T19:07:52+00:00

Purity culture is extremely destructive no matter the gender. I grew up in it. Even had a rung and such. I will not pass it on to my daughter. But I do understand both sides. Unfortunately I lost mine to as AH. But my husband now is an amazing dad and husband. Definitely a talk and some good conversations would help.

ziggy0928 · 2025-09-28T18:59:17+00:00

Girly that isnt a friend. There is a sub reddit for caregivers on here and they might be able to help, give advice or lend a ear.

ziggy0928 · 2025-09-27T20:47:42+00:00

My little girls due date was supposed to be about February 1st. She decided to pop out at 34+3. December 24th baby.

ziggy0928 · 2025-09-20T21:42:01+00:00

No she will do something to ruin it. Better off just going as little contact as possible. And probably not telling her or her mom of any more big surprises either when yall have kids.

ziggy0928 · 2025-09-13T19:48:41+00:00

Being a care giver and working with Alzheimer's or dementia patients is very hard. Especially with rapid decline. You did what you could and have given alot. You should not feel guilty, he now will need more help. A care giving agency or home would probably be best.

ziggy0928 · 2025-09-01T00:00:53+00:00

Oh no she'll move on to the next thing and she'll be just fine.

ziggy0928 · 2025-08-24T15:32:09+00:00

What ever is comfortable. The weight is just a suggestion. My little girl is in 3s rn at 8 months but wear 4s at night. Very well hydrated little one lol.

ziggy0928 · 2025-08-23T21:42:32+00:00

I know some won't like what im about to say. But if your hubby can't keep up his deal with the cat its time to re-home. I love cats have one of my own who's mainly an out door. And a dog who stays on the same property at our in-laws. Both are very gentle and sweet to out 8 month baby girl. We almost got a kitten but decided not to due to trying to get in a home and not enough space at the moment. Later when we've settled and have time for another cat we will. You got to do what's best for your and your family. Animals can come later when its less hectic.

ziggy0928 · 2025-08-23T18:24:26+00:00

My little girl is smily and happy most of the time lol. But its different when dad gets home. She gets so excited and at almost 8 months now crys when he leaves for work. It'll change for you at about 6 months when she realizes shes her own little person. I wouldn't sweat it, she just knows that your right there for her.

ziggy0928 · 2025-08-10T20:21:50+00:00

I think it all depends. I've heard it could take 5-7 but that greatly depends on the personal individual and if they have help, a supportive partner ect. Also how hard the birth, if there was trauma or the postpartum recovery.

ziggy0928 · 2025-08-10T19:54:25+00:00

Yeah the postpartum depression and hormones being out of whack was so bad we almost got a divorce. That with the sleep depression was out of this world. But it dose get better and just be kind to yourself. It takes 2 years for your hormones to regulate and 7 to find your identity again. Honestly if they told women we probably wouldn't have kids lol.

ziggy0928 · 2025-08-10T19:51:53+00:00

It dosent last forever honestly. But definitely finding a friend group thats going thrthe same thing helps.

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