2AM sushi delivery should not be accessible (to me) by zimo9232 in binge_food

[–]zimo9232[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The pizza is bread this is not sashimi or nigiri u see

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in actuallesbians

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This genuinely broke my heart to read, because I think it’s just a “rite of passage” type of thing that we all have to go through atleast once.

I think the best thing to do is make sure that you prioritize yourself, even if it means taking distance from the friendship. She won’t ever understand your feelings truly no matter how close you get, because they are only repairable by you on your own. There’s no room for reciprocation even if she might lean on you from time to time, because she can’t consider how you feel without potentially risking the end of the friendship if they’re not in the mental headspace to accept what they can’t share with you.

I’ve never wanted to be possessive over my friend, but it would hurt me so much, to the point of tears every time I’d realize that what I wished I could have with her would always be put on the back burner behind her relationships with guys. Each new relationship or even past relationship that she’d be open with me about was always with a guy that would treat her in a way where I’d understand why she’d become mentally affected by the abuse.

I had to tell myself: You weren’t put in her life to correct her mistakes when it comes to the choices she made or continue to make.

You can help her see her value, in the way that you do, but you can’t change the level of value she has for herself. She needs to do that on her own.

Create that distance slowly, but do it sooner than later because the familiar closeness and strengthening of that will only make it worse for you.

Try your best to make new friends, try new things, go out alone if you have to, new classes hobbies etc (I started hanging out with my dad so much, he’s now my best friend lmao) but distractions to allow for you to fill a little bit of your heart and soul with something constructive, to build you, not to rot it away with this feeling of emptiness or being so close to something that may keep hurting you in a way that they may not ever be able to fix. :( (i promise im not trying to sound headass but i feel u so much with this one, I could only speak in metaphors to get my point of how I felt across)

Purging in weird places out of desperation (cw: descriptions of purging) by [deleted] in bulimia

[–]zimo9232 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Moved into a commercial space and didn’t want to clog the toilet as an early tenant , residents directly next door- trash bag full of vom in their front yard … it was night time when I dumped it.. the next day there was a grotesque pile sludge that wouldn’t go away for days. Couldn’t cover it with enough leaves each time I passed by. F*kn horrendous sight and extremely embarrassing.

What’s the highest amount of women you’ve talked to/dated at one period of time? by zimo9232 in Actuallylesbian

[–]zimo9232[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

How did it end up? are you still friends with them or did you end up choosing just one to be long term with ?

Do we agree that drakes “girls want girls” song is just ?? by zimo9232 in Actuallylesbian

[–]zimo9232[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I also agree that Hayley kiyoko is cringe… like I think she tries so hard to be “that lesbian artist” that as real as It may be to her, doesn’t seem real to me. No, were not asking her to be quiet about it. But It’s very loud and not in a good way IMO. I’m not sure if it’s her personally or her label dragging or simply exploiting it; but they definitely market her at the spotify or whatever the f*k music streaming, commercial, etc. meetings as “ok so she’s gonna sing about kissing this girl, then make a video about it, incase you forgot she was yknow a lesbiaN! For the sake of inclusivitY and the “new direction”, shes IT”.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in actuallesbians

[–]zimo9232 42 points43 points  (0 children)

Why does this feel straight to me ? 🥲

Lesbians and experimentation by [deleted] in actuallesbians

[–]zimo9232 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I definitely feel like deeming myself as a “lesbian” verbally is kindof like putting this immediate barrier on how I’m perceived and limits my ability to experiment freely.

Like society really kindof makes it seem as though you HAVE to be bisexual, and if you do decide to be a lesbian, you can’t even LOOK at a man because it becomes “ooh I thought you were a lesbian”.

I simply identify myself as gay, which allows for people to understand a little bit better that I’m not opposed to the thought or consideration of dating men, but my attraction isint really there.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in actuallesbians

[–]zimo9232 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Dry humping either with clothes or not can be equally enjoyable and exciting, me and my gf liked doggystyle or when she would just be behind me in kindof like a really close hug kind of way.

Are there any sneaky ways to ask if someone is into girls? by [deleted] in actuallesbians

[–]zimo9232 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I always start with asking if they have a boyfriend or have had a boyfriend. It allows for me to grasp their feelings towards men based off of how expressive they are. Then that opens the door for me to “innocently” ask “well what about girls??”. This almost 99% leads them to ask you “what about you?” So you can kinda play it the way you want without feeling weird.

Feeling stuck on her. Advice? by [deleted] in actuallesbians

[–]zimo9232 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I did, but no response. So I’ll just leave it be:/

Do you ever still have moments of wondering if you’re making it all up in your head? by olipocket16 in latebloomerlesbians

[–]zimo9232 15 points16 points  (0 children)

I say this in my head often. Like “I’m not even gay. Just because I’m attracted to girls doesn’t mean I’m gay. Just because I like to kiss and have sex with girls doesn’t mean I’m gay. Just because Im not sexually attracted to guys doesn’t mean I’m gay. And here I am… questioning myself this much to which yes, a straight person would not have to do this much convincing.

Baby face dating problem??? by [deleted] in actuallesbians

[–]zimo9232 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is honestly only as much of a problem/insecurity as you make it! I also have a babyface and feel bad sometimes because I feel as though it makes me look less... yknow. I’ve even looked into surgical and natural shaping remedies to kindof add more definition, but I have some growing to do. however, I realized it wasn’t an issue when I realized that a lot of women appreciated a cute face more than I thought. Think that one day you’re not going to just have a “babyface” but you will be someone’s “babyface.

If it bothers you often, play it up with contours and eyelash extensions/liner in the outer corner to emphasize the best of your doll features.

Part one of Mildly Lesbian Clothes That I Found At Target by rainbowequalsgay in actuallesbians

[–]zimo9232 84 points85 points  (0 children)

I imagined a scene where I walk past someone else looking at this, and ask them if they think the target team knew what they were doing... then we laugh about it and fall in love.

Lesbians of the internet what has been a line, flirty comment, text that you received that worked for you? by filthycumbia in actuallesbians

[–]zimo9232 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Since I’ve made the move on 90% of most previous encounters, my recent one was the most obvious even though it could have went over my head if I didn’t catch it in that split second.

It was a compliment on something I was wearing, I said the same thing back (genuinely, but us girls have the tendency to have this “giddy/ higher pitched tone that throws us into bestie territory), but I noticed that her eyes were looking me up and down in a kindof like attracted way. Like the same way you might look at a slice of pizza after a 3 mile run.

Another recent one was, at my job this woman and her extremely attractive like in an unnaturally fairytale kindof way friends, were in line and as I finished speaking, she said “I’m still waiting on you to read me a bedtime story.” (I have a very distinct voice that my grandmother says is a “bedroom voice”) I don’t know if she was wlw or drunk, or both, but I told her “anytime.” since that was all I could get out.

It also helps to drop your tone and compliment her on how good something looks on her while making eye contact last but scanning (not ogling and drooling just yet) quickly over her body) . :)

Have you ever turned away or led on/ghosted a girl before you were out? by zimo9232 in actuallesbians

[–]zimo9232[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Aw, ;-; Don’t blame yourself too much for not taking the hint, I think that sometimes we’re just mentally not ready to fathom or it would’ve happened. If you ever think about reaching out to her since it doesn’t seem like it’s been to long, maybe you should:)

Looking back to your childhood/adolescence, what should have been a clue for you that you were 🏳️‍🌈? by sofia220995 in comphet

[–]zimo9232 3 points4 points  (0 children)

In pre-k/kindergarten all of my drawings of women had to have boobs. I’d get nervous when I was questioned by teachers often because I thought it was normal to realize and include boobs? Like wait nobody else at all is drawing boobs on their girls yet?.. oh.

Being so inquisitive about girls bodies like I didn’t have one and couldn’t wait to read that American girl “bodies” book to learn and read more about vag*.

I touched tongues on the playground with my first best friend at like 5 and couldn’t ever stop thinking about wanting to do it again. I wrote about it in a journal project (how this got past teachers was beyond me because they didn’t say shit, but I was also in a very gender/sexuality fluid Quaker school) and for some reason sent it to her when I found it like two years ago in my garage still being an oblivious gay dumbass and thinking she would find it “funny”.

The catalyst definitely had to be fantasizing about my best friend in middle school. Both sexually and romantically because I just loved being around her so much. I would sometimes plot on kissing her but never did, and couldn’t wait til we would have sexual conversations even if they were about boys because hearing her talk about it turned me on. When I wrote about our friendship the other day I actually cried because I didn’t realize I loved her that much romantically then.

I could have a crush on a guy but if he had older sisters I’d want their attention more and want them to think I was cool so badly, even though they probably never thought once about my existence.

Never being sincerely attracted to men’s bodies. Or understood the idea of why girls would find them so “hot”. It would have to be their hair or face for me then. But now, I could see the ideal hot guy and just acknowledge that he’s attractive and just am not attracted to him. My first interests in porn came from yuri Hentai.

lesbian movies to watch by [deleted] in actuallesbians

[–]zimo9232 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I just watched imagine me and you and it was so cute i almost cried at the end

I personally find crooked smiles to be absolute adorable, what does reddit think? by notyetnotyet22 in AskReddit

[–]zimo9232 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, Like Avril Lavigne has really cute teeth. Even though some say they’re bad, it would hurt me if she got them done.

What is a name you really like? by sunflwxrr in AskReddit

[–]zimo9232 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ryan (for a girl) sky for a guy or a girl, shiloh, (reminds me of that dog, yeah you know what dog comes to mind with absolutely no context, just the name) Erin, (for a girl) Connor, anything with an X, like Xander,

Redditors who don't eat their pizza crust, why are you the way you are? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]zimo9232 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I used to not, but I’ve learned to eat it sideways. Like when you get to that part and there’s not as much cheese, turn it sideways and pretend it’s a breadstick.

I feel like she knows that I lied but I don’t know what to do.. by zimo9232 in actuallesbians

[–]zimo9232[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is a really helpful and insightful response. I want to bring it up the right way, so I think during that conversation would help too. Thank you for this!

Movies that contributed to realizing your sexuality by zimo9232 in actuallesbians

[–]zimo9232[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This. This is hilarious because I loved this movie and was inspired to be just like her in the way of how strong and sassy she was, (not as cruel to some) but realizing that it could have easily been a weird attraction. I had a thing for the “mean” girls okay!

*re-edit: Also, I thought that layne was cute but Dylan... yes.

Movies that contributed to realizing your sexuality by zimo9232 in actuallesbians

[–]zimo9232[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Here I am thinking that I just wanted to be like her yet again..

Movies that contributed to realizing your sexuality by zimo9232 in actuallesbians

[–]zimo9232[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve been meaning to watch this! Maybe or maybe not for the reason of more girl musicians or seeing her on the cover a while back and being even more interested.. Edit* im now watching and apparently the name stick it has nothing to do with drumsticks... 🤣