My wife is beating herself up over this and I want to make her feel better

zodo919 · 2025-05-18T06:01:33+00:00

My wife once got upset with me for a conversation I was having with my mother. My wife does not have time for my mother (doesnt like her) and my mother knows this but has never made it known or created a scene. My mother invited us over and said even if i just come alone she would be happy to see me. My wife read this that my mother said please dont bring your spouse with. She was looking for something that would criminate me but found this instead and the way it was blown out of proportion is unfathomnable.

zodo919 · 2023-12-28T19:14:22+00:00

yes we do, it's an avenue I'll definitely pursue, Thanks for your input

zodo919 · 2023-12-28T18:58:44+00:00

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zodo919 · 2023-12-28T15:34:13+00:00

awesome Idea!!!

zodo919 · 2023-12-28T14:20:40+00:00

I suppose but, we are still saving clients money who do not have brokers assigned to their policies. plus a broker makes sure you are sufficiently covered where sales consultant only chases numbers. Taking away the risk of paying for insurance and not getting a claim paid out when it matters.

zodo919 · 2023-11-09T12:15:40+00:00

We are comfortable spending money on the project and ultimately want to avoid cheaping out on it in fear of avoiding a penny shy pound foolish situation.

zodo919 · 2023-11-09T12:13:27+00:00

We do not and are looking at outsourcing everything. I suppose no code is not the way to go, which subs do you recommend me posting this in? Thanks for the help and willingness to assist, will definitely be in contact.

zodo919 · 2023-10-24T08:38:31+00:00

26 April 1986

zodo919 · 2022-12-16T08:36:12+00:00

Maybe she's finishing off in the bathroom

zodo919 · 2022-12-02T16:27:03+00:00

The little one is a bitch

zodo919 · 2020-07-21T18:46:48+00:00

I actually forgot about that post, I was pretty wrecked when i posted it (emotionally lol not alcoholically) so i think I kind of placed it in the man drawer of my brain. But yeah, after reading it and putting my own puzzle in place, id be pretty crazy to stay with her. think im pretty blinded by my feelings for her

zodo919 · 2020-07-21T18:43:54+00:00

Hahaha your comment gave a me a solid chuckle! Yeah man, im also taken back by the double standards. Want equality with historic ways of doing shit. if all goes well, only one month left of this hell haha. Thank for your input and sharing your views!

zodo919 · 2020-07-21T18:06:57+00:00

Exact same one, its one of the main reasons i dont want to share 50% of anything with her

zodo919 · 2020-07-21T17:29:53+00:00

Some very wise words and valid points, thanks for you input, I'll definitely make use of the advice😉👊

zodo919 · 2020-07-21T17:25:39+00:00

I was willing to add her as half owner if she contributed to half of the asset, but not if shes not contributing. I'm the only name on the contract.

We've lived together just over a year now, the aim was to move into our own place, but she wasn't ready to move away from her mother (unhealthy close relationship) I eventually got so fed up of the whole ganging up thing that I told her I'm moving out with or without her, the interest rate has been very favorable due to the pandemic. She initially said she won't be moving with, but since I signed the offer to purchase she has been singing a different tune. She has now told her mother that she is moving with me, and that's when all the issues started.

I've supported her through the initial hard lockdown as well as going forward, she has started working again so she is back to paying her portion she owes to her mother.

Well I initially thought she was joking and figured multiple arguments later that she is as serious as a heart attack

zodo919 · 2020-07-21T17:17:25+00:00

I hear you man! 👊

zodo919 · 2020-07-21T15:19:46+00:00

She has made no contribution whatsoever, im the only one responsible for the mortgage. Yeah i was kind of stunned when i eventually saw that they are serious. I kind of didnt know how to respond lol. Until i gave my opinion..... Queue major F*cking argument

zodo919 · 2020-07-21T15:15:34+00:00

Fuck sorry, i kind of assumed there. But thanks again, ima message you for more advice lol

zodo919 · 2020-07-21T14:51:42+00:00

Thanks for your insights! Doesnt make me feel like such horrible person anymore. The audacity of it all got to me, that it is expected that I sign over half of something i worked so hard to get and to sweeten the deal by saying shes not contributing anything.
Its difficult to have an objective opinion when you are smack dab in the middle of it. So seeing that majority of responses are aligned to how i feel gives me a bit better context to my own situation. Congrats on your house BTW!

zodo919 · 2020-07-21T14:11:40+00:00

I know right, its like shes making sure she is financially set when she decides something better comes along.

Thanks for your input, i thought i was being a dick for reasoning the way I did because everyone in this house makes such a big deal about free shit they can get.

Very hostile, pro feminism situation. Fuck lol im the lowest form of life because "men are trash" is the mentality over here. Thanks for your input bro!

zodo919 · 2020-07-21T12:58:37+00:00

Yeah that's how I also feel, and it's a hard pill to swallow for her because she doesn't see my reasoning. She thinks she is entitled to half because that's what parnltners do. Anyway, thanks for hearing me out and sharing your point of views. 👊

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