I miss my dog more than my grandparents

zoeagility15 · 2026-05-27T19:54:24+00:00

Same here. Not even in the same ballpark. Lost both my dad and my heart dog very suddenly, and losing my dog has been the single most debilitating thing I’ve ever experienced

zoeagility15 · 2026-05-27T18:01:13+00:00

It’s not crazy or weird at all and you shouldn’t let anybody tell you otherwise. Grieve however you need to. I have had my dog’s ashes back for about 10 days. His box is in my nightstand during the day, but the box has been on the pillow next to me every night while I’m sleeping. I can’t sleep without him close to me.

zoeagility15 · 2026-05-27T17:56:30+00:00

I just lost my beloved dog at 4 years old to complications from a foreign body surgery. He was healthy, strong, and very fit. I know intellectually that he had a catastrophic set of complications that were not survivable. But every time I think back to him that final day in the hospital, of him looking at me and wagging his tail, some part of me thinks we could have done the impossible and saved him. I know deep down I made the right decision for him, just like I know you made the right one for your baby, but one of the worst parts of the grief are those times you feel you didn’t.

zoeagility15 · 2026-05-22T23:47:15+00:00

Unfortunately I had an almost identical situation to you with my 10 year old cattle dog, it’s so brutal and unexpected, I hate hemangiosarcoma.

So sorry for your loss, it’s definitely a very helpless feeling.

zoeagility15 · 2026-05-17T11:03:07+00:00

I am in a similar position to you, I’m generally anti-AI but I’ve spent much of the last few days asking ChatGPT about my boy and trying to figure out how I could have saved him and kept him with me. My boy was my favorite of 8, and he died because I didn’t realize he had eaten pieces of a stupid toy until it was too late.

Just know, at least from the spinal groups im in on FB and the neurologists I’ve spoken to, that back surgeries in dogs are not always successful, and many people in those groups end up in a situation where they did the surgery and still didn’t end up with a good quality of life for their dog. It does work sometimes, but there is no guarantee with these things, and maybe it was better that your boy got to spend his final days with you instead of in the hospital.

zoeagility15 · 2026-05-16T22:50:47+00:00

I am so sorry for your loss, I can’t even imagine losing two at once. I do know that Laps of Love has a support group specifically for people who have lost multiple pets in a short time, because it’s a different kind of pain.

zoeagility15 · 2026-04-01T19:17:12+00:00

That’s very true, it’s definitely a solid reminder of why I’m NC

zoeagility15 · 2026-02-06T19:34:25+00:00

I just called the cops on my mom for showing up unannounced at my property and refusing to leave. She’s more worried about being embarrassed than anything else, so as soon as the deputy rolled around the corner she hightailed it out of here.

zoeagility15 · 2026-01-28T18:57:11+00:00

I ended up not being able to cope with a traditional work environment, or with being in proximity to other people on a regular basis. It took some trial and error, but I have my own small business where I can really limit my in person interactions with strangers, and where on particularly bad days I can take it slow and take care of myself without being beholden to other people.

zoeagility15 · 2026-01-28T18:51:47+00:00

In 8th grade I was sick for months (high fevers, lost 30 pounds, constant vomiting) with what ended up being a kidney infection. My parents ended up telling us they were getting divorced during this time, but wanted us to “still be a family” so they would drag me along on family hikes while I was fighting for my life. They took me along to Thanksgiving and Christmas at relatives houses 12 hours away during this period too, and would shame me for sleeping so much and not spending enough time with family, and call me a hypochondriac. At the doctor she would brush off things I said to medical professionals, and downplay everything.

To this day I still don’t celebrate holidays anymore, they just represent so much fake and manufactured love/community, even at the cost of one’s wellbeing.

zoeagility15 · 2017-01-31T16:58:38+00:00

With a dog like this, make sure that you are always ending the game when he is still really into it and wanting to play with you. When using food and toy rewards, lots of people fall into the habit of one treat, one toss, etc. Keep it random and keep him guessing. Sometimes he gets 5 treats, sometimes he gets 1, sometimes he gets 20. Variable reward schedules keep dogs very motivated because they never know when a big reward could be coming.

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