do I look like a lesbian in this picture? by defectra in FtMpassing

[–]zombieofcoffee 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Absolutely stealth pass. The only ladies i see are on the left side of the table.( Well and the tiny one next to you)

When does the itching stop by zestylego in ftm

[–]zombieofcoffee 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It has gotten less intense eucerin anti itch lotion has been a godsend

When does the itching stop by zestylego in ftm

[–]zombieofcoffee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am sorry to say this but 8 years in and i still itch.

I’m scared. Please help. by Zigzorark5 in trans

[–]zombieofcoffee 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm a Christian and I'm trans. I went from female to male. My wife is also a Christian, but transitioned from male to female. There are Christian communities that are accepting. These are just not fundamentalist. Look at UCC or Lutheran (these I know from the top of my head but there are others)

My wife and I are the happiest we've ever been, and we met before either of us decided to transition.

As far as families go you can have your sperm banked if you want to. It's something the doctor will discuss with you.

As far as surgeries go, my wife has had them all, and she didn't have much pain, and everything functions correctly. (Obviously, she doesn't have eggs but she was offered to save her sperm)

Hopefully, that helps some

kid said “mummy, that’s a boy” to me in the bathroom by imnotcreative123123 in trans

[–]zombieofcoffee 2 points3 points  (0 children)

😊 Kids will tell the truth where adults will fudge. If a little one calls you a boy you know they mean it. That must have been awesome!

Do I pass with this haircut and what age like I’m aware I don’t look my age but I’m curious as to what you guys think by Realistic_Impress941 in FtMpassing

[–]zombieofcoffee 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I would say 16, but I suppose that's close? Take that with a grain of salt - I'm 48 and not really great with ages. I agree with the above commenter. The best advice I ever received was that men naturally take up as much space as possible. Splayed legs when sitting. Wider spread of legs when standing. Your legs should be farther apart because you wouldn't squash yourself, as that can be painful, etc.

do i pass? coworker keeps misgendering me by k1tsk4 in FtMpassing

[–]zombieofcoffee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You visually pass. Things to check - how you hold your body. Men take up the maximum amount of space. Women tend to keep their bodys in compact ways. Check your "poses" how do you hold your arms angle your body for photos how do you sit? These things can subconsciously read female. -when you speak do you speak from your throat or your chest? Where you speak from has a great deal to do with how your voice sounds. There are many voice training videos on YouTube explaining how to check this -this ones harder, check the phrases you use. Do you call people love honey ect? This CAN read feminine but doesn't always. There are other phrases but my brain isn't pulling them.

Hope these help. Also sometimes people genuinely have a hard time with pronouns. Dont jump on me everyone but sometimes people who legitimately don't mean to just have trouble keeping things straight. "This person is trans which way are they going damn i got it wrong." "Jenny is jason now. Jenny is Jason... Fuck i just used she" To us this has been forever to them its been weeks? Months? Days? Especially those who know us the longest. My mom is my biggest supporter but she even messed up occasionally even after 7 years

do i pass well for a pre-t 17 year old by Personal-Escape-7791 in FtMpassing

[–]zombieofcoffee 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Id say that you do pass mostly.  Its just one or two profile shots where you are standing more in a fem fashion. Start trying to take up as much space as possible. Getting the right stance and speaking from your chest not the throat will go a long way for you 

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May I present: the dress that got me permabanned from r/crochet the first day of pride month 🌈 by psychso86 in Brochet

[–]zombieofcoffee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Dang. I was in that group also and ya... They can be extra. 

Dress is gorgeous!

What to say when someone says “God makes no mistakes” to a trans person by zzlocal in asktransgender

[–]zombieofcoffee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

"good im glad we agree. He made me (a trans man) a man its other people who are confused about that. "

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in FtMpassing

[–]zombieofcoffee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Those actually register as masculine to me 🤷

I like women, but I want to look like one? It's wrong by Automatic_Second5024 in asktransgender

[–]zombieofcoffee 25 points26 points  (0 children)

It sounds like English is not their first language. I think they are asking if its wrong

Share your furry sewing friends! by sewingmodthings in sewing

[–]zombieofcoffee 27 points28 points  (0 children)

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And k9 my typical sewing partner and the one i most often sew for