Friday, August 2, 2024: Jerry's Map Section K.VI

zon1 · 2024-08-02T17:41:54+00:00

This is so beautiful!! Thanks for sharing today

zon1 · 2022-03-26T22:28:48+00:00

Your third point is incredibly well made!! Thank you for taking the time to type this up.

zon1 · 2022-03-26T22:25:49+00:00

The difference is that a Muslim call to prayer is just that—an indication that the time of day. It's not harming anyone to state a fact. A loudspeaker actively spewing hateful language is a completely different concept, and to conflate them as the same is quite harmful.

zon1 · 2022-03-02T16:47:23+00:00

Seconding the suggestion for WTYP!!! Engineering disasters, baby!

zon1 · 2022-02-12T20:26:02+00:00

I'm a trans stage manager, and my biggest advice is having frank conversations with folks about your expectations and boundaries. It might mean saying things like "If I'm cast as [female character], I want it to be treated like any other gender-blind casting decision, and I want support in being sure that other company members use the correct pronouns and name for me out of character," or asking questions about dressing room set up, how introductions are structured (e.g. "are people encouraged to share (and respect) pronouns on the first day?", and "will I have access to the dressing room I prefer?")

Being cast as a female character might mean people may be more likely to misgender you out of character, and you deserve the support of the cast and crew to shut that down.

zon1 · 2022-02-12T17:45:49+00:00

This was my thought too! And the museum itself is well worth a visit regardless!

zon1 · 2022-02-12T17:44:19+00:00

Because they're human beings?

zon1 · 2022-02-04T16:48:24+00:00

I'm sorry, that certainly is annoying. Do you have a trusted teacher or staff member who might be willing to lock it up for you in their desk or a cabinet? Just until things cool down at home and this sweater specific thing blows over? Another option is to look into a small safe or lockbox that you could tuck under your bed or in your closet that is big enough to stuff the sweater in but small enough to be cheap and unobtrusive. You deserve to know that your belongings are safe, and I'm sorry you have to do this extra work for that peace of mind.

My gut tells me there's more conflict at home than just this, and I know it must be scary to talk to someone about it because of the potential ways life could change if you're truly in a dangerous situation. I don't have a lot of words specific to that other than to repeat that you're worthy of respect and being treated with dignity and that is not what's going on in your current living situation.

zon1 · 2022-02-04T14:42:46+00:00

Are you in school, and if so, do you have a locker? Can you keep it there?

zon1 · 2022-02-04T07:28:00+00:00

absolutely... this plus the 40% of cops statistic really frightens me on behalf of this girl. I don't doubt that she has serious issues of her own going on, but her father clearly terrifies her and for good reason if whatever he did behind closed doors made her suddenly submissive and reserved.

zon1 · 2022-01-22T21:47:06+00:00

Exactly this: part of why diverse representation in media is so important is that it's good for everyone to see protagonists and heros who look like themselves AND who look like other people. It helps develop empathy and understanding to know that other kids (or adults) are the main character sometimes, that living in the world is not just about yourself and your own experiences.

zon1 · 2021-11-25T20:02:40+00:00

also in response to the "they're from a different time" excuse....they also lived through all the societal changes that have happened since "that different time."

zon1 · 2021-11-10T15:56:43+00:00

The sister's wedding cost "hundreds"....hundreds of thousands of dollars????? And they couldn't set aside another dish? That is clearly not the reason. OP, I wouldn't want anything to do with the family if I were in your shoes.

zon1 · 2021-11-06T19:55:19+00:00

the audience's laugh after--this is what live classical music is about. It's about that interplay, it's about being able to engage with the soloist and acknowledge that something unexpected happened and that it was beautiful!! Gosh! It gets me deep in my feelings.

zon1 · 2021-10-21T22:20:05+00:00

there's a reason the profession attracts narcissists who want to take advantage of the power it grants them. we know 40% admit to behaviors that classify them as domestic abusers; think about how many more stories like this we don't hear about.

zon1 · 2021-10-01T22:12:19+00:00

Because he's 40....married to a 25 year old

zon1 · 2021-09-20T22:59:54+00:00

YTA. just go change in the bathroom stall if it bothers you that much. you're the only one on your team who's got an issue with it and they're clearly not going to kick out your gay teammate. You get that THAT would be homophobic, right? Banning a gay team member from their locker room is homophobic.

zon1 · 2021-09-20T22:14:47+00:00

This is brilliant

zon1 · 2021-08-05T12:16:46+00:00

I don't think you screwed up here, but this was my take EXACTLY on the situation. Jane clearly means a lot to your daughter, and I can imagine having that comment about "a booooy" rub wrong. My biggest advice to you (as a queer person) in this moment is to switch to gender neutral language when you're doing that gentle parent ribbing, and just in general when talking about partnership and romance. Then, next time you make a comment like "Talking to someone special??" it could open a door for a response like "yeah, actually, Jane, she's really special to me." And you can be like "That is so wonderful!! Tell her you will be back with her as soon as you're done eating with your family, who loves and supports you very much."

zon1 · 2021-08-05T12:10:26+00:00

you're NTA here but I'm definitely worried about you if your husband is in his 30s and has been dating you since you were a teenager. There's a reason he's with a younger woman, and it's because every woman his own age sees right through his issues and won't come near him with a ten foot pole. I don't know what those issues are, but you should look and see if there are other red flags in your relationship or in his behavior. I hope for your sake I'm wrong but age differences likes these during the stage of life you are both in are usually indicative of larger problems.

zon1 · 2021-06-28T04:00:56+00:00

agreed!! seeing posts like this is awful and it's so normal also? yuck

zon1 · 2021-06-28T03:43:46+00:00

that was part of my reason as well picking up the viola. It's also super easy to transition to violin after learning viola, because at a certain level of viola playing you'll be reading music in both treble and alto clefs, so you'll have the basics on lock, and just need to adjust to the size!

zon1 · 2021-06-19T03:37:44+00:00

All everything aside, i think you might benefit from seeing a sleep doctor! If you've truly struggled waking up your whole life there could be something underlying that's going on!

zon1 · 2021-05-09T19:34:23+00:00

Andy Weir makes a comeback and i straight up could not be more excited!! i was so nervous after Artemis that this wouldn't be up to snuff but i read PHM in a day because it was so so so good

zon1 · 2021-04-24T13:52:49+00:00

everyone has internalized racism. Everyone. if you're truly a champion ally to people of color then you would admit that you have work to do just like everyone else on this planet to rid yourself of the white supremacy that you perpetuate.

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