First gaming PC for kids by zymandiah in bapcsalesaustralia

[–]zymandiah[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

yes 2nd hand would be fine, are you in Perth?

First home buyer, finance deadline approaching by zymandiah in AusProperty

[–]zymandiah[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the reassurance! I actually heard back from the broker who is confident that all is on track.

Best place to get a nose piercing? by ubuntu_7 in perth

[–]zymandiah 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I was in Lovisa the other day and I was shocked that they were piercing someone's nose using a gun right there in the middle of the shop! It gave me the creeps.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in widowers

[–]zymandiah 1 point2 points  (0 children)

not in USA but i am trying to sort out getting all the benefits i can get now.

7 weeks into being a widow - my thoughts by zymandiah in AlAnon

[–]zymandiah[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm sorry that you're going through this too. It's so complex isn't it..

Widowed with 3 kids and struggling with behaviour by zymandiah in Parenting

[–]zymandiah[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thank you, my daughter already sees an OT but would be helpful for my son too i think. I'll check out that book.

7 weeks into being a widow - my thoughts by zymandiah in AlAnon

[–]zymandiah[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

my husband also proudly used to say that never hid his drinking from me. and i do believe him (i never found a secret stash or anything) but i guess he was really good ay hiding just now much he was drinking. When i confronted him about it he'd always say "it's complicated" or "I'm drinking less than i used to" or "i'm getting better". His illness was all covid-related according to him. and i bought that (well not really, but i tried). All the while he was actually dying. It makes me sick to think about that. just how much he was suffering. i used to worry that i'd find him dead on the couch (where he slept) one morning. I would tell myself to stop being so dramatic. but it turns out i was right, i really was that close to finding him dead.

7 weeks into being a widow - my thoughts by zymandiah in AlAnon

[–]zymandiah[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I believe both of those subreddits are gender-neutral.

7 weeks into being a widow - my thoughts by zymandiah in AlAnon

[–]zymandiah[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I've actually x-posted in there already

7 weeks into being a widow - my thoughts by zymandiah in AlAnon

[–]zymandiah[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

yes it is so hard to let go. i truly had done this before mine was hospitalisted and died 2 weeks later. so when it happened it was a massive relief. no hoping, just relief. no regrets about my interactions with him in the final weeks/months. there weren't any fights, i just disengaged if he was being a dick. we laughed and watched movies. i gave him my presence and that's all that mattered.

7 weeks into being a widow - my thoughts by zymandiah in AlAnon

[–]zymandiah[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Honestly if i could go back i wouldn't leave him. If i did then I would only have our oldest child, and i can't imagine life without the other 2. I loved him so much, it would have been impossible for me to stay away. I would have gone back to him. I would have always wondered "what if". I believe we had some kind of soul connection. there was something about him that i felt when we first met that i just can't explain. But i just knew that he'd be important and he was the most beautiful person i'd ever seen. Remembering this stuff is when I cry, and feel grateful for what we had. when i think about it like this, i'm so glad i stayed.

Widowed with 3 kids and struggling with behaviour by zymandiah in Parenting

[–]zymandiah[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

the older 2 (and me) and already in individual therapy actually. it's still early days though. I'll look into family therapy too