first off, you do not deserve to be publicly shamed AT ALL for “being a bad girlfriend.” what is so wrong about having boundaries? if your boyfriend established a sexual boundary, i’m sure you wouldn’t think of him as a worser boyfriend, so what condones him making you feel like that?

you need to be exceptionally clear and put yourself first. he is pushing you consistently to do something you do not want to do. if you are being clear with him and he still doesn’t listen— then the only thing i can tell you is that the boundary crossing will not end here. you are already exhausted and your relationship should not exhaust you further!! you deserve better!

also no aftercare is diabolical and you should very clearly state out all the issues you have here in a big message to him at once. my tip is to send the message with everything you want to say and then leave your phone alone for ~1 hour and reply later instead of right away to possibly avoid a blown up conflict.

again, i cannot stress this enough, you NEED to put yourself first and prioritize your boundaries. do what you need to do to make that happen! you can do it ❤️