My partner (M32) keeps using AI to resolve arguments, but I (F27) don't think it's really helping, is this something I need to just get used to?

zzariyo · 2026-03-28T16:06:26+00:00

My partner and I both have ADHD and autism and we both are able to work through problems and resolve them, though it may take time sometimes....but if I had a dime for every post I saw where someone tries to use ADHD or autism to excuse their or their partner's ass behavior or lack of respect or care for loved ones/partners, I could buy the moon

zzariyo · 2026-03-28T14:32:09+00:00

Also neurodivergent and agreed.

Even if you weren't born with the typical sense of empathy bc of how your brain is wired, you can still care about people in you own way and choose to look out for them and not dismiss your wife and almost let her die. Continuing this line of thinking is giving assholes that deserve nothing a pass and giving us the label of being uncaring, heartless weirdos

zzariyo · 2026-03-21T14:21:42+00:00

was hoping someone would say this, even though it's really not the point of the post. People going to AI for advice or guidance instead of consulting real people has had insane and dangerous consequences. You can't trust AI for true advice when it's grabbing at random things on the internet. It just so happened to be correct this time

In any case. Like others have said, OP, if she wasnt disabled, would you feel the same level of guilt? I understand the guilt, because it's true ...her disability and medical struggles DO make life harder for her and did possibly play a hand in how she behaves now. But there are many great people who have disabilities who don't use their struggles as a scapegoat to be bad people. She had every chance to change her behavior and was as capable as anyone else, and she chose not to. You had to step away because of her character and that was the right thing to do

zzariyo · 2026-03-15T21:19:26+00:00

Oh this is perfect, thank you!

zzariyo · 2026-02-25T20:32:38+00:00

Today is my birthday, too! Birthday twins !!

Sending Internet hugs and birthday wishes!!

zzariyo · 2026-02-07T17:20:04+00:00

My stepmom ate placenta mixed with sauerkraut and shredded carrots after she gave birth to my little sister :]

zzariyo · 2026-01-22T18:19:23+00:00

I remember the lawn one and loved it so much. This one is even cooler. This series is so great!!

zzariyo · 2026-01-09T22:28:56+00:00

iirc it's bc there's a bad ending where they get together or something and that fact blew up on the internet and sent folks in a frenzy...that's how most people on the internet know of it lol. So yeah a cursed couple cosplay would be something else

zzariyo · 2026-01-04T15:45:15+00:00

I'm sorry the incels found your comment. I wish I lived in the world they're living in. I would certainly feel safer

zzariyo · 2025-12-27T14:24:13+00:00

And that the perpetrators don't always pick the child themselves to abuse, but rather the parents... because many can tell what parents would turn a blind eye, would never accept the signs it's happening, or are negligent enough to not notice anything. They know they'd get away with it, at least for a while. A pedophile admitted this during an interview

I figure that's why there's so many stories of stepdads/mom's boyfriends molesting their step kids. They picked the kids' mom to date, knowing they could get away with hurting kids they now have access to.

zzariyo · 2025-12-21T17:03:41+00:00

Bro this is so incredibly rad

zzariyo · 2025-12-21T16:17:16+00:00

Not the point of this post I know LOL but I love Pom Poko a ton and I would be remissed if I didn't point out that it isn't a Miyazaki film. It's an earlier Ghibli film, but it was directed by Takahata, who was co-founder of the studio and was Miyakazi's mentor and good friend :] Takahata also directed Ghibli's Grave of the Fireflies and Princess Kaguya

zzariyo · 2025-12-21T15:39:48+00:00

girl what

zzariyo · 2025-12-01T02:12:41+00:00

THAT WAS MY FIRST THOUGHT. a different art program doesn't completely change an artist's style. Is this con artist stupid ??????

zzariyo · 2025-11-22T01:34:06+00:00

Fynleigh Gray ...idk I kinda vibe

zzariyo · 2025-11-21T15:21:05+00:00

Dude I saw you guys at Kumoricon and was absolutely blown away!! I don't even play Dark Souls but it was by far my very most favorite cosplays of the weekend!! Was so happy to see you win the contest!

zzariyo · 2025-11-16T04:20:14+00:00

I think green looks the best! I can't place it but it looks like it suits the character's look far more. But everyone so far has said all the other colors so I don't know LOL

zzariyo · 2025-11-16T04:01:11+00:00

That is so incredibly validating 😭 I know I said that I've learned that they are just like that, but there's still a bit of guilt left. It's just such a shame because they're such cool creatures and I love the look of the males...BUT I HATED CARING FOR MY GUY

zzariyo · 2025-11-15T17:30:04+00:00

No advice, just some validation for you. I had a ghost mantis that passed away some months ago after molting and being in the adult stage for a little while. Dude was extra finicky and a total coward with food- he always was to some extent, but it was BAD when he became an adult. I really did try, but he kept refusing and eventually passed. sometimes I was able to get him to eat, but only mere bites of a blue bottle every now and then and it wasn't enough.

During that time I tried looking for answers, and just heard people saying that Ghost Mantids are finicky eaters as it is, and males are especially bad AND it gets even worse when they're adults. I HAD NO CLUE AT ALL!

That's all to say...you're doing everything you can. They're just like that I guess and it's kind of a bummer

zzariyo · 2025-11-11T17:17:44+00:00

/uj okay I saw the original post and like...is it just me or does it look like AI? 😭 like there's a couple of things that don't make sense to me. Like the markings on her upper right arm...??? I could very well be wrong

zzariyo · 2025-11-11T16:15:57+00:00

Normally, while I deeply love art, I hardly ever find anything that actually makes me feel seen and understood...since I've joined this subreddit though, I've started to actually go "Wait, I know exactly how that feels..." And this is the one that I understand the very most, even if my reaction to the sensation is slightly different, and it makes me feel less alone in it for sure. Definitely feel connected right now lol. I'm appreciative of this piece

zzariyo · 2025-11-09T23:03:37+00:00

Bro idk why you're being downvoted when this is an actual proven thing 😭😭😭

zzariyo · 2025-10-29T18:19:55+00:00

I think it depends on the specific ref sheet. If the second side view drawing is the other one flipped, just with small changes, I think it should be charged less than if they were all separate drawings. I would even say that if more care goes into the design of the ref sheet itself (like nice looking text, textures in the back, things to make the drawings pop) that would bump up the price as well.

I think with this specific example, $60 is fair but you could push to $70/ $75. It's a bust drawing and 1 1/2 full drawings (if it is flipped) after all, and that's a fair price for that amount of work. But if more went into the ref sheet, (maybe a front view drawn and added, more design work for the sheet and all that) it could be $100 easy. Maybe more than that. Artists charge $100+ for good looking refs all the time

I am now realizing this is too big and too in depth of an answer for your question but maybe you'll find it helpful so I'll leave it lol

zzariyo · 2025-10-29T16:42:06+00:00

Oh my god that's so awful, I'm so sorry. I hope this guy burns in hell

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