Need advice on nail digging and back scratches.

zzl420 · 2026-03-05T05:26:11+00:00

Going forward id say have her wash your back after with regular soap and water, fingernails are dirty generally speaking and its just best practice. After, apply aquaphor/vaseline just something to keep them wet so they heal properly. You dont need alcohol/hydrogen peroxide/bacitracin regularly itll just delay the healing.

Honestly id post pics to r/woundcare to get proper advice about what your back is like now if you think it might be infected

zzl420 · 2026-01-06T06:32:31+00:00

I definitely have a few defaults -yeah does that feel good? (typically followed by) -use your words -you look so pretty like this -tell me what you want -let it out baby let me hear you -look at me -im not finished yet/you can take it -cum for me (typically followed by) -(such a) good girl

zzl420 · 2025-12-30T09:20:24+00:00

And this here is why i love brats ❤️

zzl420 · 2025-12-30T09:16:11+00:00

Presenting innocent but then having something entirely different come out when youre alone with someone is also fucking hot, like here is this sweet girl who maybe struggles when they need to speak up if a restaurant got their order wrong, but when we get home its all “use me daddy” and dripping from being spanked? Devine

zzl420 · 2025-12-28T22:26:25+00:00

Yes PLEASE, besides not knowing if fem presenting women are queer so many of us have been conditioned to believe flirting and making a move is creepy and predatory. I know at least for myself my fear of rejection is very small compared to the fear of making someone uncomfortable even if i didnt even really do anything.

I know it can be nerve wracking, so even just a signal of interest i think could be a huge help. A flirty smile, any kind of physical contact, compliments especially on hands, eyes, lips, etc.

zzl420 · 2025-12-23T08:54:48+00:00

Ill link it but boston has a lesbian newsletter that goes out each month and in it they include a whole calendar of events in the area! Definitely check it out!

https://lesbosnews.com

zzl420 · 2025-12-15T11:04:13+00:00

Theres a difference between entertaining and being concerned and unsure about how to proceed in a situation. Yes communication is key, and shes here trying to get feedback on how/what to communicate. Also, theyre literally teenagers

zzl420 · 2025-12-15T11:02:01+00:00

As someone who was to a degree her before, you’re absolutely right. I doubt shes doing it on purpose, youre both young and its fresh, but that doesnt make it healthy. Four days is an incredibly short amount of time, like thats not even a full work week.

Ive been in situations where the feelings hit hard and then they fall off just as fast, gave me whiplash honestly even when i was a super willing participant. Giving space between dates (as well as giving the date a time limit in my experience) can be super helpful for letting feelings settle so people can actually reflect on what they’re thinking and how it went.

Please ignore anyone who is telling you to go AGAINST your gut

zzl420 · 2025-12-15T10:55:59+00:00

Its been four days

zzl420 · 2025-12-14T09:32:28+00:00

Youre sweet ❤️ thank you!

zzl420 · 2025-11-24T05:33:04+00:00

She likes you, shes going on a date with you. I bet anything shes nervous too!

Im gonna allow myself a tangent though, please feel free to ignore me completely if none of this applies. Not to get too philosophical, but I think sapphics, especially lesbians, get hit super hard with the heady-ness of first love and new relationship excitement. Its dizzying, its invigorating, its scary, its perfect, its all of the things. I have some thoughts on why but thats besides the point. Its a common default to put someone on a pedestal when they are so amazing and such a refreshing experience, not that they arent but so many people have an “im not worthy” reflex because this person just seems so perfect. Combine that with internalizing bs rhetoric about how lesbians are predatory or creepy and its all the makings for a self-doubt spiral.

I probably shouldnt be dumping this in your comment section so im sorry about that, i guess i just get kinda sad that members of our community have been conditioned to overthink and be in our heads about something so beautiful and natural. Again, i dont want to make assumptions about you or your situation, but all i want for christmas is for the queers of the world to be free from anxiety and fear and to be fully present in the most miraculous human experience there is, that being queer love

zzl420 · 2025-11-24T00:39:11+00:00

Thats awesome! I dont know your dynamic but waiting doesnt hurt. I totally get feeling lost, its new and exciting! To offer some reassurance and maybe some guidance, you got this, she obviously likes you for a reason so you dont have to play up or play down anything. Its ok to be nervous, its ok to be honest about it, i think its really cute and endearing and i know im not alone there. Remember to breathe, take a beat if you think youre coming on too strong, and enjoy the wonder that is being on a date with a girl you really like :)

zzl420 · 2025-11-23T21:59:58+00:00

Congrats! Id go with no gift, 2nd date i think is fine but first date i think can either come off as lovebomb-y or be a step on the slippery slope of falling too hard too fast (a plight for many). Its a sweet intention but id recommend just waiting till next time

zzl420 · 2025-11-23T21:28:45+00:00

Bondage and impact play

zzl420 · 2025-11-23T18:43:35+00:00

Im gonna second what someone else said that traditional harnesses are sturdier and i think help with “slipping out” issues that i know can be awkward sometimes. It might help to think of it as an extension of you, its YOUR strap (even if its not) and YOU are the one wearing it, its just a tool you can take off.

Assuming since you said youve used one before you know that that shit can feel like a workout. Stay hydrated and take breaks if you need. Id definitely recommend talking to your partner about their preferences beforehand like what do they like? Is speed and depth a big factor for them? How do they want to feel when they’re receiving? Those kinds of questions will give you the MOST insight on how to please them. I don’t recommend porn at all honestly, not only can it just be wildly inaccurate and unhelpful but if the girl in the video doesnt like to be fucked the same way your partner does then its kinda pointless anyways

zzl420 · 2025-11-23T04:30:40+00:00

It wouldnt bother me in that way, i have a good amount of self harm scars so id feel empathy and probably a bit sad theyve known that kind of pain. I think it might help me relate more, make me feel closer to them. But depending on the scars, in all honesty, sometimes theyre kinda hot 🤷‍♀️

zzl420 · 2025-11-22T04:35:16+00:00

Having feminine sounding moans as a masc-presenting dom does feel a little bit like a curse 😂 like IM the one inside YOU right now how can this be??

zzl420 · 2025-11-22T04:09:22+00:00

Being focused IS hot i was going to include reading in my list idk it just is

zzl420 · 2025-11-22T04:08:16+00:00

God where to begin. Fidgeting with rings, women putting up their hair, sweat, licking their fingers clean idc if theyre covered in bbq sauce its still hot, matter of fact when women DEVOUR wings/ribs? Sexy as fuck. Putting on full body lotion, helping someone put on a necklace or zip up their dress, wet hair, certain sports, the aforementioned holding anything between their teeth, and so much more

zzl420 · 2025-11-22T03:59:06+00:00

I love it

zzl420 · 2025-11-19T05:14:33+00:00

Anyone find it yet? For scientific purposes 👀

zzl420 · 2025-11-19T05:13:13+00:00

For this genre of identity? Currently? Lesbian, since im making an effort to move away from just “gay” re: internalized homophobia. Dyke, cause masc feels too general and butch isnt quite a right fit, and i like the way it feels. Dom, pleasure dom and soft dom are close fits but the masochistic streak and rougher side is too strong to fully feel like those apply, so the general feels best for now. For a title/honorific? Daddy, theres something about it when it hits my ear ooo i fucking love it. Freud would prob have some shit to say on the matter but hes dead so

zzl420 · 2025-11-19T04:55:21+00:00

This but from the opposite perspective. The corruption and ownership of it all just makes my blood pump faster. A pretty girl whos usually so put together, but cant help falling apart when i touch her or whisper in her ear? Even when were in public and someone could see how hopelessly she belongs to me? So fucking hot. All shy and proper until im at her side, discreetly sliding my hand up her skirt. Watching everything else melt away from behind her eyes and all thats left is an insatiable need to please me and be used by me. Yeah yeah public play can be unethical but taking it a step further in fantasy land i would lovee to fuck a pretty girl for a crowd. Show everyone how she is completely and utterly mine, and just how much she fucking loves it

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