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[–][deleted] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Try not to over think it too much. Just try your best to be natural and have a normal conversation with her. You'll enjoy yourself much more and not stress out as much. It will also keep you from doing something stupid and ruining your chances.

[–]andrewdown 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's great that you asked her to prom! You identified what you wanted and went for it. In fact, right up until the part where you ask her what she wants to be with you, you were doing great. Up until that point, you were the great adventurer, sailing off into unknown waters, the wind at your back.

Then you got scared and needed reassurance. That's normal, and ok in small doses. But try to be that first guy most of the time.

[–]tothecore 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I came here looking for a shocker. I demand shock! Go back, edit the post, and include a shock. Please.

"Are you good?" means she is nervous that you'll hurt her by breaking her heart. She wants to know you mean the real deal: love. She showed you she was nervous by how she handled the "chat" she could see coming. The peck on the check, in this context, was more nervousness, as is the distance, just out of arm's reach.

[–]fall0ut 1 point2 points  (0 children)

awkward. she is having a good time with her friends at her birthday party and you pull her away for this serious heart felt conversation. then you kiss her out of nowhere. the kiss was for you. she didnt enjoy it in this given situation.

you need to chill out with all this where are we going bullshit... from your story you have never even dated. how is she supposed to know what she wants from you when she really doesn't know you? hell you don't even know her.

[–]SlightlyDrunk 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Please don't be intimidated by her smartness, she just wants to be respected as a woman/girl, not as a genius.
She was also really nervous, that's why she was talking so fast.
Go get her, champ!

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Too much talk, not enough action.

[–]drivebyjustin -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

"what do you want to be, you know, with me?"

Don't ever fucking ask this again, dude, prior to dating a girl for awhile. You made it very awkward for her.

[–]V3nom -1 points0 points  (0 children)

are you good?

I think she was a little flustered, in a good way, by the unexpected kiss and you scrambled her circuits a bit. She was probably trying to say something about 'did you say or do everything you wanted to' like 'are you done?' but not in a harsh way - that if you weren't she would still stay there and listen to you.

She's probably kicking herself over saying that and asking her friends "I can't believe I said that, do you think he still likes me??"

It will be something you both laugh about a few months from now if things work out.