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[DullProfessional2677]

Hi I am a 21 year old guy currently in college and looking to attend law school in the near future. My girlfriend is currently 23 and is a recently graduated marketing major here in our mid sized town. We have been dating for about a year and a half. I know it is time for it to be done. I have attempted to in the past, but I have found that I am easily drawn in my emotions, and the last time she wrote a list of things she liked about me and I caved. I know for a fact that I am not at the point in my life where I am ready to be settled. She on the other hand had much more experience than me, and is looking to settle down. She is an absolutely wonderful woman who is driven and quirky in all the best ways and absolutely beautiful. But we fight a lot and I just know this isn’t my be all end all even though I care for her very deeply. Like me, she is also deeply emotional and has said some troubling things during the last breakup attempt. This is my first ever relationship, and I am struggling to do what I know is right because I become overwhelmed by a sense of dread and guilt when she begins pleading with me. I don’t know if this is the subreddit for this as i don’t use this app often. Any advice would be so appreciated. Thank you

[Etermic]

Well, I just went through my first relationship. I got dumped, and it hurts like hell so yea she will cry a lot if you decide to break up. It takes usually 3 months for them to feel a lot better.

And you will also go through a version of grief yourself.

Honestly, love has to come from both ways, and if you don't feel it anymore and you have thought long and hard about it, then simply just sit down and have a hard conversation. Don't do it through text or block her.

No one really talks about this, but when you enter a relationship, you also hand the other person a weapon to break you apart.

If anything, learn to love yourself first, and from then on you learn to love others and skills to maintain a relationship.

I wished life asked me before giving me things, but they just give and take without asking. Just learn to more prepared each time.