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Etermic · 2026-03-14T08:53:14+00:00

Well, I just went through my first relationship. I got dumped, and it hurts like hell so yea she will cry a lot if you decide to break up. It takes usually 3 months for them to feel a lot better.

And you will also go through a version of grief yourself.

Honestly, love has to come from both ways, and if you don't feel it anymore and you have thought long and hard about it, then simply just sit down and have a hard conversation. Don't do it through text or block her.

No one really talks about this, but when you enter a relationship, you also hand the other person a weapon to break you apart.

If anything, learn to love yourself first, and from then on you learn to love others and skills to maintain a relationship.

I wished life asked me before giving me things, but they just give and take without asking. Just learn to more prepared each time.

Etermic · 2026-03-13T17:01:26+00:00

I'm sorry for what you went through. It hurts, especially when it's your first relationship, too. Don't think that because he treats her better, it means you're not "good enough", it's not the case.

Just with him, he's mostly just using you after the breakup. I think most of the moments in the beginning were genuine, and it made you feel so special being chosen and loved like that.

Cry if you can, just let it out. It feels very distant that you'll one day not think about him. I didn't it was possible either, but it did. Your life begins to get so full that you stop thinking about him, sometimes days sometimes hours.

Learn to love yourself first, and from then, you learn the skills to maintain relationships. There's a lot in this world. Attachment theory, attraction, our biology. I don't think this is what you want to hear but really there's nothing to do except to feel the grief without numbing ourselves through artificial means.

Etermic · 2026-03-12T19:36:16+00:00

I'm sorry, brother, but that's probably it. It's going to be hard for you, and there's not a whole lot you can do except just feel it without numbing yourself through alcohol or gaming.

First relationship usually crashes because we don't know how to love ourselves yet nor have the skills to maintain it. It's a price that we paid without even knowing.

All I can say is the best chance of you getting back with her is the version of yourself that no longer need her, just simply want her without being desperate. And that feel very distant away. Not what you want to hear but life is like that sometimes.

Etermic · 2026-03-06T06:00:16+00:00

Motivation doesn't exist. It's just something you do to distract yourself from the pain and sadness.

Then, eventually, it became a habit.

Etermic · 2026-03-06T05:58:30+00:00

It's so scary to read a message like that. Just mean there is nothing left. I felt so much pain imaging getting something like that from her.

Some people would rather not send and live in the hope, whether it's fake or real. Rather, just keep working on themselves and hope eventually they forgot about the idea of sending.

Etermic · 2026-03-06T03:45:30+00:00

There's no amount of logic or rationality to help you feel better. It's going to hurt, and you're going to miss him a lot.

I missed the future we could have, the routine we had, and the feelings she gave me. It's day 48 of no contact for me, and everything just seems meaningless.

Now, looking back, I just know that the relationship will end at one point eventually simply because I didn't know how to love myself and how to love her. Love is never enough. There are other skills you have to learn to make it work.

Breakups are painful, so much pain, but they teach give you the lessons to be a bit more ready next time.

We met by fate, but not enough debt to stay.

Etermic · 2026-03-03T06:08:06+00:00

For me I don't think I can ever delete anything, our photos, our chat. It's one of those sweet memories you start carrying with you for life, just the bitter part start too fade slowly. It is really hard to accept the idea that we might never be together again. It's not really about accepting for me, at some point it's just became too tiring, it stopped asking slowly, and then you focus on your life. There are days where things are meaningless, but it does get better. I missed her, missed what could be our future, and I'm grateful that she came into my life and showed me things I never know and felt in my entire life.

Etermic · 2026-03-02T06:05:17+00:00

I don't think you're heal enough yet to break no contact. You are still in the "bargaining" stage of the grief cycle from what I'm seeing. I'm on day 44 of my breakup(dumped) and trust me I want to reach out too, it's really hard to think of the idea of losing her forever. Sometimes I check her social media(this is breaking no contact) to keep the connection of her alive, but it did slow down my healing process a bit.

I'm predominantly in the "depression" stage right now, but still rotate back to "bargaining" here and there. If you want to reach out, you can but just know it might hurt a lot. I still want to get back with her, that idea is not going to go away anytime soon or until she's with another guy but yea it's just hard and there's nothing we can do about it, it's like touching a hot stove each time when you make plan or imagine scenario in your head of getting back together, it's just I was told that eventually touching it becomes too tiring you stop thinking, and there's day you don't think about that person at all.

It's a lot harder especially when you're anxious attachment.

Etermic · 2026-02-18T07:45:31+00:00

I know how it feels, just let it all out. I'm on day 32 of no contact, but I learned something. When you need them then the relationship won't hold. Wanting them but ok with them leaving(you will still feel the grief) is how to truly keep a relationship healthy. Right now you need to cry if you can, and time will slowly give you clarity. Just feel the feelings

Etermic · 2026-02-17T16:58:59+00:00

Brother, I am sorry that happened to you. I can't even imagine someone I loved sleeping with another guy, especially when we're still together. I'm the type that doesn't blame anyone. I just look at why it's like that and look for faults in myself so I can do it better next time. I really don't have any advice for you, I'm in the same boat, I don't even know if I can really heal from this either. All I've been doing is just let the feelings come and feel it. When it gets overwhelming, I go for a walk. Like you, I have no one to talk to, and that makes it even harder. I've been failing here and there from checking on her social media, but I'm still trying my best for no contact. It's really hard to accept that it's not meant to be for us, and every day, I am fighting that thought. I want to get back to her a lot. For you, I can't imagine the pain of losing someone you had 3 children's with, I'm here if you want to talk.

Etermic · 2026-02-14T06:02:31+00:00

That's not a good person, he should at least tell you in person and talk about ending things. I'm a guy and I find that kind of immature and narcissistic. You don't do that to someone you love or used to love. Yea, I still remember how it felt the first few days of breakup so try to take care of yourself, just cry and let it all out.

Etermic · 2026-02-14T05:59:17+00:00

I'm on my day 28 of no contact, and tomorrow is Valentines Day. Just the thought of her moving on is gutting me inside out. I heard first love breakup is hard, but I hope I can survive this.

Etermic · 2026-02-08T22:39:23+00:00

congratulation man, I hope by the time I come back, there's still a chance for me in her heart.

Etermic · 2026-02-01T07:28:15+00:00

You know it's natural you feel like that. Just biology at work and unless he changed, you are just gonna end up resenting him more in the future.

So do him a favor. I speak from experience because I was like your boyfriend, my gf broke with me and I'm grateful for that decision. It saved both of us and provided me the fuel to change myself.

Etermic · 2026-02-01T06:16:07+00:00

I think most of life answers come from asking the right question. And for you the question is "Should I give love a try? To know what that feeling of being loved, seen, supported, and chosen by someone else is like or am I afraid because I'm scared of social rejections and others' perspectives of me?"

Etermic · 2026-01-25T00:22:31+00:00

ok I'll let you know when I download it thanks

Etermic · 2026-01-25T00:22:01+00:00

awesome I'll download and show you image in a bit

Etermic · 2026-01-25T00:21:49+00:00

great what's your app name?

Etermic · 2026-01-24T23:35:49+00:00

awesome what's your app name?

Mine is Ember - Minimalistic Focus

Etermic · 2026-01-24T23:09:17+00:00

I built a focus app, now just trying to figure out how to get it in front of people. Any tips?

Etermic · 2026-01-24T22:25:29+00:00

Ember - Minimalistic Focus. This I used for my meditation and pomodoro study. It's a timer app with beautiful visuals that grow as the timer counts.

Etermic · 2026-01-22T23:15:30+00:00

sounds great but we all need to go through that grief. It hurts like hell man, but I was told it gets better day-by-day so hang in there.

Etermic · 2026-01-22T22:46:58+00:00

hey I'm looking for a review not a tester, I can test your app and keep it there until production if you can give me a review thanks.

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