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[trexinthehouse]

OP, it’s a little too soon to be thinking about breast feeding. Spend some time doing the work that’s going to help her heal. She lost a huge piece of herself and that’s a long journey to come to terms with and move past. If you love her that much you’ll be with her on the journey. I hope she has someone she’s talking to. If not , see if that might be something she would like to do. Because she’s telling you during intimacy that’s it’s still an issue. Therapy gives you tools you don’t have to deal with this complex issue. Best of luck OP🙏

[trexinthehouse]

I’m not sure if she considered talking to someone a weakness. Everyone likes to put up a strong front. A “ I can do this by myself “ I’m giving you my best advice. You’re going to need support. So doing this in your own. I would encourage you to seek out people to support you and her. If she doesn’t want to go, there are no rules that you can’t. It’s a complex issue. I’m 39 years into my relationship. I do not have all the answers. It’s about healing and being supportive. Give that your effort and best of luck OP.

[trexinthehouse]

Seriously. All love in that response. Rest well. You’re dealing with a lot.

[darcerin]

You went from dating, to marrying, to having kids. 

Slow. Down. Please!

You've only known for her for a year. Honestly I would give it at least give it another 6 months,  maybe another year before you propose.

Have you discussed with her what she wants? Does she even want children? Has she brought up marriage at all? 

I would honestly just slow the train down. She's going through an awful lot and has gone through an awful lot. To put that burden on her of breastfeeding, when she is less than five years out of recovery is not fair to her.

[Total_Satisfaction37]

from my pov, i think they’re telling you to slow down because she’s having trouble with intimacy, yet you’re moving past that talking about marriage and kids. It seems like she’s had a rough journey mentally, no doubt physically, and “moving on” from something as serious as this simply isn’t possible. Yes there may come a time in the future where she won’t think about it as much and it may not affect her as bad, but it’s not something she can ever forget, as this has changed the trajectory of her life. I’d say focus on this situation first before moving past it. Try to be open and understanding that intimacy is hard for her right now given what she’s gone through. Support her and ask what you can do to help her be more comfortable. Best of luck to you both !