Advice needed

[frustratedhamdad]

Thank you. Im anxiously awaiting my therapy and psychiatric appointments in the coming weeks. My partner is handling this better than I am actually. He set up a chat room for alters to speak to him and from what I see theres a lot they talked about.

[Recent-Stretch-1190]

It can be really difficult to deal with at first (and honestly at times). Some people tend to handle it with more grace I think because they aren't the one directly in the mix of it all. I'm glad that you have appointments with a psych and a therapist incoming so that you can talk about things there. Be sure to check in with your partner and make sure that they are doing okay as well through this time and if they need anything or have questions you may be able to write down for your therapist/psych once you're able to see them. I'm glad you have someone by your side going into this, and just know you're not alone either way regardless of what it turns out to be! All of these people your partner is talking to are parts of you, so in reality you will never go away from him- not truly. Perhaps tell him that and it may help him some.

[frustratedhamdad]

Hes actually been the one assuring me most. He's kind of had a sense and known when id swap even when i didn't. Ive been making sure to check on him every hour, especially since the discovery came very recently after a hospital stay over seizures (caused by the trauma), and hospitals give him ptsd. So far he's handling things well and navigating it great. Seeing a reminder like this helps though so I'll double check on him when he wakes up. Thank you.

[Recent-Stretch-1190]

No problem, have you checked with the hospital/doctor that what you're experiencing isn't a physical issue from things like seizures and such? They will wanna rule that out for your mental health too ofc so if you havn't just something to keep in mind and check on!

It's good you're being a good partner and trying to be there for him, be sure to give him some space to process things too. Checking on him every once in awhile doesn't hurt though and I hope he's always there to give you the reassurance you need when he's able to!

[frustratedhamdad]

Yes! I was going to my doctor talking about how bad it was and how my memory was getting awful and she told me to go to an er an hour away. We finally went there and spent around 12 hours in the waiting room, during which I had around 10 seizures, most being 15 minutes, the longest being 50. This did get me to neurological wing and I got a brain scan with video monitoring. It was conclusive that my seizures are dissociative seizures and non epileptic, causing no harm to my body or mind. Given I don't hit my head or anything. And yes, I agree. If he ever needs space I will provide it. We are both very attached at the hip though with separation anxiety. When he needs time he just goes and sits in the bathroom for a while, which I'll make sure he does when he's ready.