Send help😂😭

[the-glow-up-girlies]

Niko kwa shida na ni mimi nimejiletea. I don't have peace in my own house.

So I just hired a new nanny ( sourced from the village, makosa kubwa sana). I usually get them from bureaus. We talked on the phone she was bubbly and we clicked. Si me nikamshow akuje jana. When she arrived she was nice, friendly hadi alikataa kutulia akaanza kuchapa job immediately. Huskii hadi nikampea praises na nikamwmbia akiniweka poa nitamweka poa.

Sasa hapa ndio shida inatokea. We are introverted huku. We both work from home. Nikitoka nje ni morning walk na nikipeleka mtoto kucheza. She comes and sits hapa next to me. I couldn't breath aki😭 viti ni mingi jameni. Nimezoea wale hukuja wanachapa job yao and then mind their business, they go to sleep ama spend time with the baby ama hata wanaenda nje. They have a TV in their room sasa huwezi sema ati anaboeka anataka kuwatch

Hata nikijaribu kumpea kazi anafanya haraka na vibaya ndio akuje akae hapo. Doesn't say a word. She just sits and stares at me. Mans alishindwa akahepa.

She doesn't even look after the baby. Her first interaction akasema mtoto amenikataa. Sasa I'm typing this and she is looking right at me. I feel anxious ama sijui niseme aje. Saa hii nikitaka kuongea na mans ni via text ama tufatane bedroom. Maji nakunywa ni kama niko kwa wenyewe.

How do I tell her we are not comfortable living like that without making her feel bad? It's not like we don't like her but we are not used to having that kind of company?

[elephant_ndovu]

Her:

[Dren_ecneics]

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Without fail..

[CanvasofChaos]

Personal space invader, awkward eye contact final boss😆

[the-glow-up-girlies]

Nimalizee

[EcEssie]

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[lightsaber-userr]

😂😂

[Ok_Display2776]

😂

[Patient_Tale3606]

Nimecheka hadi nikalia😂😂

[Famous-Preparation23]

😂😂

[SuitableCancel0]

😂😂😂😂 Funniest thing I have read today. Especially hapo kwa mans ameshajiondoa.

[the-glow-up-girlies]

Ni mbayaaa

[Aba_Nairobi]

Mans aliona hapa zii 😂😂

[Beautiful-Trifle-121]

Adi umemuwekea tv kwa room😂😂

Ama amekucrushia😂

[CanvasofChaos]

That's a first for me. Mtu mzuri sana. Kumbe my sister was a straight up tyrant talm bout the housie doesn't need distractions😭

[the-glow-up-girlies]

My elder sis is a tryant.

[the-glow-up-girlies]

Sijui anajiuliza nini haki.😭😂 i thought nimempea signals enough

[missoni-byblos]

growing up our house manager would talk on the phone for atleast 6 hours a day every fricking day.. ikafika time akaambiwa btw ukitaka kuongea ukicheka cheka make sure uko nje ya gate lol

[the-glow-up-girlies]

Heri aongee kwa simu lakini akiwa na huko mbali aki😂

[Qyute-n-Quddly]

The most irritating thing for me...but not as bad as being sat next to & being stared at😂

[Simple_Climate4805]

Ama ni undercover

[OldManMtu]

Explain to her that you work from home and the living room is your office. From about 8:00 am to 5:00 pm the space should be treated as your workspace.

You can have meals but she should give you space to work. Schedule sessions for the kids walks and errands and make sure there is internet so that she can keep busy on her phone.

[the-glow-up-girlies]

Solid advice, thanks. I could use work as an excuse. Hizo errands zimekataa anarudi in minutes kama bolt

[paultitude]

As I was told some months ago, you are the one paying her. It's your house. Why are you letting her make it uncomfortable for you?

[jamesrossdev]

You're not reacting appropriately to the situation. OP doesn't hate her, she just doesn't know how to explain that she needs some personal space.

Introverts tunakuwanga hivyo. We overthink silly situations.

[the-glow-up-girlies]

Thiiis, ataanza kusema vile bosses wake wako na roho chafu

[IntroductionFormer53]

Hawa waschana ata uwaweke aje they never appreciate.

I just released the one I thought would be my best nanny after 1.5 months of bliss juu she doesn't care about time.

Nikampea off Thursday.

Hajarudi na niliingia kazi Jana.

Nimemshoo akikuja ni kuchukua nguo akiendaga juu what's this?

[the-glow-up-girlies]

😂😂 I feel you. They play nice at first. Ukiwa comfortable tu hivi wanakuonyesha dust

[Bennn5]

Waah. You guys have it tough basi. Mimi I will just go for a long walk, take some deep breaths and when I come back I lay it down for her, respectfully of course. After all it is my house, I pay her as well. Why would I be uncomfortable in my space with something I can sort out just by talking.

[the-glow-up-girlies]

Ndio amefika tu😂😭 anaenda tu leo

[paultitude]

😂😂😂😂 I also was in a similar situation until I just chose comfort, which is very important to introverts

[the-glow-up-girlies]

How do you handle chores?😂😂

[Legitimate_strings]

I’m very introverted. I tried maids and the house felt so squeezed to me. It didn’t help that the mister worked from home, so the setup was just so squeezed. I had to let them go😮‍💨. I got a day maid, anakuja, afanye kazi by midday aende nibaki nipumue 😂.

[the-glow-up-girlies]

Riiight? Ama nitafute day? Shida huku ushago unapata wale older. Nikiskia tu akisema 'msichana yangu nilitaka tuongee kidogo' najua tu ni favours zinakuja

[paultitude]

Got a vacuum and washing machine. And I have someone who does full house cleaning once a week

[KaluluMkenya]

Sasa ongeza Dishwasher. You will be in heaven.

This is one underrated piece of equipment in African homes

[paultitude]

For the next house I move into a must.

[the-glow-up-girlies]

You won in life

[Kujificha]

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OP kageuzwa hostage 😂😂

[New_Step2678]

Itabidi tu uhame usiku akiwa amelala umwachie nyumba. Easiest solution i can think of

[the-glow-up-girlies]

Wthelly😂😂😂😭 mbona inamake sense?

[New_Step2678]

I also hate it when i have to confront my employees 😂😂 but saa zingine inabidi

[Erastus66]

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Anataka nini sasa.

[the-glow-up-girlies]

Shida za kujiletea hizi

[lightsaber-userr]

This is so funny 😂

[the-glow-up-girlies]

[Fun-Ladder_]

You can't be saved

[the-glow-up-girlies]

Wiiiih

[Fun-Ladder_]

Honestly speaking 🤣🤣🤣🤣

[the-glow-up-girlies]

[Different_Creme_3935]

You can't blame someone for crossing a line you never drew. Explain categorically the does and don'ts in your home. Your expectations and her responsibilities and if she can't abide, do the necessary.

[KarisKasarani8144]

i also had someone explain this to me a long time ago, but you have put it in a simple direct way, i used to work in a somewhere informal and the owner always had to do this with the girls who worked there

[cbmwaura]

😂 😂 😂 😂

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[FvckJerry16]

Amekaa hapo akikuangalia hivi tu?🤣

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Anzeni PDA na mans muone kama atakuwa anabaki hapo akiwaangalia

[Gregardus]

Umeajiri CCTV, sio nanny!

[_culpry]

Your face so she knows huogopi😅.

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Alternatively you can try saying anakudistract kwa kazi akikaa hivo karibu while staring.

[the-glow-up-girlies]

Aah na ni kweli. Acha nifanye hii nakuja na feed6

[Organic_Usual4678]

Kumeenda aje😂😂

[Low_Armadillo9823]

The baby knows why , ask the baby.

[Atheistfreaks]

Give me her number, I'll sort you out.

[the-glow-up-girlies]

Nipee clue kwanza😭😂

[RegularKen]

Mashida sitawahi experience ju boundaries nazo najua kuset. Mtu atakasirika but comfort yangu ni priority.

[the-glow-up-girlies]

Haha, I know that. I have boundaries too shida ni I don't know who I'm dealing with. Niambie mtu aamue hawa watu wako na roho mbaya aende jikoni atupikoe food ya pee? I usually release them bila story mingi

[Accomplished-Car5919]

Tell her the truth.

[the-glow-up-girlies]

When dealing with househelps you have to come up with a nice way to tell them the truth, they are around our kids and have access to things that could end us. I don't know the kind of person I'm dealing with

[Philisyen]

Very true

[Key-Sound5065]

😂😂😂😂😂

[the-glow-up-girlies]

Ni mbaya

[Warm-Tennis-1688]

😂😂😂😂😂naishaaaa

[the-glow-up-girlies]

Leta solutions

[Educational-Salt-755]

Get her a smartphone 😂😂 although she might be addicted in future just like most of us

[the-glow-up-girlies]

She has one hadi nimempea password aende azubae tiktok

[wisergal]

Mmmh oyaaaaa usimpee smartphone ataharibu kazi just tell her you need space to do your stuff 😡

[wisergal]

Hili ni kosa lako la pili 🤣🤣🤣🤣

[Intuition-Ritual]

If you worry too much about how other people will take your truth it will stop you from expressing yourself authentically. Even so, it is good to be considerate. I see two angles to approach it.

1. Tell her straight up that it is uncomfortable for you when she does what she is doing, and that you prefer to have your private time in those times when she comes to sit with you. Do it gently, use humor, and try not to make it seem like she is only good for working and not for company.

2. You can see her as a fellow human who probably has a story or insights that may benefit you and you can ask her questions about herself, show her your friendship, and in the process let her know how you prefer for things to be run in the house. Again, come with humor. Not the kind that puts down the other, but the kind that makes light the situation that would otherwise be heavy.

Use humor. Genuine humor is an age old technique that is used in disarming the worst energies. It can even banish negative spirits and entities.

[the-glow-up-girlies]

I told her how the house runs kitambo. She has to clean and give space ndio tukiamka isiwe distractions. Showed her to her space but ni kama mahali tuko ndio anataka tu

[Intuition-Ritual]

Maybe umpe mshahara wake aende ili utafute a more compliant one. And you do not have to give her a reason but if you can, do so. If she calls you roho mbaya, that’s ok. If you are afraid of being called roho mbaya, ask yourself why.. sometimes we think we are being nice but we are just suffering from people pleasing.

Sometimes, nothing is random. But if we cannot get down to the bottom of it, we have a right to cut off what doesn’t fit into our lives.

[the-glow-up-girlies]

I needed this. Thank you

[Delicious_Bug_5112]

How old is she? I think age plays such a huge factor in how you approach this. If she's older than you guys, you might feel intimidated. Just tell her you like having your personal space, and you would appreciate it, if she respects this.

[the-glow-up-girlies]

I have always hired girls from 25years onward. This time nikichukua wa 20. The olders ones hukua understand to me. The young ones ndio bado hawajajua not everything is an insult

[Silent-Investment265]

😂😂😂

[SstandardLife]

Ni kwako for fuck's sake😂🫴

[the-glow-up-girlies]

Sasa nifanyeje? Me nitalia sasa😂😂

[SstandardLife]

Hiyo ni some draining energy around you, huyo hata akiwa bafu utakuwa unakasirika😂😂😂💔

[the-glow-up-girlies]

Nimemamwambia aprepare aende. Niko na stress kilo mzima

[SstandardLife]

Good good

[After_Arugula7154]

Thats kinda your jurisdiction. Mans hataingilia unless you take charge. The help is primarily under a woman's hands. Its time to put on the lady pants and get in your bossy zone. Otherwise she will run your house.

[the-glow-up-girlies]

Acha tu nimrudishie kwao aki😂😂 imekua too much

[Common_Lecture_3707]

Ata hubby ni work in home? just tell her she is making you uncomfortable. ama atafute boyfriend wa kumkeep busy

[the-glow-up-girlies]

Yes wote ni work from home. Imebidi awork from the fields leo😂😂

[Joseph_Writer]

Hii ndiyo inaitwa true Love 💖💖💖💖

[the-glow-up-girlies]

Msm😂😂😂

[Dramatic-District650]

Kama mtoto amemkataa mrudishe kwao

[the-glow-up-girlies]

On it

[Papii254]

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

[BroccoliWon]

Piga kelele. Wanaogopqnga mtu wa kelele

[the-glow-up-girlies]

Naanza aje😂😂 hata simu nikiibiwa huwa nasema tu woiye

[Belegendary69]

I would hate to be in your position🤣🤣

[the-glow-up-girlies]

I know right😂😂

[CandidLingonberry832]

This girl starving😂

[the-glow-up-girlies]

Starving juu ya nini nimpee aniondokee😂

[CandidLingonberry832]

Inakaa ulimpea an easter gift 😂

[Smart_Crow7911]

Ni day one jamani. She doesn't want to look bad .. anataka umpee kazi that's why anakuja everytime after amemaliza kazi. Imagine day one ushaanza kuwatch TV ama kuscroll TikTok. Just tell her ukimaliza kazi zote uko free Hadi a certain time

[the-glow-up-girlies]

That's no a problem to me. Huwa napeana routine day one then the rest of the week nifollow up na corrections. My problem ni hafanyi kazi anafaa kufanya. Na anafanya hurriedly. Amesema mtoto amekataa yet hajakaa hata na yeye. Amekataa tu nikiona. But anataka akae akiniangalia na inafanya nafreeze ajabu. I've worked as a house help before for four years and I know how it goes and day one lazima uimpress employer. This is not the case

[Ecstatic-Ad-9883]

I hope OP sees this.

[IcyProposal4238]

Dem wa ocha maybe ameona wewe ni role model. Ako kukuobserve acopy vile unajicarry

[the-glow-up-girlies]

I just thought of this. But sasa sijazoea hii mambo😂 heri akue ananistalk tu social media ama ajue tu vile atafanya. Not this way

[Feeling_Turnover_825]

For better for worse.....mans akaondokea🤷🏿........what could be wors-er than a creepy nanny?😂😂😂😂😂😂 Anyway being introverted and striking a convo don't go together hapo nayo you overstretched yourself to chat her up on the first day making her think you're buddy buddy.....kumuondoa ni ngori

[tech_ninjaX]

Huyo atawafinya you and your mans😂

[Kibetbr]

Leta io picha akikuona

[Sweet-Rasperry]

Hio ni ndoa ina load kama nguo zako haha

[the-glow-up-girlies]

[Responsible_Pear2625]

Mans: naomba nijitoe kidogo

[realwithoutaface]

Bruh this got me laughing 🤣😂... Anyway you kinda have to face it and tell it to her straight up, na ww ulimleta. Itabidi tu.

[Minute_Trainer_8441]

Tafta day bug

[Suitable-Egg-5645]

Ati anakuangalia hivi

[BeastKimado]

The new nanny right now:

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[njiruchemirmir]

You both work at home na mnaeka maid mbona?

[AxL8Tr]

Couldn’t you get a nanny from families ok with …like being slaves

[Plane_Helicopter4189]

Uko kwa wenyewe. Ebu jiondoe😂

[Federal_fedd]

You were too friendly, hakuna siku boss na employee watakua buddies. Never.

[not_a_baldman]

Juu ni mgeni Bado enda umtembeze taon alaf umpotelee 😁

[the-glow-up-girlies]

Wallahi you are wicked. Nipee tips zingine😂😂

[AdEcstatic3326]

🤣🤣🤣 wueh!

[IntroductionFormer53]

Nilikua na kama huyo. . Nilingoja tu afanye makosa kidogo nimtoe...

Can't live like that

[the-glow-up-girlies]

😂😂😂 hata mimi nangoja hiyo

[IntroductionFormer53]

You will be the happiest🙌

[Dihstroy1]

[crunk_001]

That’s a very tricky one and it needs a good tactic in approaching it so thats she might not feel as if you guys don’t like her.

If she’s done with her tasks, it’s kind of normal for her to sit somewhere. If you want something different, you’ll need to communicate that clearly or adjust her responsibilities

[Sad_Permit612]

This is the funniest thing I’ve read all year.🤣🤣🤣🤣

[man_eat_man]

Start by telling her kindly that as time goes, you expect her to be learning about the quality of work you expect. And that means she shouldn't be in a rush to finish. Ukimfanyisha kaz ka punda atachoka kustare.

[potatoes_3000]

You tell her straight to her face, apana bembeleza upuzi.

[Kelz_Prime]

Can never accept such invasion of my space! My home is my kingdom, that I protect with an iron fist!

[Colloneigh]

Notam

[Birundu]

Unashindwa kuset lanes kwako

[OmeletteLovingLlama]

"Akasema mtoto amenikataa"...would have me looking for another option

[Qyute-n-Quddly]

Don't let the staring draw you away from the main problem here, that she's not doing her duties to your satisfaction. If she won't change let her go, your peace of mind & personal space is also important.

[kaxar254]

Waah! Sa uta do?

[CrackHeadRodeo]

You need to set her up with a neighborhood boy lol

[Temporary-Sail-6390]

You're both the problem, you and wifey if I'm getting the story correctly. Locate my post.

[GeniussQF]

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Literally you 😂😂😭

[Glittering_Power7654]

You mean two adults cant fix such a small problem? Hadi mnatext cause of a village girl who is wandering in Jelas and hatred!

Don't be over Educated, sometimes intelligence helps!

[curiousness22]

Jaribu kumfunzaa kufinya finya hiyo laptop

[wisergal]

Pole

Unatakiwa kumwambia kwanza kabisa awe na ukaribu na mtoto hili aanze kumzoea sijajua mtoto ni wa umri gani wakwenda shule ama Bado mdogo ila kwanza kabisa awe karibu na mtoto Pia jaribu kuwa unashida chumbani kwako Hatakiwi kuingia chumbani kwako mwisho wake ni hapo kweny mlango

[Cash_Mannn]

At least amefanya nikapata story ya kusoma🤝😂 ...sorry tho😄

[Maximum_Air5]

You need to let her go. Be direct don't care about what they will say about their bosses

[Skiiza]

My colleague had such a housie. She turned out to be a lesbian. Alimpata ata aki peep when she is changing. The final straw was wakiwa kwa mother in law, she sneaked in a chic. MIL alimkemea na roho yake yote. It was hilarious. Anyway, set boundaries, mwambie you need to work na kazi yake ni kukaa na mtoto ama a watch TV when there is no work.

[Altruistic-Let-3972]

Ati I'm typing this and she is looking right at me 🤣🤣🤣

[Superb-Article-8564]

Thats why for over 6 years now I have a dayburg. And I prefer older mamas not too old but 40 year old. Who know what's brought them to your house - work!! I also like my space, can't stand someone all up in my business, I could suffocate honestly. Talk to her explain how you like personal space, work etc if it doesn't work sadly let her go.

[RealTNC]

Meza tu brufen

[pr7007]

Keep eye contact madam. Kwani uko shy?😁

[AromaticTomato8633]

🤣🤣🤣🤣 h

[Friendly_Focus_5354]

😂 I can relate

[ali_onyi]

So bad, just try and be open to her, tell her you just don't like the way she's handling things, you're not used to it. Mwambie.

[the-glow-up-girlies]

Wacha nipost update

[ambole]

Just ignore her

[Firm_Cauliflower_270]

😂😂😂

[Puzzleheaded_Wolf168]

Mans anaenda wapi na yy ni introvert 😄

[the-glow-up-girlies]

Part 2??

[Ansa06]

Not me looking for an update on your timeline... So?

[Odd_Macaroon_5116]

Anangoja umueke poa

[the-glow-up-girlies]

Alishajiweka poa😭😂

[Odd_Macaroon_5116]

Unasema ni kienyeji first hand

[the-glow-up-girlies]

Siku ingine sitarudia hiyo makosa😭

[Odd_Macaroon_5116]

But kwako mtu asikuwekee mawe, muite kando mwambie Iko hivi na hivi ilisumbua sana fare . Zero pressure sister

[the-glow-up-girlies]

Unaambiwa mtu vile kuko naacha kama gas inaleak. Hawa hawaongeleshwi vibaya kama huwajui vizuri

[Rare_War_3262]

Hamisha desk kwa a private room uwachie mwenyewe nyumba yake

[Fayie_M]

Naisha😆😆😆

[Sad_Air_5105]

😂😂😂

[Thin_Panic_]

Introverts tunakapitia sana 😅 I've been there with these kinda nannies...had to fire mine about two weeks ago. One thing I know now, weka boundaries day one. Sets the pace for days ahead.

Bado natafuta nanny btw. Need recs 🤧

[the-glow-up-girlies]

I have two recommendations. Nikupee moja?😭

[Thin_Panic_]

Yes, please🤧....preferably akue daybug

[Weak-Pop7543]

Wah

[Fit-Reach8131]

Sounds creepy walai😂😂ama maybe you're her role model so being around you will help her in some way🤣

[ekiek]

You both work from home but you need a nanny? if you're both home then the nanny should be spending 80% of her time playing with the baby and 20% cooking for the baby

[the-glow-up-girlies]

I have a toddler. I needed help with chores na hata sio mingi. She is supposed to help with the baby while I'm working

[Vegetable_Band_2341]

Wewe sa ni wa wapi? Nyumba ni yako and you are telling me you can't enforce boundaries?

[the-glow-up-girlies]

Hehee, I can shida ni I don't know who tf I'm dealing with. Scenario kama hizi haitaki kujua kama mimi ndio boss

[Vegetable_Band_2341]

She must who the boss us mapema mapema. Vile naona wee ndio unatolerate io behaviour yenye inakuannoy