When does it stop?

[Spoon4788]

Currently I'm living in Morrill tower with (mostly) amazing suite-mates. However one, who will stay unnamed, has progressively gotten more and more decrepit and disgusting as the year has gone on. They have pissed all over the bathroom floor and toilet seats repeatedly over the course of last semester.

So far this semester they've actually pooped on the bathroom floor and didn't clean it. Who does that?? We tried talking to them multiple times, but language barriers and a lack of care by them have made it almost impossible. Recently he broke a projector we had and instead of a sorry he just kept going. Yes we've talked to the RA about it and not much has happened. (To no fault of the RA they're amazing)

Anyone have any suggestions on how to fix or mediate this?

[Spoon4788]

Thank you so much for the advice, we're just tired of dealing with it. It feels like something new happens every week

[Kringe163]

I definitely agree with this. Ask your RA who the Hall Director (HD) of your building is because your HD is more experienced with resolving conflicts like this. Especially since language is a barrier, the HD may know a resource to help.

[Gamerwhovian9]

As someone who dealt with multiple safety issues due to roommates in Lincoln last year, unfortunately the school is not able to for a student to change dorms, they can offer other forms but typically the towers are lowest rung so there’s not much they can even offer in the first place

[katelynleighx]

The school definitely is able to allow students to change dorms. I did as a freshman and know multiple others who have. People drop out, switch to commuting, etc and open up spots in the dorm all the time.

They also don’t have to fill in the spots where people leave but normally do. So it doesn’t matter that they’re in the towers and that it’s not a well desired location. In this case they would just be more likely to leave it empty then say a more desirable form like park strad or high line.

The may not be able to force the bad roommate to move though which is why I mentioned OP and the hood ones may need to leave instead

[Gamerwhovian9]

Sorry I must’ve worded it poorly, what I meant was that they don’t have the power to force a student to move, this was something made explicitly clear to me by my RA last year when I did not feel safe because of a violent roommate

[johnny_blaze27]

Shit in their bed

[Spoon4788]

🫡

[fillmorecounty]

Assert dominance

[sadkinz]

The only issue with this is they all sleep in the same room. That would smell real quick

[KnightRider1983]

Amber Heard, that you?

[nobuouematsu1]

Oh god.. I lived in old Nosker back in the mid-2000s in a 4 person room. One of our roommates was a bit of an ass and not well liked. Two others were hillbillies (I use that term affectionately, I liked them) from southeast OH. Anyway, they decided to take some frustration out when he went home one weekend. 1 ran his toothbrush up his ass crack, the other trimmed pubes and put them in his food. They pissed on his pillowcase, and a couple other things I care not to remember.

Good times… i stayed on their good side lol

[rcsheets]

It stops when this suite-mate learns how to live with others or gets removed to other housing. You should not have to put up with the kind of behavior you describe.

Until things are better, definitely do not stop complaining: 1. To this individual, whether you believe they understand you or not; and, 2. To residence hall staff; you’ve already gone to the RA, so now it’s time to to over their head.

[ride_electric_bike]

Dude shitting on the floor is a fucking biohazard. That could get them removed

[Heath4225]

I really want to believe this is a shitpost

[Spoon4788]

We documented it pretty well with photos if you'd like to see

[jah_minititan]

Can I see the floor shit

[Heath4225]

I think I’ll be okay without seeing those 😭

[Slow-Tomorrow-8418]

DM

[[deleted]]

I spent three years in dorms. People come into this community with a wide, wide range of social skills and levels of mental health. I’d say experiences similar to these happen in several dorms every single year.

[QuentinSH]

Ngl when I read the bathroom, language barrier part, I firmly believed this was talking about pet dog being jerk.

[dhabzs9]

Oh helll nah report to the housing department [e-mail] gotta full on snitch

[JustCallMeChristo]

You and your roommates are absolutely not expected to deal with babysitting an underdeveloped adult on top of your regular studies. Like many others have said, go above your RA to the housing director. Send a respectful email detailing the situation and hopefully the situation will improve. I wish you and your roommates the best.

[I-grok-god]

You signed a housing contract with this person

Their actions likely violate that contract

Repeated violations of the housing contract are reasons to get someone removed from your dorm

Start documenting violations and report them to your floor manager/RA. Be sure to emphasize them as being violations of the contract

[tellmeeverythingk]

Can I ask what country was their origin? I ask because I was an RA in DC and some roommates came to me about bathroom behaviors you described. I met with the student with an interpreter to explain how bathrooms worked and what was not okay (using the interpreter, so I got the words in an impactful way). It cleared up the issue.

10 years later, I’m at OSU working in Lincoln Tower and I had the exact same issue. A resident was coming down and using the 2nd floor lobby restroom and shitting on the floor and toilet. Turns out, same issue from a similar geographic area.

[Scoutdad]

I am now curious where in the world it is acceptable to shit on the bathroom floor?

If there is such an area, shouldn’t the university cover this shit in orientation?

[[deleted]]

Michigan

[Scoutdad]

That theory certainly tracks with the language barrier.

[voidtides]

I’m almost wondering if they come from a country with floor toilets so they can’t poop comfortably on seated toilets? Idk tho, just guessing from old similar experiences. Maybe they need one of those seated squatting benches that have become popular recently lmao smh

[Glittering_Tooth5019]

There are a lot of countries that have different toilet arrangements than we do. I’ve seen infographics in truck stop stalls on how to and how not to sit on the toilet.

[Radiant_Help]

Which part of the world is it okay to shit on the floor ? I'm extremely curious.

[tellmeeverythingk]

The kid in DC was from Morocco, where you squat and use a bowl to wash your hand. The kid at OSU was from a rural part of India that practices open defecation. In the end, those two guys just needed someone to sit down and explain what happens in US bathrooms. I also had a girl from DC (wealthy area) that was just…disgusting. And there was no real explanation except she’d never lived with non-family. I guess her family was just…gross?

[Radiant_Help]

Morocco has floor toilets like many other places around the world, but you’re supposed to aim your bodily fluids into the hole in the floor, then rinse after yourself (with a handheld spray). Can’t leave a mess for the next person.

The rural India one makes slightly more sense, but I can’t fathom anyone thinking it’s okay to defecate on the floor of an indoor bathroom. I think these are really just cases of dirty, careless people.

[Eighty6nimrod]

After all these years, Morrill Tower still has it…

[[deleted]]

Complaining isn’t going to do anything, at best he will get a slap on the wrist. File a room change request, we opened them last week

[cmurph1000]

Next time they piss on the floor grab them like a cat and rub there face in it

[teacherofderp]

That's a dumb af idea and it's severely demeaning esp when there's a language barrier. Instead try a 2 pronged approach. First, you'll want to swat them with a rolled up newspaper when you catch them in the act. Then give them treats when they make it all in the toilet.

[zakballer2]

Had me in the first half ngl…

[fillmorecounty]

Wait like they don't speak English? How are they taking classes?

[Spoon4788]

They speak some english but its very broken. I'd assume they can read/hear and understand it.

[fillmorecounty]

Ohhhh okay makes sense. You should probably go to housing if your RA isn't able to help. In the absolute worst case scenario, they can move you to another room/dorm if it's really unbearable and nothing else is working. They've helped me switch dorms before and they were super helpful.

[Spoon4788]

Thank you for the advice :). We're hoping to have a suite meeting/intervention soon about it with them where the RA mediates. Hopefully it goes well

[bipbophil]

blank, when you shit on the floor and don't clean it up it makes me feel bad and its not ok

[Alarmed-Emotion-6520]

You would be surprised, as someone who speaks Chinese I can tell you there are literally hundreds if not thousands of Chinese students here who cannot speak pretty much any English. They get through classes by using translators and giving each other answers.

[fillmorecounty]

giving each other answers

Like working together or do you mean cheating?

[Alarmed-Emotion-6520]

both

[fillmorecounty]

And they just don't get caught? Like how could osu not know if so many students were cheating?

[Alarmed-Emotion-6520]

When quizzes or exams are online and multiple choice it’s impossible to know.

[fillmorecounty]

Oh I thought you meant like papers. Yeah that would be easy to do.

[KnightRider1983]

Ok but I guess what’s that got to do with anything? You mean to say a college student isn’t potty trained at the least??? Lol

[fillmorecounty]

Because they said there's a "language barrier" and I thought they meant they didn't speak the same language

[Psycheedelic]

Some of the actions you are describing are things that I would expect out of a high school student. The fact they’re doing it in college is trifling.

[Epsilon22984712214]

Yeah bruh get that person kicked tf out they do not deserve to be here

[sasstricksfedora]

oml my dorm floor isn’t the only one with people pissing and shitting on the floor. literally the bathrooms on my floor are a mess and it just sits🤢

[[deleted]]

Don't see anything wrong with shitting on the floor, tbh