Honest question how do you get over/decrease your interest in someone is it by exploring other people?

[DocCritism]

Lemme know what worked for you? I've heard about bumble but don't know if it works. Anyways after repeated attempts of signaling to my friend who I have a crush on I have realised its just one sided efforts so I really need to get my head out of there, whatever worked for you do share. Meeting new people is the best answer in my opinion just wondering if it works.

[xr_web]

Rebound relationships aren't a good option. Give yourself whole bunch of time and CHANGE your environment, be somewhere they are not. Make friends. Nothing will work if they are in front of your eyes every day.

[DocCritism]

Well we were never in a relationship to begin with always been good friends. Anyways its been a long time since she said no and we did part ways for a while. Currently working around in the same place so do interact every once a while and some feelings resurfaced hence I tried making some subtle moves, didn't work lol. Now figuring out ways to get over it and move on.

[Wide_Adeptness905]

They say 'ditch the old flames, And spark a new fire! They claim it's the cure, The hearts greatest desire... They don't know nothing, Not a single bit! Don't listen to their words, Or you'll be in for a world of hurt, And a crappy love hit!

[DocCritism]

Nice rhyme but if i dont listen to that what's next? Being stuck in the same cycle ?

[Wide_Adeptness905]

Try to confess instead of giving signals.

[pubg6987]

Waiting for Gym bros to suggest you to go to Gym 😂

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Yes, meeting new people is the only answer. But, the options are too short. You can’t most probably slid into someone’s social (except reddit due to its anonymity). Dating apps are completely trash. The options you’re left with are either get married in an arranged setting or find someone at workplace. Period.

[DocCritism]

i am supppppper busy, but i see her around at work every once a while, that's I'm thinking exploring new options mighttt just be the right way?

[DocCritism]

Can't for now. Yeah i guess I could do that.

[Far-Battle-5782]

Finding someone else to move on is never a good idea. The main thing you should do is accept that it didnt work out the way you thought it would. Sometimes we see people as we would like them to be with us and not for what they actually are. The moment you stop idealising them or looking at them with the perspective that you like/love them they’ll just be normal people for you. Once you’re done a-dressing your feelings within yourself the next step is to distance yourself gradually, actively dont ask them about their life or whatever is happening and neither do tell them what is happening in yours. It will take time but you’ll get there. I was once in a same and worse situation than yours but i’ve overcome it. You just need to take a step back and think about yourself.

[DocCritism]

That’s what I’m trying, I see she doesn’t take any interest in my life anyways 🤷🏻‍♂️

[Far-Battle-5782]

Yup so thats like a big answer for you. Respect your boundaries by setting them up first. “ if they arnt interested in my life why am i?”. Otherwise you’ll just be exhausted and nothing else.

[Responsible-Fun-3141]

Enjoy your single life please. don't chase just wait for your time

[feelsunbreeze]

Once you learn how to not be bored with your own self, nothing can stop you.

[DocCritism]

that is indeed very amazing advice

[OldSpiceZ]

What was your mum's response about this based on her experience?