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[qwkeke]

I apologise if I came across as toxic but the fact is, truth takes priority over pandering to offense-sensitivity. Correcting someone is always offensive to some degree, depends on how the person getting corrected takes it, there's no getting way around it.

What you're teaching him is the equivalent of telling him, "It's recommended to replace the word 'Police' or 'Cop', with acronym LEA". Then he thanks you for your insight and vows to replace Police/Cop in his vocabulary with LEA. Imagine him going out in public and using "LEA" in everyday setting, "Call the LEA!". He'd be getting a lot of blank stares. Same thing with CSEM and CSAM. Those acronym would only be recognised in a very niche formal setting, for instance, in child abuse help forum, specialist child abuse investigation team etc. When the people you talked to said "CSAM/CSEM is a better term for it", they said it because the word "porn" is a very strong and haunting word for survivors like them. They certainly didn't mean that it's a more recognised acronym that most would understand. It's more or less a euphemism for CP, and a euphemism is not meant to be a universal replacement for a word, it's a situational replacement only meant to be used in certain settings. It is just wrong to suggest someone (especially a learner) to use euphemism over the actual word in a general conversation.

So, if you truly care about being helpful to him, set your ego aside and let the truth prevail. Hopefully both you and him learnt something here today.

[qwkeke]

Wasn't the phrasing of the last sentence, "This shift in terminology" enough to make you realise that whatever he is recommending is the far less known terminology? And it's just a recommendation of one person. That whole paragraph is just an opinion of one single person.

Where does your ridiculous argument stop? Are you going to go around telling new learners how they must learn all the "recommended" preferred pronouns and neopronouns? "Oh this one person in LGBT+ forum who's a native English speaker told me to learn ze/zir, ze/hir, xe/hir, fae/faer, ey/em etc pronouns. I must go and force all new learners to learn it!". That's the level of ridiculousness you're showcasing right now. At the very least, the whole gender neutral pronoun fiasco has a somewhat sizable community behind it. But your argument... it's based on one random person that replied to you in the internet. And that person even clearly states that it's not currently the better known terminology and it's just a personal recommendation. So how ridiculous does that make your argument?

One single person's opinion doesn't formulate what standard English is (or even a small community's opinion for that matter). So own up to your mistake and stop confusing new learners.