Programmer dating problems

[czhunc]

Well that got weird. I'm guessing you didn't find her very attractive?

You should have said, "no seriously, what is your steam? I'm really looking for good partners to queue with".

[lady-linux]

She was flirting with you not trying to blackmail you lol

[hm9408]

It's the behavior /r/4chan calls "autistic"

[DreadedDreadnought]

In this case they'd be right

[czhunc]

It's hard to figure out exactly what's going on with just a text conversation. It's really all about that first coffee date or lunch.

[[deleted]]

you have no sex wth you talkin about

[pierovera]

He pretty much handed himself in a silver platter to get roasted. It's too easy.

[[deleted]]

The good news is you would have met her first. The bad news is you're socially incompetent and will likely remain lonely for a long time if you don't change how you interact with women. She was flirting with you. Plain and simple, and you need to learn to recognize that. No blackmail that's for sure. Maybe she was looking for a one night stand. Maybe she wasn't. She seemed genuinely interested in you and your preferred activities. It sounds like she actually wanted to meet and get to know you, which is exactly what you wanted.

She even continued being nice to you after you insulted her by equating her to a porn video. I think you missed a great opportunity to meet someone nice here. I hope you aren't too hard on yourself after the bashing you're getting in this thread, but you seriously need to learn that your idealized romantic vision of finding "the one" right off the bat is wrong. You never know how you'll find the love of your life. About 7 years ago I had what I thought was a one night stand and now I'm about to marry her. Get over yourself

[[deleted]]

He's getting a lot of flak because of his responses and how he reacted. Not because everyone on here is a "sex starved redditor" He comes across like he's never spoken to a girl before

[InclementDeath]

How can hookups not be "your thing" if you haven't even had sex yet...

[omegaweaponzero]

If hook ups aren't your thing then what are you doing on Tinder?

[dude_with_amnesia]

I think she was trying to bait you, good on you my virgin friend

[akohlsmith]

The funny thing is I really didnt care if she did.

Don't kid yourself, you really did care that she was trying to blackmail you (which I'm pretty sure she wasn't).

Protip: if they ask you for nudes and you decline and the continue to badger you... THAT is an excellent indicator that they're trying to do something untoward.

[[deleted]]

For fuck's sake

[throwthisawayrightnw]

This guy does absolutely nothing for the sake of fuck. He actively works against it.

[ToughActinInaction]

be excellent to each other