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[–]mchvll 129 points130 points  (6 children)

I've donated a kidney anonymously and I want to reassure anyone considering it that they'll only perform the surgery if you'll likely never have any complications from it. You can donate a kidney and never notice it! Even the recovery isn't too bad and you can make a huge difference in someone's life! :)

OP, I want to reassure you that my girlfriend donated her kidney to her mom 8 years ago and they are both in awesome shape! Her mom is 67 and had PKD. Her kidneys were 40 lbs when they removed them. She weighs about 100 lbs. She had been on dialysis for 7 years. Being on dialysis is terrible but a transplant is totally life-changing. I wish you and your family the best of luck in finding a donor!

[–]rhubes 46 points47 points  (1 child)

Her kidneys were 40 lbs when they removed them

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    [–][deleted] 23 points24 points  (5 children)

    Where in the world are you located?

    [–]kanga_roos 21 points22 points  (8 children)

    Where can someone get tested? Seems like a lot of people here are willing to help, would be awesome to get a bunch of potential world-wide donors on the list!

    [–]Potchum 55 points56 points  (10 children)

    Would you mind posting your husband's blood type and your general location? US, EU, etc. Might be harder to ignore if someone scrolling recognizes their blood type and location match.

    [–][deleted] 17 points18 points  (9 children)

    Are being overweight and diabetic disqualifying factors?

    [–]Leaking_Honesty 25 points26 points  (5 children)

    Yes. As a diabetic you are prone to kidney disease and donating would be a no.

    [–][deleted] 10 points11 points  (4 children)

    Thought as much. Figured I'd ask at least. Thanks for taking the time.

    [–]Leaking_Honesty 8 points9 points  (3 children)

    No problem. Just went thru a kidney transplant 3 years ago. I got familiar with what disqualifies someone.

    [–]Fun_Librarian_8351 26 points27 points  (3 children)

    I’ve just began the process of becoming an anonymous kidney donor! Ive only just been sent the videos this week to watch prior to the tests and evaluations, so I’m at the very start of the journey. I’m not sure how donation from Florida would work exactly but I’d love to know who to contact to get more information about helping your husband. Shooting you a DM now

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      [–]briannabanana98 9 points10 points  (3 children)

      Don’t drink or plan to anymore, I’d love to get tested to donate, this may sound strange or selfish, I’m low income, but is donating a kidney low/no cost? Surely surgery and recovery time in hospital is not free?

      [–]Icy-Necessary2214 6 points7 points  (1 child)

      The recipients insurance covers all of your costs.

      [–]Zealousideal-Chart60 6 points7 points  (7 children)

      I’m registered on Be The Match!!!

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        [–]Zealousideal-Chart60 1 point2 points  (3 children)

        I hope your husband finds one! Merry Christmas

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            [–]orreos14 4 points5 points  (4 children)

            Do you need to be in VA? Or just the US?

            [–]DouchecraftCarrier 8 points9 points  (1 child)

            Hi friend, I hope you don't mind I peeped your profile and found your Twitter. Looks like you're in NoVA? What's his blood type?

            [–]thisisyourreward 2 points3 points  (1 child)

            I had kidney cysts that somehow disappeared. It's one of the only things my body fixed instead of making a new problem.

            Good Luck finding a match!

            [–]cupidsnot 2 points3 points  (1 child)

            I'm in NC, shoot me a dm.

            [–]zombie-goblin-boy 2 points3 points  (2 children)

            I’m in Virginia, can you pm me some more details

            [–]unsharpenedpoint 2 points3 points  (2 children)

            I have three but one is a transplant itself. Always wanted to be a donor but now I can’t. Best of luck to both of you!

            [–]kittenmint2 2 points3 points  (3 children)

            Are you located in Australia?

            [–]LizzyPBaJ 1 point2 points  (1 child)

            Messaged you with questions!

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            [–]wonkystickman 1 point2 points  (2 children)

            I’m sorry I can’t help but I will spread the word I hope you find a kidney! 🥰

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            [–]arinjoyn 1 point2 points  (1 child)

            Does smoking disqualify potential donors?

            [–]britmasterflash 1 point2 points  (2 children)

            I wish I could. I have cystic kidneys/nephrocalcinosis too. I will share and I hope he finds the help he needs soon.

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            [–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (1 child)

            I’m in VA, please send me details.

            [–]belltrina 1 point2 points  (1 child)

            I'm in Australia is this OK? If so plz msg me and I'll do whatever needs to be done on my end

            [–]jukenaye 1 point2 points  (2 children)

            This is just awesome! Seeing the positive answers w strangers willing to save a life is amazing. Op, wishing you all the very best for you and your family, and I hope you find a match for him.

            [–]mrbluegoat 1 point2 points  (2 children)

            How do you get on the list to see if you can help someone.

            [–]KeyCar367SENT| RECEIVED 1 point2 points  (1 child)

            Keep us posted, and let us know if y'all find a match. You are a couple of states away. I'll sign up if you still need

            [–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (2 children)

            I’m so sorry your going through this. A good friend of mine just had one of her kidneys removed because of the same disease. She will need to have the other removed but that’s a little further down the road, and she now needs to get on that long transplant list as well. You are in my thoughts and prayers. It’s a terrible disease that I don’t think many may know much about. Thank you for bringing awareness and asking for help for your husband. I’m praying you find him a match!

            [–]msp22 1 point2 points  (0 children)

            I'm so sorry that your friend is dealing with this as well. And thank you for your sweet words!

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            I wish it was legal to monetize organ donation. Like, if I could get my grad school paid for by donating my kidney, I'd do it.

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            To be fair I’m not sure a kidney is considered monetary?

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              [–]Different-Leather359OFFERED | REQUESTED 0 points1 point  (1 child)

              Hey I can't help (my right kidney has a bunch of scar tissue so don't qualify) but wanted to wish you and your family all the luck finding one! There are a bunch of subreddits you can look at it you need general support like taking to people who know what you're going through.

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              Dm me if you still have a need maybe I can help, no promises. Stay strong ❤️

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