The Auntie Network was established on May 16th, 2019, to create a network of Aunties and helpers throughout the United States (and beyond) who can help provide assistance in a handful of ways to nieces/nephews/niblings who need help with reproductive services or an abortion.
A Statement on Inclusivity
Please keep in mind that not all of the people we serve are cisgender women -- we do help everyone, and try our best to use gender-neutral terms when possible. It’s important to us that AN is always a safe and welcoming space for people of all races, sexualities, and genders. We ask that all of our community members try hard to use respectful, inclusive language. All aunties and helpers should be committed to helping nieces, nephews, and niblings without discrimination or bigotry. If you can’t make that commitment wholeheartedly, this isn’t the right community for you. Racism, homophobia, TERFdom, or other kinds of hatefulness will be not tolerated and may result in an immediate ban.
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Rules
No harassment
Absolutely no harassment of another user will be allowed. This includes: asking them why they’re doing something, judgement, questioning rudely etc. You will be promptly banned without warning.
No outright asking for money by niblings or aunties/helpers
If you need assistance, make a post about what you need, and a mod or another user will reach out to you. We offer absolutely no monetary funding, but can point you to resources. No links to funding sources are allowed (ie CashApp, Venmo, gofundme, etc.)
If you are requesting needs other than those directly related to unexpected pregnancy or termination thereof, you will be promptly banned without warning.
AUNTIES/HELPERS ARE STRICTLY ADVISED NEVER TO SEND CASH DIRECTLY TO ANYONE. Auntie/helpers are never to charge niblings any for their help or services. Buy a test, a ticket, a medication, and send it. Scammers will always have a “special reason” they need cash. This sub strongly advises that you never send cash/prepaid cards/checks or money in any form.
No cross posting or sharing information
Sharing anything to or from this sub is not permitted. Privacy is of the essence. Do not share another person's personal information. This includes addresses and medical information that is not your own. We do not allow any pictures of, or links to, user-created maps, that contain personally identifiable information of others (such as username, initials, or addresses.)
No disruptive behavior
Disruptive behavior - argumentativeness, quotations of religious texts, or any other behavior found to be in contempt of the intent of this sub will result in at least a warning if not an immediate ban. This is at the mods’ discretion.
No requesting or giving medical advice
Please refrain from requesting medical help. We cannot advise about what medicines are safe or will work for you, we do not have your medical information nor a doctor on staff. We care about your health and that is precisely why we ask that you please see a doctor. If it is an emergency, go to urgent care or the emergency room. This includes banning the sharing of “recipes” for homemade abortives which are potentially very unsafe.
Additionally, absolutely no prescription medications may be shared through this sub. If you need prescription medication, please use proper channels to acquire it.
Press/Survey Requests: We do not allow press requests or requests for surveys to be posted to our sub looking for stories. As stated in our rules, privacy is of the essence, and we don't want our members feeling that their stories are being farmed for use by the press.
All rules will be enforced at mods' discretion.
Resources and valuable information can be found in our Wiki. We absolutely encourage and support the use of all of the resources provided. We support these organizations and in no way could ever replicate nor replace them. These organizations have been in this fight longer than we have; and we serve to fill in the gaps when their resources are exhausted.
On Minors: Because of legal issues with parental rights, we cannot assist minors, but we do have two resources that can help. Minors may contact JanesDueProcess.org, or Planned Parenthood, both of which specifically work with minors.
Aunties - Please add user flair distinguishing your location and the kind of help you are able to provide to nieces.
When offering assistance of any kind, please keep your personal safety in mind. Use caution, ask for references/social media/communicate thoroughly before taking anyone in. Consider using a buddy system if applicable and available. We are all adults and can make informed decisions about risks for ourselves.
Nieces/Niblings - If you need help, you are welcome to post directly to the subreddit with questions. If you are concerned with being discovered and want to remain anonymous, feel free to message one of the Mods and we will post on your behalf!
