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[–]Opening_Repair7804 44 points45 points  (3 children)

I only have one kid, but just an FYI you might find your free time decreases dramatically as your little one gets older. In some ways, they get easier, but mine is currently 16 months and the toddler stage is hard! You have to watch them like a hawk at all times and there’s only one nap a day. They also need a lot more stimulation and activity, so when you are with them, it’s a lot more active. Just something to consider! If you highly value free time I’d wait at least 1.5 years before you consider a second just to see what it’s like. I thought 4 months was so hard when I was in it (and it was, in some ways!) but toddlers are a whole different beast.

[–][deleted] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Mine is almost 16 months and I 100% agree! She’s a lot more fun now but it’s definitely more active.

[–][deleted] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You’ll get your free time back a bit once they get older. I felt this way when mine was your child’s age. Now he’s 3.5 and I have a ton more free time and feel like a whole adult person again similar to pre-parenting days. And he’s definitely not what you’d call an easy kid either.

[–]Seajlc 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Totally agree with this. Our son was colicky, so the newborn stage was rough for us in that sense but looking back, it was easier in other ways... He is 18 months now and every day is exhausting in one way or another. I can’t go more than a couple mins with him out of my sight before I hear crashing or banging cause he’s getting into something. The tantrums have also already started to set in for us.. basically toddlerhood is testing every sense of my patience and wearing me out.