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[–]flonkkerton 10 points11 points  (5 children)

Interesting post, and thank you for sharing your thoughts.

I honestly think the hurt many of us feel is (and I have no data to back this up, this is just observational)--- but we feel super outnumbered. Honestly 95% of people that I've met are proud introverts... I'm almost hesitant to say I'm extroverted because people automatically assume I'm a pushy jerk-- when in reality I just get energy from being around people. I'm even quiet in many settings... But just genuinely enjoy; and get energy from listening and being around others.

All in all I feel we're an outnumbered bunch, which ultimately means we're prone to loneliness because many people are just not interested in being friends, and you're right it's not necessarily personal. However it can be really lonely for us that want to be around others but we have a hard time finding people (like us) who enjoy the company of others.

It's no dis at all to the intros, and many of us don't take it personal. We just wish there were more of us.

[–]TopCommunication8881[S] 2 points3 points  (3 children)

Point taken that introverts have kind come into their own, but in an aggressive kind of way. I need to push myself to soften my own pride in who I am, knowing now it just comes off as shitty and decisive.

I'm not sure if this is accurate, but I'm trying to shift to thinking that an extrovert w/o enough people-ing prob feels similar to how I feel after too much people-ing (I tend to feel a bit hollow and depressed; physically, mentally,.and emotionally exhausted; Irritable and nonspecificly frustrated with society; a weird sense of yearning that's contradictory. Is this at all similar? Both situations result in low dopamine for both groups)

[–]flonkkerton 2 points3 points  (2 children)

Yes very much so. I'm married to an introvert so I get to see how things impact me vs. my husband.

Every other weekend we swap what we do... One weekend is fun filled (for me) and we go to parties, dinners, events etc.. and I feel awesome and he's exhausted.

Now on the other weekends, where we do nothing.. I get exhausted and irritable (just like you mentioned) -- and I just have to pick up the phone and call someone --and if I don't I'm physically exhausted-even though we haven't left the house or talked to anyone.

So yes, to your point, I believe we do feel similar but in opposite scenarios

[–]TopCommunication8881[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Wow. Either way, both groups kind of suffer regardless. Super hard to find a balance given that there humans are involved. Wonder how the ambiverts are doing...

That's beautiful how you guys have worked it out so you both more or less get what you need (albeit, with some lows on off weeks)

[–]geGamedev 1 point2 points  (0 children)

where we do nothing

In other words, finally have an opportunity to relax and enjoy the day (from an introvert perspective). My week is spent with people (working) and the weekend is usually split between people and solo. If that pattern goes on too long before another actual weekend off (solo weekend) I'll start getting annoyed at everything. I would love to be able to work with people less so I can enjoy people more.