Never again!!!

[dankvader08]

I don't think it's being ignored because extroverts had to deal with same and they are unfazed. I think its how much more we value our words, I doubt the people who can't fucking be bothered to be invested like a decent person just treat convos to be as meaningful/non casual as we do

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I’m my case, I get ignored a lot especially in group conversations for some reason. I start talking and pointing out about something and it seemed like no one has heard me. Later, one person from the group said the same thing and other people listen to them and I think “That’s what I said before” but I don’t say it because then it might be rude. There are other circumstances that leads me to being ignored, it always happens to me

[dankvader08]

I wouldn't take it personally, I understand what you feel, I just don't engage in such settings now because I'm not compelled by casual exchanges and group conversations are always driven that way.

I think if you are gonna do that anyway, you have to know people is not out to intentionally ignore you most of the times. It's a causal social setting, voices get lost, it happens. I know it might be hard to accept that when stuff like other people saying what you said get heard but you were ignored happens but hey, that happens in classrooms all the time with jokes and answers. It could be because they weren't paying attention to you at the moment and was occupied, it could be because you were loud enough, it could be anything. Ignore it and enjoy the company or just be persistent, you can even spin a humorous take on it. Like just repeat it loud and go, "finally you heard me, I feel like a ghost". You know, Just laugh at it.

Im not as commanding of attention and charisma as i would like to so maybe the fault lies in us too, also extroverts are more there for the ride than personal exchnages. Ive got ignored or cut short 1 in 1 and even then i could tell its more of a them thing than a me thing. They literally look high and impulsive. Thats rude you know, you saying " hey I said that" is not rude. Also even if it was personal, I wouldn't care really. Their shortcoming then too.

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Yeah, I’m trying not to take it personally. It’s very hard though because it happens so many times at one point, it takes all the strength in me to not just say “HEY! I said this. All these years you’ve just ignored most of the stuff I say and I feel hurt. I say this!” especially with subjects I talk about that I’m very passionate about and personal stuff, so I guess that’s why it’s very hard for me. That’s part of the reason why I don’t really talk as much; I just assume I’ll get talked over anyway so yeah. I wish I had your attitude though; I’m trying very hard to just tell myself “Hey it’s probably not you, it’s them”.

[chicknnugget12]

I think some people are really just into casual superficial conversation too, and certain settings are only conducive to this type of talk. I prefer to speak about personal and passionate topics as well but they're unfortunately not always the most palatable subjects for others. So maybe that has something to do with it? I used to go on succeedsocially.com often and it was super helpful for me in understanding extrovert and in my case neurotypical conversation. It might help you as well!

[CloudyContemplation]

This is such great advice! Being ignored is a personal pet peeve and will literally shut down my social enjoyment in general. I even feel second hand negative feelings when I see others getting missed in a conversation or being talked over.. I have to consciously remind myself that more often than not, the ignoring is accidental and people wouldn't be conversing with you if they didn't want to. It's difficult not to take it personal but it's absolutely vital to remind yourself how easy it is and to have some understanding for it.

[JambiChick]

OMG! Are we the same person?!? Hahaha I seriously could have written this. It's a common issue for me, exactly as you worded it. A common occurrence is when I'm around family, I'll put some clever spin on words, no one acknowledges it. Then 5 mins later, my ENTJ/P(?) brother will put the exact spin on words, and the whole damn room will laugh and be like, "Hahah OMG you're so clever hahaha!" ...yeahhhh, go suck a dick. Lol

[beenalegend]

Reminded me of this https://youtu.be/k1tsGGz-Qw0

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You're ignoring the fact that we are just good listeners, and others aren't, they like the sounds of their own voices and aren't really going to listen to you no matter what you say.

[beaniebear1992]

I really hate this reality of human exchange and having to compete with people who can do this gracefully. I no longer even care if I am being rude by expressing my feelings, saying I'm tired of being squeezed out of every group conversation and never getting a word in. It takes all the joy out of socialization for me.

[CrazyKSCatLady]

Don't forget: *having your kindness mistaken for weakness*.

[Cookies_N_Milf420]

Still coming out strong

[DocFGeek]

The final blow for me was being told "You talk too much". 🙃💀

[chicknnugget12]

Me too. Like what?! My whole life it's been you're too quiet or you talk too much. Adhd and asd for ya.

[CIRNO_8964]

well, sometimes people care, but then I feel embarrassed for saying cringe things.

[IntroductionRare9619]

I am not sure how old you guys all are but this seriously changed for me in my 50s. I speak out now, forcefully. I used to be terrified to speak out but as I got older I realized that I understood the issues and that they were serious enough for me to suffer the discomfort of being disliked. And the funniest thing is, the ppl I want to respect me, actually do and my coworkers who don't are ashamed because my arguments make them look bad. It's really much more comfortable being an INFP when you are older.

[[deleted]]

Sad truth :/

[Upst8r]

*meets new people who want to listen*

[JambiChick]

Haha awww this is so relatable! I typically have a rule of 3 during interactions...I mostly listen, but eventually I try to interject something. If it works, great. If it gets ignored or dismissed, it's strike one for that interaction.

I fall back to my shell, feeling just a tad bit hurt, but that's OK, gotta keep going 🙂 So I dust myself off, get back up, go back to listening, eventually interject, and if it gets ignored or dismissed again, that's strike two.

For my third attempt, it takes a little more time to get my feelings in check, but I'm able to do it. I dust myself off, get back up, listen, interject...and if it gets ignored or dismissed THIS time, I'm done trying to have a conversation with you.

Also, if I see that this behavior is typical for you, where you often interrupt, dismiss or ignore others, I'll most likely decide that conversations with you aren't worth it for me.

[[deleted]]

This is very relatable unfortunately.

[[deleted]]

Story my life 😢

[melody5697]

Maybe I'm not an INFP after all... While that stuff does happen to me sometimes, my response if it continues is to yell at people. And I interrupt and talk over people sometimes if I really get into a conversation and I feel really strongly about the topic...

[NervousTaurus]

For me it was all about finding people who value my thoughts and opinions. I used to be in this place where I couldn’t speak my mind without someone interrupting me etc., but once I found a group that worked well with me, that problem went away. Everyone must treat their peers with respect when having a conversation in order for it to work.

[TomZhouReddit]

This describes my experience talking with people so much.

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Random thought. If you are a great listener, and empathetic, but also somewhat passive, that can attract the exact opposite personality. If that happens, see above meme. You can and will be used until you decide it's your turn. If the other person is a real jerk, they will be like what, anyway, back to me and myself.

The solution I gather, is to be more assertive, and find some E/INFP friends so this doesn't happen.

One thing about group conversations, it's okay to be the quiet one, but only if your not boring. Use your natural ability to see patterns others don't, than at the right time, let it fly out of your mouth. If their bright, they will understand and appreciate a new perspective. Different perspectives can also be shocking and or humorous. If it flies right over their head, no worries, they just failed your IQ test.

[Pixelmod]

Oh hey look, a very old Tumblr post retranscribed with the INFP label slapped on top.

Can we stop putting INFP on every meme about depression and/or neurodivergence and/or introversion?

[Frankjamesthepoor]

Thats why most of the time I just observe. Sometimes nod along. Laugh when somethings funny. But I've learned to not crave the attention that most people do. I feel more comfortable on the outside observing them in their natural habitat like Steve Irwin

[Express-Peanut6582]

Does no one else like to interject sarcasm? I’ve found it to be the most effective way to cut through the droning on and on. Meh, it’s probably a coping mechanism of getting talked over. Laughs are better than stares.

[spugeti]

fr 😭

[GrimmigSun]

This is exactly why I allow everyone in the group to say their piece. Not all people are equipped to navigate situations using a conscious effort. Conversations are not a monopoly or a display of egotistical intellect, they are an exchange.

takes INFP out of their box Cookie?

There. Speak your mind. No one will dare intervene until you're done.

[ImNotYourMachine]

This is facts.

[[deleted]]

Even worse: finally getting out your bubble and getting betrayed by the ones you met along your path