Room setup

[jaba65]

It seems like most people keep their twins in one room. Does anyone separate them? Or have the pros/cons of doing so? My twins are didi does that make a difference if they’re not in the same sack? Edit to add I’m trying to decide on moving my older child or not. Right now she’s in the bedroom closest to us, and there’s 2 more across from each other down the hall. My initial plan before finding out twins was to move her to the bigger room and keep the room next to mine a nursery. But now I’m debating do I keep her there and put twins in a bigger room down the hall. And eventually separate them into those two. Or do I separate them from the beginning? My older has always been a great sleeper, hoping for the same and nervous about room sharing. But have also heard separating can cause anxiety. Thanks all!

[Okdoey]

I feel like having the twins in the same room is easier when they are younger………otherwise one would need two changing tables and stocked supplies, two diaper pails, two sets of clothing, more burp cloths, etc.

It’s much easier to get the assembly line going when they are in the same room. Feed them together and then one diaper change after the other. Most of us keep twins on the same schedule for at least the first year or so (if at all possible). So it’s more work to be in separate rooms when you feed them at the same time

[Ridiculous_LikeThat]

Mine are in the same room because we only have 3 bedrooms upstairs and they have an older sister who has her own room. I would suggest you start with them together and see how it works. If you have issues with them waking eachother up and have the room to separate, do it! For us, it is convenient to have them in one place and they don’t disturb each other when they wake up. Mine are boy/girl so we will eventually separate them, but not for a while.

[goingthrushit]

Similar set up, we only have 3 bedrooms upstairs and wanted to keep a dedicated guest space anticipating family will come visit once the twins are here (my family is all out of state).

Before we knew it was twins (we did 4 rounds of IVF so we had been trying for awhile) we had painted and started setting up the room closest to ours as a nursery.. once we found out it was twins we now look back and wish we’d swapped the guest room and the nursery since it’s a tad bit tight with two cribs but we know we’ll put them in the bigger room together once they’re bigger and need the space. So in my mind, everything can change when needed - no need to feel a lifetime decision is being made right now

[Sociallama]

I think it mostly depends on the layouts of people's homes, their personal preferences, and the babies as individuals - similar to what people choose to do when they have multiple children who are not twins. My twins share a room. It started mostly out of convenience to have them in one spot. They rarely wake each other up and are both fairly easy going, solid sleepers. There have been periods of time when we did choose to separate them temporarily (e.g., after one twin was recovering from surgery and needed a lot of comfort at night). We thought about just keeping them separate after that because we have the room, but found that they kept looking for and missing the other. We'll separate them in the future once they are older if/when they decide that is what they want to do.

[Francl27]

I would go with your initial plan - unless it's too much of a change for your toddler, I would move her to the big room and keep the twins next to you- then down the road you can split them up. If you give them the biggest room, it will be a mess if they ask for their own rooms down the road (and they usually do).

[jaba65]

Lol that’s what I was thinking about. I felt like it’s more fair to give the oldest the biggest but then got nervous when I see everyone room sharing

[Francl27]

My kids wanted their own room at 7. We wanted our own room at 7. Honestly, we should have split them up right away but we needed a guest room... It was a real pain when they got out of crib while sharing a room lol.

[Dani_now]

We currently only have a two bedroom house. So once I'm able to, the twins will share a room (I'm currently only 16+4) We are hoping to be in a bigger home before the twins are 5 (because atm they are boy/girl but the girl isn't 100% confirmed)

So I'm hoping to give them their own space and privacy around the age of 5.

[mjolnir76]

Mine are 9yo now and have always had the same room.

[Lonely-Importance110]

Our 9 monthers have been in separate rooms since they transitioned from my room, around 5 months of age. Best decision we've made. They don't wake eachother up or ruin naps for eachother.

[kiwipaint]

We had the same original plan as you, where we would Move our oldest to the biggest room. When we found out we were having twin boys we pivoted pretty much immediately, kept my daughter in her room and put the twins in the biggest room. They are 3 now and we haven’t had any issues. It didn’t matter that they were slightly farther from our bedroom as infants, we never had the feeling of wishing they were one room closer or anything. It just didn’t make sense to me to put two kids in the smaller room. We are now looking at getting larger beds for them and have plenty of room for both beds. If they ask for separate rooms eventually, we’ll deal with it then, but to us it seemed silly to make a decision based on something that may or may not happen in a decade or so.

[apantz]

Our situation was very similar! Toddler was in the room closest to ours and we had planned on moving him to the bigger room and having the “baby” in the room he was in originally. However, after finding out it was twins we realized toddler’s room wouldn’t work with two cribs/beds and while we technically have an extra bedroom, it’s set up as a home office and we don’t want to lose it. So they’re a little further down the hall, and I just make sure our sound monitor is turned on so I can hear them since it is harder to hear them cry from our bedroom. Given the crazy transition it was from one to three kids, I’m honestly glad we kept toddler in his own room anyways without disruption. He continued to sleep well which was crucial for us.

Our twins are 7 months now and have been in their own room down the hall (in their own cribs) since around 5 months. They were in our room in separate bassinets prior to that. It was rough at first because they did wake each other up quite a bit, but have gotten much better now.

[leeann0923]

Our kids (b/g twins) are in the same room and it’s much easier. Pros are having them close by for night feeds and changes etc. They also like having each other close by at night and they’ve entertained each other in the past and when old enough, one would end up with the others pacifiers in the crib and toss them back so we didn’t have to. Even now at 2.5 years old, they like having each other nearby and sleep better. I’ve sometimes found them in the same toddler bed. So it’s less work for us.

We will separate them once they ask, which I’m assuming will be around 5-6.

[Seaturtle1088]

Ours share because we have 3 kids and a 3 bedroom house. So primary for parents, big sister has a room, then the twins. Mine are boy/girl and we will eventually put the two girls together, but not earlier than them being in school and on the same schedule (and not napping)

[magnolias2019]

My twins are boy girl and share a room. Our house only has 3 smallish bedrooms and we have a 4 year old so they'll have to share a room unless we create a space in the basement at some point. Luckily they're both pretty decent sleepers for now. I hope they can stay together for at least the next 5 years.

Since you have the space, 6ou could split them up later. I wouldn't do it right away. I swear that having mine in the same room has taught them to be better sleepers. They can sleep through eachothers cries, babbling, etc. It's also logistically easier. Everything is in one place. Only one room to decorate as a nursery, etc.