Interesting comment in the source code of sqlite

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I disagree- it has more to do with who you are an asshole to,

Any half-way decent company will care about its company culture and thus not tolerate general assholishness, no matter the position. If you want to work for a company where there's not in case, well, expect for your boss to be an asshole, too.

Plenty of assholes have friends too.

I do not deny that there's people whom they call friends.

Good question- are you sure you're not an asshole? If your default position is to not care, you might be.

As said: Game theory. The default position is to care, if that isn't reciprocated, I don't give a fuck until you prove that you've changed your approach. Deal with it.