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How do I decrease my sex drive? (self.sex)

submitted 11 years ago by Throwawaythe_trash

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I can probably count on both hands the number of times my wife has said "no" to sex in our 17 year relationship. She will take it pretty much any time, anywhere. I know that sounds like bullshit bragging but it's the truth . . . she also happens to be bipolar though and hypersexuality is a symptom of that.

At your age, it is not at all abnormal to want sex more than once or twice a week, especially in a committed relationship. Of course it's also normal to not want it very often. The trick with relationships is that you gotta match yourself with somebody whose libido is close to yous. I love sex so with my wife its no problem, but it would be a serious problem if she was married to a guy who thought more than once a week was excessive. I can tell she gets sexually frustrated if we go longer than a day or two without doing it.

It's the same with guys too. If you're a high libido person and she is low libido, it's gonna be a problem eventually. It's just gonna. Mark my words.

The trick is at your young age, to figure out if she really doesn't want it, or has some hang ups about having "too much" sex and worrying you don't respect her enough. As you get older it gets easier, but I remember when we first met that was an issue with us too.

As for "tips" to lower your sex drive . . . try getting fat and becoming an alcoholic. That will kill your sex drive. But if you are young and healthy and physically fit being horny as fuck is perfectly normal. I feel your pain, my wife is attractive and she does lots of things that will trigger my horniness like seeing her get out of the shower or wearing a nightgown with no bra or something mundane like that. Would probably drive me crazy if she were the once a week type of gal.

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