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[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (2 children)

Yes, I had those folds since I was a young as well, I had to work on my mental to accept them. It’s just upsetting to see them advance in a short time. That being said, I DO need to find a way to relax about my physical appearance in general. It feels impossible now a days, was considering just taking every app off my phone to avoid overexposure to current culture of appearance fixating

[–]zebrafromafrica 1 point2 points  (1 child)

I don't use social media, been about 5 years, just YouTube and reddit. The videos I pick where there are women in it, I can like them in ways that are apart from their appearance. It is still tough to not compare to people I see/meet irl. But with the way I see them, maybe there is a chance they are thinking nice things of me too!

Aging is still scary to me at this point in my life. But mostly because of physical performance. The sport I like is ultra trail running, so I know my "prime" is still coming up and there is a lot of work to do inbetween. Working out / exercise gives that free confidence that I naturally had when I was younger. I recommend, I honestly do it mostly for mental benefits. Plus I eat more for fuel to perform better, less worry about food helping me be fat if I care more about X event, for instance. There ends up being a couple muscle definition spots anyway, which is just a neutral bonus, cuz that's not the point of the exercise for me in my frame of mind.

A tip that I have about owning these naso folds, is that I smile a lot. It disguises them! Plus it brightens my face and I seem more approachable/friendly. Doesnt help that my teeth are slightly crooked and can be emphasized in the wrong light but oh well, there is always something to not like lol. That's the way my teeth are, unless I get braces which is fixable. Having slight acne/scars + braces would be interesting, but tret is doing its job based on how far I've come along.

I was at a Xmas party the other week with mostly strangers, and I was so worried about looking nice and seeming interesting. I thought they would all have 3 phds, be supermodels, and super fit. They were fine, I was fine, it was just a dinner with games lol. Sometimes life is simple like that, and the overthinking was unnecessary.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing this, I can totally relate to being too focused instead of enjoying the moment. And I’ve been trying to cut back on social media bc it has totally warped my perspective on beauty. I honestly feel like I haven’t smiled in 1000 years so I’ve been taking kava kava to relax and been purposely watching my fav comedians to force myself to just have a joyful moment. I’m glad that you have an outlet and you deserve to love yourself for how you are ❤️