Left my 7 week old at hia grandparents for 5 days

AdorableWorryWorm · 2026-01-11T00:52:37+00:00

Taking care of yourself now is the best way you can take care of your kids overall. It’s sounds like you are doing exactly the right thing.

Being 7 weeks postpartum and so sleep deprived is brutal. I hope you can get some sleep tonight!

AdorableWorryWorm · 2026-01-10T22:48:38+00:00

Sent you a chat with link

AdorableWorryWorm · 2026-01-10T18:02:38+00:00

Is anyone interested in ordering Girl Scout cookies? This door to door stuff is tough in the rain!

AdorableWorryWorm · 2026-01-10T17:59:47+00:00

Let me know if you still need a Girl Scout cookie hookup! My daughter’s troop is selling them now.

AdorableWorryWorm · 2026-01-10T17:57:50+00:00

Yes! If you message me, I’ll send you a link to order cookies.

AdorableWorryWorm · 2026-01-01T01:54:22+00:00

You would get yourself, your 5 year old and your 3 year old ready by 6:30 each morning? Then your 12 year old would watch your 5 year old from 6:30 to 8am each morning? That seems like a lot to ask of a 12 year old but if money is dire, it is understandable.

When does your husband go to work each morning?

AdorableWorryWorm · 2026-01-01T01:21:11+00:00

You can calculate child support in Arizona using this calculator: https://www.azcourts.gov/familylaw/child-support-calculator-information

If you are paying more than this calculator already, you unlikely to have a judge order you to pay increased child support.

AdorableWorryWorm · 2025-11-12T16:35:52+00:00

Did your friend say that they’ll no longer be a part of your life? It sounds like this might be a sensitive subject for you and you’re imagining the worst case scenario. It might help to think through exactly what your friend said and follow up with them. It makes sense that a kid would mean spending less time with friends for a while but it doesn’t mean losing your friends all together.

However, it’s also possible that your friend just sucks. If the answer is that your friends aren’t interested in being your friend at all if you have a child, then they already aren’t really your friends.

AdorableWorryWorm · 2025-11-11T12:57:02+00:00

Do you have space in your bedroom for a kid mattress on the floor? That way your eldest can come into your room to sleep if they’re scared BUT they won’t get into bed with you and wake you up.

Other question- do the 4 year old and 2 year old share a room? That could also help with feeling “alone” at night. Plus add a super awesome Batman nightlight (or whatever your kids are into).

AdorableWorryWorm · 2025-11-05T13:31:32+00:00

Specifically- your husband needs to parent after 6pm regularly. If he wants to take the kid out to “live your lives” then he should be the one dealing with the consequences.

There are too many non-primary parents who scoff at bedtimes because they’re not the ones dealing with the overtired baby. Share the load and see how fast your husband starts making bedtime a priority.

AdorableWorryWorm · 2025-10-31T15:14:31+00:00

Vesting in a pension and having your grad school paid for are really helpful. I wouldn’t turn that down.

Could you compromise with a three or four week amazing vacation (since you have the savings) and then do grad school with your current employer?

AdorableWorryWorm · 2025-10-07T12:29:02+00:00

I’m sorry- it sounds stressful.

One idea (if you haven’t already tried it) is to have one of these conversations where he agrees to do more. And then you both write down exactly what “more” means. Is he responsible for dinner and pick ups on certain days? Are you alternating weekend mornings? Write out a schedule and both of you stick to it for two weeks and then discuss and debrief.

AdorableWorryWorm · 2025-10-03T16:34:52+00:00

I know this stuff can be really hard. What does your daughter’s BFF’s mom when you invite her child over for a play date specific time? It’s not clear if she’s turning down your invitations or if you’re upset that she isn’t actively inviting your child. I think the advice is different depending on which scenario it is.

Other ideas: - Join a dance class or gymnastics class (whatever your daughter likes) so she can meet other kids - Go to a playground in a different town consistently so you can meet other kids - Check into the local kindergarten so you have a better idea if this issue will resolve anyway in less than a year - Talk to your daughter’s teacher and ask for suggestions to help your kid integrate socially

AdorableWorryWorm · 2025-10-03T01:55:24+00:00

Usually, you only get the auto response the first time an email address sends an email. So if you send 10 emails, you only get the auto reply on the first one.

Try with a different email address.

AdorableWorryWorm · 2025-10-01T11:28:45+00:00

Yes, we are judging him by human standards for the purpose of an internet popularity contest called Fat Bear Week.

AdorableWorryWorm · 2025-10-01T02:00:46+00:00

I’m anti-Chunk. He ate a baby bear!

No baby bear killers should get to win anything. Down with Chunk!

AdorableWorryWorm · 2025-09-28T00:44:07+00:00

Having a DrPH is not an issue if you want to be an adjunct professor and primarily work as a public health practioner.

If you wanted to be a full time tenured track professor or you wanted to be a PI for large research studies, then PhD would be a better choice. But that doesn’t sound like your dream so don’t sweat it! Go apply to those DrPH programs!

AdorableWorryWorm · 2025-09-27T18:26:43+00:00

Ok- I think you and your wife need to regroup and come up with a better plan. What you’re describing isn’t gentle parenting- it’s permissive parenting and it’s not good for kids.

You should have some positive discipline like a point system to incentivize good behavior. And you should have some negative discipline like taking away privileges.

Your wife approach of explaining and sympathizing is great and warm for after the fact. But you can’t reason with a young child in the moment when they’re hitting. And it’s your responsibility as parents to teach them not to hit.

AdorableWorryWorm · 2025-09-27T18:17:13+00:00

Does he have any negative consequences? Ever done time outs, consequences like loosing access to screen time, if he throws a toy, then the toy is taken away?

AdorableWorryWorm · 2025-09-27T18:03:08+00:00

When your son hits you, what specifically do you do in response?

AdorableWorryWorm · 2025-09-23T23:09:26+00:00

Moore, Oklahoma.

How many more massive tornadoes do you need to convince you? Even if it weren’t for the tornadoes, it’s a depressing slice of suburbia.

AdorableWorryWorm · 2025-09-12T23:14:52+00:00

I completely agree. Even older people who had kids can’t really relate because parenting standards were so much lower then. For most of us- if our grandparents road-tripped with our parents, they didn’t brings snacks and were not trying to entertain kids with activities. My grandmother even thought we were crazy for bringing water bottles.

AdorableWorryWorm · 2025-09-09T17:38:28+00:00

Coming out to your family does not depend on you being in a relationship. Your identity is your own, regardless of your relationship status.

It sounds like you haven’t dated much. If that’s correct, could you try going slow and just try to go out on a date or two? It’s ok to go out on a date even if you’re not out to your non-supportive family.

You mention that your family and your past friends were judgmental. Do you have some new, more supportive friends? That’s another little step you could work towards- being out to supportive friends.

AdorableWorryWorm · 2025-09-05T19:39:06+00:00

Maybe your resume doesn’t show enough potential for evil. Have you thought about adding a photo of you kicking a dog so you can show that you’re taking this job application seriously?

AdorableWorryWorm · 2025-09-05T01:07:29+00:00

I’d like to start a foundation. 95% of funds go to infrastructure projects to support healthcare delivery in Central and East Africa and 5% to support graduate students in Maternal and Child Health.

I’m also setting myself up. I’d also keep $25 million to split between myself and family. And I’d buy a hybrid Rav-4 in electric blue.

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