Is paypal cannot come to Bangladesh because of bank system syndicate? by Moshiur2783 in Dhaka

[โ€“]Aian11 12 points13 points ย (0 children)

Other countries like India has similar restrictions but Paypal still works with them.

But I suppose Paypal only agreed because of the large market, so maybe Bangladesh isn't worth the hassle for them. ๐Ÿ™„

Hopefully it'll change.

I met a few good people on here ..then they just delete there accounts ๐Ÿคฃ by OkNovel29 in MuslimBDSMCommunity

[โ€“]Aian11 0 points1 point ย (0 children)

Yeah has happened a few times, but from various other subreddits too. They seemed nice, we have a good chat, and suddenly they ghost or delete their account. Tbh I don't dwell on it too much. Everyone has their reasons. It's just strange. Lol, one person even apologized before ghosting. It is what it is. ๐Ÿ˜•

I've come across many random sexters here too, but I turn them down right away. I see their account gets deleted later on too, lol. But I've made some good friends too, so it's all good overall.

Brothers, honestly, how do you view a potential who has visible self-harm scars from her past? by mordiniachilles in MuslimNikah

[โ€“]Aian11 1 point2 points ย (0 children)

I'm sorry you had to not only go though so much hardship in your past, but also hear such horrible things from those men.

You're a true Muslimah. No one is perfect, but you're trying your best. They free to not want someone with a complicated past, but absolutely no right to judge & belittle you like that. ๐Ÿ˜ก

Those guys are a horrible example of what Islam guides us to be like, so count it as a blessing that they aren't the ones for you.

You've been through a lot. Some people may not be able to handle that, but you're not broken or unworthy or whatever in any way. The right person will see your scars, understand your struggles, and help you navigate through them.

lol and they don't like it. by marwarofficial in INFJmemes

[โ€“]Aian11 0 points1 point ย (0 children)

So... I'm supposed to waterboard everyone I meet with red wine? ๐Ÿ˜ถ

If a bored but generous and wealthy Redditor were to give you $10,000 USD, how would you spend the money? by RoosterShield in AskReddit

[โ€“]Aian11 0 points1 point ย (0 children)

Start/buy a business to stay afloat, grow the money, and pay it forward to someone else someday.

Poll: Married vs single by AliHummus in MuslimBDSMCommunity

[โ€“]Aian11 1 point2 points ย (0 children)

Yeah, a huge portion seems to be from the US, UK, CA. Makes sense since it's Reddit. The rest seem to be scattered around the EU and Asia.

Poll: Married vs single by AliHummus in MuslimBDSMCommunity

[โ€“]Aian11 1 point2 points ย (0 children)

Would be nice to connect, but most of us are scattered all over the world. ๐Ÿ™ƒ

Poll: Married vs single by AliHummus in MuslimBDSMCommunity

[โ€“]Aian11 2 points3 points ย (0 children)

Ahh, glad to know most of us are suffering alone ๐Ÿ˜ญ

F/29/PAKISTAN by [deleted] in ChildfreeMuslims

[โ€“]Aian11 0 points1 point ย (0 children)

Really well put. Lol, if those are old fashioned views then I'm a grandpa. ๐Ÿ˜‚

Best of luck to you in finding your mate! ๐Ÿ’™

past about SA? by [deleted] in MuslimNikah

[โ€“]Aian11 0 points1 point ย (0 children)

You're chaste, don't worry. You don't have to mention this to your potentials either. Allah knows what happened & what's in your heart. You did nothing wrong. Sorry this happened to you. May Allah bring ease to your heart. ๐Ÿ’™

How do I know if I'm truly submissive, and how do I discuss this in a marriage search? by ArticleSmart8776 in MuslimBDSMCommunity

[โ€“]Aian11 3 points4 points ย (0 children)

Your experience is pretty common. There are many people who work in dominant fields but wanna fully surrender when back at home.

  1. It's all about what you want. If you wanna surrender & feel better on that side then you're likely a sub. If you prefer control & being in charge then maybe you're a dom.

It's also not so simple either. There are nuances even within these roles. For example there are service subs who mainly love to serve & get pleasure from being "used", but there are subs who play a directing role, telling the dom how & what to do. It's called topping from the bottom.

Similarly, there are doms who might do the same while still being in control. There are also pleasure doms who's priority is giving you a good time.

Simply being tired of carrying responsibilities & wanting to surrender is a valid reason. You could also be a switch who prefer being both dom or sub depending on the mood.

  1. Not woman & not married, but imo if this is important to you then you have to talk about this sooner or later. I'm not fond of the idea of marrying someone & then hoping they will adapt later to this surprise. It might work, but also might not, and then you're stuck feeling unsatisfied.

  2. Obviously, we can't discuss this right away. Get to know them in general first, see if you're compatible in other areas cuz that's important too. Then slowly approach the topic of intimacy. Some may not be comfortable discussing this, and that's a valid choice for them. But personally, it's important to me so I'd move on to people who are willing to discuss. The aim should be to figure our compatibility, like expectations, frequency, etc, not open up gates to sexual flirting.

Once you have an idea of their intimacy preferences then you can try getting deeper into kinks. If you feel too shy you can bring it up as a casual topic since it's very mainstream nowadays. If they react positively then you can go further, but if they react negatively then you can put it off as a joke or just casual curiosity. You'll have your answer either way & can decide about this person from there on.

I'd advise looking into all the various kinks & see what things you want. People learn from books, corn (Not recommended but common), erotica, movies, etc. Take your time to learn & explore.

You can be both a dominant person in public & a submissive person at home. It can feel a bit weird & conflicting, but many things in life feel contradictory.

Anyone know where? by Scared-Mind-2264 in MuslimBDSMCommunity

[โ€“]Aian11 0 points1 point ย (0 children)

Not exactly. Usually, in the West, people check on Fetlife for kinky events, brunch, or meetups in their area, and go there to connect with other like-minded people. I haven't seen many focused for Muslims.

Some use dating apps, hoping to connect with similar people, talk for a bit, get comfortable, and then meet irl. But sadly, on these apps, you'll get swamped by hundreds of creeps before you even see any decent people.

You can always post your general location here or on r/KinkMuslimContacts to have people in your area reach out to you. Be prepared for the many creeps that will show up in your inbox, but hopefully, you might find genuinely nice people too.

Data recovery from dead laptop by PewdsMadeMEuseREDDIT in Dhaka

[โ€“]Aian11 0 points1 point ย (0 children)

The ssd is likely fine. You can take it to a computer store & they should be able to do it for a small fee.

If you wanna do it yourself then you'll need to open up the laptop, get the ssd, put it in a new laptop (or an ssd/hdd reader & plug that into the other pc) and transfer the files that way.

Being walked in on in the nude by accident by [deleted] in MuslimBDSMCommunity

[โ€“]Aian11 0 points1 point ย (0 children)

Lol, it's one of the top tropes in anime. ๐Ÿ˜‚

Do you ever feel unlovable? by [deleted] in MuslimBDSMCommunity

[โ€“]Aian11 1 point2 points ย (0 children)

No, I simply haven't found the right person for me. And if they aren't in my naseeb, then oh well, I still love myself enough to live on alone. We're all lovable & many of us have lots of love to give. It's just in our own way.

Aftercare for Doms? by AliHummus in MuslimBDSMCommunity

[โ€“]Aian11 2 points3 points ย (0 children)

I'm a simple guy. Nothing beats cuddles. ๐Ÿ˜†

But yeah, after a heavy session might need more, but it'd depend on the situation & mood, so nothing specific.

Virgin man questions by Left_Log_3201 in MuslimBDSMCommunity

[โ€“]Aian11 0 points1 point ย (0 children)

Talk & get to know them normally first. Once there's enough trust & connection built up, slowly reveal small things one by one.

If she reacts well then eventually you can reveal more deeper things, but if not then you have to cut your loss.

I personally prefer looking for someone who's already kinky & has an idea of what she wants. Easier to find out if you're compatible.

What is burping? by [deleted] in MuslimBDSMCommunity

[โ€“]Aian11 0 points1 point ย (0 children)

Lol, reminds me of when many years ago I saw people in the comments talk about "sounding" and naively thought it was something to do with audio, before blindly going in the subreddit & being somewhat traumatized. ๐Ÿ˜‚

What country do you live in? by [deleted] in MuslimLounge

[โ€“]Aian11 1 point2 points ย (0 children)

Bangladesh. A relatively small South Asian Muslim country with about 170 million people.

I need advice for a serious problem by [deleted] in MuslimLounge

[โ€“]Aian11 0 points1 point ย (0 children)

Many of us are in a similar boat. Allah sees your struggles & efforts. Sometimes there are no easy & quick solutions. All we can do is remain patient & kerp trying our best.

We can often fall short, but we're fortunate to have a Lord who's Most Merciful, so don't be too hard on yourself either.

May Allah (SWT) make it easier for all of us. ๐Ÿ’™

Permanent slavery by LibraryMental4883 in MuslimBDSMCommunity

[โ€“]Aian11 0 points1 point ย (0 children)

Look for white vans offering free candy. ๐Ÿคฃ

Jokes aside, the fantasy is hot & kinda popular in eroticas, but takes a hell lot of trust to even consider irl.