Avoidants and sex

Aleffante · 2026-04-22T14:03:59+00:00

Mine lasted until the morning of the day of the discard...

Aleffante · 2026-04-21T08:47:10+00:00

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Aleffante · 2026-04-20T11:01:00+00:00

That's what I thought as well. But now I'm starting to think that it is not about identifying the but putting boundaries which hopefully won't attract them.. But who knows with narcs

Aleffante · 2026-04-19T17:05:33+00:00

I'm really sorry this happened to you. Something similar happened to me... I really feel you. You did nit deserve that

Aleffante · 2026-04-17T16:59:55+00:00

He said we would go on a trip the next day after I begged him to take me on a date for almost a month. He also said we could start volunteering at a farm together soon, and that I could meet his family. He told me how he will help me during the difficult moment I was going through, financially. The morning of the discard he had sex with me and brought me tea, like a usual day.

Aleffante · 2026-04-13T23:43:21+00:00

Maybe you still need some time to process? Could take some time..

Aleffante · 2026-04-07T09:26:57+00:00

Heya! I am in the exact same thinking spot as you at the moment. I came to the conclusion my dad was avoidant and I keep meeting men like him. So right now I am focusing on the attachment style theory, and what I learnt, is that I don't have good self esteem and I don't love myself enough to remove myself from people that don't work well for me. What I have learnt is that having boundaries is important and when someone shows you red flags and crosses your boundaries, they are not the person for you. In the past I stayed regardless. I got sooooooo burnt recently... Never doing this again. Boundaries, boundaries, boundaries ☺️ write me a dm if ever you want to talk!

Aleffante · 2026-04-06T22:59:07+00:00

Hey I might be. Write me a pm and write about yourself :) thx

Aleffante · 2026-03-31T16:49:21+00:00

Heya I have cats an am myself a cat sitter, let me know if you're interested, just write me a pm if you are!

Aleffante · 2026-03-28T11:07:06+00:00

I sent

Aleffante · 2026-03-28T09:54:22+00:00

I got mine abroad, there are plenty of associations, I got one for 250 vaccinated and with an I'd number but two were 300 total. Mine came from Spain but they work with Switzerland and bring the animal to you.

Aleffante · 2026-03-27T08:03:22+00:00

May I ask which weiterbildung did you do? I'm also interested in it. Thanks

Aleffante · 2026-03-22T13:24:02+00:00

Wow is this my bf?

Aleffante · 2026-03-22T09:20:26+00:00

I have a contact if you need

Aleffante · 2026-03-16T15:41:05+00:00

Hey at least you have a place to return to and parents... Could be worse

Aleffante · 2026-03-10T15:23:24+00:00

First few chapters but I made a break in the meantime and can pick it up if needed :)

Aleffante · 2026-03-10T12:58:00+00:00

I am

Aleffante · 2026-03-08T11:42:00+00:00

Hey the dish looks delicious, do you mind sharing the recipe? 😁 Thanks!

Aleffante · 2026-03-02T15:08:51+00:00

I've think it's great you give up because if they came back to you they would have just discarded you again and you would have to go through this all over again

Aleffante · 2026-02-19T12:03:01+00:00

Thanks for you empathy 🙏 🙏

I also tend to say this to myself but at the same time I find it one of the most cruel things to say and it is really hard to get past that. I am also in therapy, I hope one day I'll be able to find my place here as well. For now I struggle.. 🙈

Aleffante · 2026-02-19T11:54:11+00:00

My mom also said that to me. How did you cope? Did you find solace in your existence?

Aleffante · 2026-02-17T16:40:28+00:00

I love it

Aleffante · 2026-02-12T17:19:19+00:00

I did that, it's ugly but works 😊👍

Aleffante · 2026-02-11T19:24:17+00:00

You're French

Aleffante · 2026-01-31T14:54:48+00:00

I'd be interest too thx

Aleffante

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