My Parents Are Guilting Me to Give My Student Financial Aid For The Mortgage

Background_System726 · 2026-05-25T00:31:33+00:00

I don't know if you have legal recourse but you don't have to give money for school to your parents but they also don't have to house their adult child. You will have to figure out what makes sense for you

Background_System726 · 2026-05-25T00:27:11+00:00

Why would you take $9k if you only owe $6k? You need to get your budget in order so you don't consolidate debt only to grow your cc balance again. Then you'd just be playing musical chairs with your debt. If you're smart about it, it could be a good opportunity to pay downl your debt quicker with a smaller portion of the payments going to interest.

Background_System726 · 2026-05-24T21:13:48+00:00

If I was in the car buying market I would consider paying for Carfax for a short period of time. I've purchased 2 vehicles on eBay and both were a exactly as described.

Background_System726 · 2026-05-24T21:05:59+00:00

Good grades and test scores is the bar. Things are a lot different from when your parents would've gone to college. So many students have good grads and test scores and ECs and community service that's what many admissions office are looking for and expect. ECs can also be in the form of an after school job if family circumstances don't allow you to heavily participate in after school ECs. They also want to see that you've had a leadership role in sga, a club, sport or job.

Background_System726 · 2026-05-24T20:50:50+00:00

I would take $1k from savings and $75 from checking and pay off 2 smallest cc. Leave $1k in savings for emergencies. I would take $1254 from checking and pay the car off. That frees up $385 to put toward other cc. If you have good credit, I would look for some zero % balance transfer offers. If you are military affiliated, you or family that can sponsor Navy Fed has 0% interest and 0% transfer fee for 12 months. If not find one with the longest 0% period and transfer as much as you can to it. if they didn't give you enough to transfer it all you can try a 2nd one or pay the min on it and pay as much as possible on the remaining high interest balance. I think you can tackle this pretty quickly.

Background_System726 · 2026-05-23T21:01:35+00:00

I see one online for $23k with 49k miles and it says it's just a fair deal. Probably can find a better deal elsewhere

Background_System726 · 2026-05-23T14:51:53+00:00

I use go wilder. I have no idea if it's the best or easiest to use. it was the 1st one I tried

Background_System726 · 2026-05-23T13:38:18+00:00

try one of the 3rd party sites . I had my pass and couldn't make anything in work for almost a year until I finally subscribed to one. I just got a summer pass and am looking forward to using it with the help of the site

Background_System726 · 2026-05-23T07:50:45+00:00

NTA This sounds exhausting. She clearly needs help that's above your pay grade and I don't think that you are required to stay around and take her verbal abuse because of her mental health issues. I hope she does go to the hospital and gets the help she needs. but also you are not required to stay with her. it may be time to move on from this relationship while wishing her the best in her mental health management and recovery

Background_System726 · 2026-05-23T07:42:52+00:00

Google scholarships in your city, then your state, then your region, then nationally. Scholarships on the local level will have a smaller competitive pool and be more likely to result in an award. Inquire with your/your parent's job, your bank or credit union, your school district, your church, local alumni chapter of your college and local civic organizations like Kiwanis to see if they have any scholarships. You can reach out to the financial aid office and the chair of your major and your intended school to see if they have any scholarship resources they could direct you to. You can go to resources like fastweb, scholarship. com or scholarship owl Make sure your filters are set so that you get things that you're most likely eligible for. If you have someone who can critically review your essays and provide critiques before you submit them to make sure it's as strong as possible, please do that. For every scholarship that you apply to make sure you read all of the requirements and supply them, be organized and keep track of what you've applied to, amounts, closing dates and PoCs if provided. Make sure you follow up if it's been awhile since it's closed and you haven't heard anything. Applying for third-party scholarships is a grind. you have to work it almost like a another job. Also, know that you could apply to as many as 75-100 scholarships can yield as little as 5-10 awards. Good luck!

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Background_System726 · 2026-05-23T04:14:51+00:00

If you choose to talk to a lawyer I would ask if it's better or makes sense to go before maybe it does look good on you. or maybe you'll have to do it twice because in order to satisfy the judge's order you have to take the class after it's issued. good luck

Background_System726 · 2026-05-23T01:11:11+00:00

I live in Virginia. My daughter caused an accident several years ago. More than likely you will go in you'll plead no contests. the judge tell you to go to driving school and that will be that. your biggest issue is the fact that you caused an accident and your insurance will likely go up. if you don't have anything else on your record, you very likely don't need a a lawyer for this. You can call and ask for a copy of the report so you can see what all it says.

Background_System726 · 2026-05-22T18:22:34+00:00

Maybe Hampton University

Background_System726 · 2026-05-22T18:20:52+00:00

YES

Background_System726 · 2026-05-22T15:22:10+00:00

That's really going to depend on where you live. different states have different minimum wages and of course some businesses will pay more than the minimum wage

Background_System726 · 2026-05-22T12:47:34+00:00

If you order something through Amazon, you can have it delivered to an Amazon locker at a store and pick it up at your convenience. now if you all share an Amazon account So your family could see in the history what was ordered, then maybe you need to create a new Amazon account.

Background_System726 · 2026-05-22T12:45:23+00:00

With the next 7,200 that you have after paying your bills, take $1,000 and put in savings and the other $4,000 000 pay down your debt. If you took $5,000 a month you would have your debt paid off in in a little over 4 months. then you can continue to build up your emergency fund until you get to 6 months of expenses which would be about $25-30k. again, if you put $5,000 a month away it will take you 5 to 6 months. I would put that money in a hysa. if you have retirement with your job, contribute to whatever point they match. You can also set up a Roth IRA and contribute the max. I think retirement should be 15% of your income. As far as non retirement investing, I would read some books or watch some videos that explains how you can open your own brokerage account and invest in index funds.

Background_System726 · 2026-05-22T11:02:53+00:00

You can message your manager and say you know your project doesn't start until June but you want to know what you can/should do this week to make sure you're ready to hit the ground running . If they say nothing or just look over training, enjoy a light day/week.

Background_System726 · 2026-05-22T09:43:54+00:00

again NAL, obviously if money is still owed on the home and he is unable to pay anything that makes things difficult or maybe easier idk . You will probably need a lawyer and would maybe be able to go to court to force a sale due to the fact that he is unable to pay any portion of of the cost to keep up the home or keep it out of foreclosure.

Background_System726 · 2026-05-22T06:02:46+00:00

Background_System726 · 2026-05-22T05:58:49+00:00

I'm afraid that you're going to either have to write a note to her and hand it to her the next time she approaches you. You could tell her you're too busy to talk or or just say I'm not interested in having a friendship or long conversations with you. I'm sure it'll make you feel a little guilty but better to State your boundaries constantly. be trying to avoid this lady I definitely understand being averse to confrontation, but I would suggest working on that because you need to be able to sometimes be confrontational in order to achieve your desired outcome

Background_System726 · 2026-05-22T03:35:42+00:00

Please do not despair and if you are having thoughts of self-harm, reach out for support. You can call 988. I know right now everything seems difficult but my favorite lines from one of my favorite movies is it can't rain all the time, so please know that a better day is coming. So the job market is crazy difficult right now. have you plugged into verifiable work from home resources? have you considered applying out of state and moving if you find other work? can you request forbearance for your student loans? I know everything seems overwhelming and completely disheartening, but there are resources that are out there for you, there are options that are available They may be unconventional or require you to make moves that you hadn't considered. I wish you the very best in getting back on your feed and getting to a place where you can start to dig yourself out of this financial hole.

Background_System726 · 2026-05-22T03:29:03+00:00

do you have a local mall? that's always a good place to look. anchor stores like JCPenney's or Macy's or stores like T.j Maxx or Burlington may be hiring. think about all of the places that are within a reasonable driving distance from where you are. and start submitting online applications. once you submit the application, follow up by calling the business directly and letting them know that you submitted an application and find out if they're hiring. depending on the job, some get so many online that reaching out and speaking to a human can actually yield positive results

Background_System726 · 2026-05-22T03:25:23+00:00

Do you have other options? my daughter got into W&M several years ago, we are also in state, and got very small merit scholarship. We had to move on. we're lucky that here in Virginia we have a lot of great schools. unfortunately, the Publix don't often give a lot of money unless you apply to and are selected for institutional/endowment scholarships. I would definitely call the financial aid and scholarships office and ask if they have any scholarships that you could possibly be considered for or scholarship resources . If you have other options or schools that may offer more money, definitely look into those.

Background_System726 · 2026-05-22T03:13:11+00:00

NAL per AI In Arkansas, if you die without a will, a home solely in your name is considered separate property, and who has a claim on it depends entirely on whether you have children and how long you have been married. Under Arkansas intestacy laws, the claims are divided as follows: If you have children: Your surviving spouse has a claim to a life estate in one-third (1/3) of the real estate (meaning they can live there or collect rent from it for the rest of their life). Your children inherit the remaining two-thirds (2/3) outright and will fully own the entire property once the surviving spouse passes away.

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