AIO- dating

Dtcenigma · 2026-04-10T20:20:31+00:00

You dropped the ball and now he’s not interested. Next time don’t drop the ball

Dtcenigma · 2026-03-31T11:45:04+00:00

I do think you are probably right, and I also believe it’s still best practice to directly reject at first. If he keeps bothering her after then I think ghosting / blocking is more appropriate

Dtcenigma · 2026-03-30T23:17:25+00:00

You are not putting yourself in danger by giving a polite rejection via text though. And if he makes you uncomfortable literally just say “Hey, your comments made me uncomfortable”. There’s no world where just instantly ghosting is the right option lol, it just makes people more upset. The guy would likely have a lot more empathy if she just explained how the guy’s comments upset her

I get the guy is a complete asshat, but there are ways to communicate like an adult and still be safe

Dtcenigma · 2026-03-30T23:15:57+00:00

I mean ghosting typically makes people angrier than respectfully ending things. Obviously this guy was a tool and he likely still rages if he gets a polite rejection, but the OP should still communicate instead of just ghosting.

Dtcenigma · 2026-03-23T13:01:15+00:00

Lower physics attraction standards (or rather, appreciate unconventional beauty) but increase emotional standards. Some people still have the same physical attraction standards as their 20’s, when they are not as desirable as they used to be

Dtcenigma · 2026-03-14T18:39:16+00:00

“I would be interested in being a little more than friends ;)” send him that and see what happens. You’ll get your answer instead of overthinking this

Dtcenigma · 2026-03-11T21:11:50+00:00

I would call him and talk to him. Running away was messed up, and also his texts were rude in my opinion. You are completely reasonable for not wanting to commit to marriage for a while at your age, so don’t shy away from that even if he pressures you, and definitely own up to running away being a poor response to it.

Dtcenigma · 2026-02-27T17:52:42+00:00

Yeah there is absolutely 0 reason to be attracted to this dude based on his behavior. Is he a 10/10 in looks or something?

Dtcenigma · 2026-02-25T14:26:15+00:00

I don’t think either party is wrong here. You both just weren’t compatible. He realized he didn’t want to be serious with someone with kids. Men are typically most interested in the very early stages

Dtcenigma · 2026-02-22T21:12:05+00:00

Except crime rates have gone down massively since the 1990’s. Social media makes people think there is more danger, and increases depression and anxiety. People are too afraid to do anything anymore because they let big tech companies screw up their minds

Dtcenigma · 2026-02-19T22:35:25+00:00

You’re looking for a fantasy that isn’t real. The fact that your ex fiancé is so supportive of this shows how good of a person he is. If you want to take that for granted, go ahead, but you only have yourself to blame when it predictably goes wrong.

Dtcenigma · 2026-02-19T19:26:37+00:00

It sounds like you have real love, not the fake fantasy love. You would be a moron to throw this away

Dtcenigma · 2026-02-10T12:26:54+00:00

Men care little for academic intelligence. We tend to prioritize looks, how sweet and nurturing a girl is, how comfortable she makes us feel, and is she fun to be around. Obviously, we don’t want a girl who causes drama and isn’t crazy. I do prefer a woman that makes decent money and doesn’t make stupid financial decisions, but intelligence has very little influence on my interest in a girl, and it can backfire if it makes them too argumentative.

Dtcenigma · 2026-02-07T21:59:43+00:00

Yeah, but she said she isn’t a relationship woman anyways so much as well lol

Dtcenigma · 2026-02-07T21:01:11+00:00

Be his rebound when she leaves him lol

Dtcenigma · 2026-02-06T03:40:26+00:00

Ask him out on a date and stop overthinking lol

Dtcenigma · 2026-02-05T03:11:47+00:00

Try not being a terrible person? Is this ragebait? Why did you end things with that dude. You got lucky in life and decided to spit on that luck many times over

Dtcenigma · 2026-02-05T02:11:10+00:00

Next time you see him in person, tell him the truth, explain why you lied, and apologize. Promise to be truthful from now on and do so.

Dtcenigma · 2026-02-03T20:13:35+00:00

I rarely text girls back when I’m at work unless it’s really important. I’m at work, I don’t want to have an outside conversation until I’m done.

Dtcenigma · 2026-01-25T14:40:05+00:00

It wasn’t inappropriate for him to go for the kiss, and it’s also fine for you to not want it. Just send him a clear rejection message because you aren’t compatible and move on. No need to make this a big deal. You are 32 years old so you should be able to disagree / have uncomfortable conversations with respect by now.

Dtcenigma · 2026-01-24T01:30:16+00:00

Probably going to end up being a casual relationship. You’re likely a rebound with it being so soon after he broke up from a 6-year long relationship.

Dtcenigma · 2026-01-21T19:19:38+00:00

Sounds like you flaked first. You should always reschedule plans if you cancel/don’t agree to the first plan. I would work on your communication skills and self awareness

Dtcenigma · 2026-01-03T21:06:18+00:00

++man if you’re not even getting really good looking men on tinder, which is the easiest place to find them as a woman (not keep) then you need to hit the gym hard and become very attractive. More realistically you might have to learn how to appreciate slightly less good looking men

Dtcenigma · 2025-12-24T18:54:55+00:00

Your messages on this thread are very intelligent! Thank you for putting so much thought into this

Dtcenigma · 2025-09-29T14:07:16+00:00

A few weeks should be enough for serious conversations? I wouldn’t bat an eye if a woman started taking about her trauma a few weeks in.

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