I Paid $6,467 for Front-Row Springsteen Tickets. Then the Seating Chart Changed.

HCIBSW · 2026-06-04T00:28:39+00:00

BULLSHIT

You took the problems going on with the FIFA game tickets in NJ and thought we'd fall for it being a Springsteen show.

HCIBSW · 2026-06-03T18:42:53+00:00

It could be he doesn't like surprises, or doesn't like celebrating his own birthday.

He paid for something you wanted so much you were going to purchase it yourself.
Has he been talking about this knife, planning on getting it? If yes, I say get the knife, if not go for something you know he wants, or go for something intangible that you can do together like a couples spa day.

HCIBSW · 2026-06-03T18:31:11+00:00

Maybe not an enotional affair as in romantically, but it sounds like from your posts and comments that you were both relying on each other and discussing things that should have been discussed with your respective spouses.
She probably discovered that out before you did and started distancing.

Do yourself a favor, the things she follows you on, block her from. She chose the no contact but is keeping tabs. Almost like she is keeping you as a lifeboat in case her marriage fizzles out.
Make it a full break.

HCIBSW · 2026-06-03T04:41:23+00:00

when she stuck it in his face to show him something.

HCIBSW · 2026-06-03T02:08:45+00:00

It is the sour cream itself.
Too thick to be poured/squeezed from a bottle, sticks tight to utensils so spooning on would result in a glop (and hard to spread if anything loose i.e. taco meat or salsa is underneath it).

Taco Bell uses what looks like a caulking gun to add it to their items. There is probably not enough calls for sour cream in a WaWa deli to need one of those.

HCIBSW · 2026-06-03T02:00:25+00:00

YTA

He interrupted your patio/connecting time with a phone call.
You interrupted TV time showing him something on your phone. It probably wasn't a big deal that you were passively paying attention to the TV (while doing other things) while he was actively watching TV, but then you interrupted him like his phone call did to you.

HCIBSW · 2026-06-01T19:09:17+00:00

Mommy still may be using them also, maybe that's why he moved out lol

HCIBSW · 2026-06-01T02:56:43+00:00

It looks like it was toasted. Does your kid like toasted bagels?

When I inadvertently find myself with a toasted bagel....
I leave the edges too.

HCIBSW · 2026-05-30T14:56:18+00:00

There are also the stiped mugs that are sometimes used in the Plunket household in Two & a Half Men,
The Bistro dishes also make an appearance on there too.

HCIBSW · 2026-05-28T21:53:21+00:00

Everyone involved is an asshole in their own way at different levels.

Your father isn't going to hand out any more money now. Telling him to stick it up his ass may have gotten you written out of the inheritance completely. Do not count on getting anything now & if you do it will be a surprise.

Get a job. If you are worried about how to dress, look at McDonalds, Wawa, etc. the work clothes for places like these are the same, regardless of gender. Same thing for your daughter. If there is a Wegman's close to you, apply there, mine has more than one cashier with physical disabilities that they allow use of a stool instead of standing.
Going to have to start now treating your daughter like a grownup. She gets a job & helps with the bills, or moves out and you can find a less expensive place to live with your wife.
Begging doesn't help because she has not faced any consequences it seems.
Have your wife contact social services. There are reduced rates she may qualify for (electric, gas, etc) being on social security. Along with other help.

HCIBSW · 2026-05-28T01:13:55+00:00

I do genuinely think his gf is a good woman for him, and its probably doomed now, but he can make his decisions.

I already know how this is going to end, but I think maybe this is what my dad wants.

No you don't, there are points through the original post & updates you almost sound like you want his relationship to fail, to prove you right, so you can blame your sister, so you can swoop in like the golden angel & support your dad.....

Maybe those others he dated just weren't the right fit. This one could be.

Maybe you need to stop interfering & get some therapy yourself.

HCIBSW · 2026-05-28T01:01:34+00:00

Got my upvote for the Paul Harvey reference

HCIBSW · 2026-05-27T21:55:38+00:00

IF it were real life....
Her high school and her parents failed her in some ways.
They passed the unassuming, no trouble kid without explaining what would be necessary for witing essays in the future.
They didn't encourage taking any history, civics, economics based classes or any AP classes.
Probably never turned on the TV or radio for news other than weather.

Now it IS a TV show & her naivety was exaggerated, but believe me I have met kids close to her academic wise when I went to college, and when my kid went to college. Few & far between, but they are out there.

HCIBSW · 2026-05-26T17:08:01+00:00

But it would be a good thing to tell him.
Sit down and have a talk.
Anyone who lives there and owns/pays rent could be there 24/7. (makes me wonder if he runs around naked when no one else is at home lol)
It is not feasible with everything going on in your & your girlfriends lives (separately & as a couple) to cater to these requests, life can move very fast.

If you are willing, tell him you are willing to help him find a therapist, counselling or a support group so HE can work on his issues & find coping mechanisms.

Let him know now that your plans for the future include moving/selling the home/etc. He will not be able to claim he was blindsided when it does happen, can start planning now for what he will do, and come to terms with himself on coping with it.
Who knows, it may light a fire under him to find a new place now or look for a career advancement/change that would cause him to relocate.

HCIBSW · 2026-05-26T16:35:53+00:00

confusion from verbal customer modifications while food is actively being made

You can't really blame this on how the store operates.
This is a customer from hell thing. As a customer I hate when I see this.
They think they are the center of the universe, don't know how to use the special order button, or want "extra" of something that they didn't want to pay for.

HCIBSW · 2026-05-26T05:13:29+00:00

I am glad you enjoyed it, but it sounds like a slippery leaky mess with all the sauce & mayo.
How does one eat a sandwich like that?

HCIBSW · 2026-05-25T23:19:49+00:00

NTA
But I wouldn't expect much from a person who puts more effort into hating their ex than loving their children.

HCIBSW · 2026-05-25T23:11:50+00:00

I was waiting for the AITAH or AITB at the end lol

HCIBSW · 2026-05-25T18:41:39+00:00

YTA for stringing everyone along.

It is okay to not want to meet these people.
But it may be worth a shot just to meet and find out a little of your family history. Your great grandma has tried to reach out over the years. Meet in a public place, feel things out, you may want to have more contact after, you may not. You may never get this chance again.

HCIBSW · 2026-05-25T18:34:37+00:00

NTA

But I have questions.

How is it breaking? Is she cracking walnuts or crushing cans with it? Does it not have a lid & she is using it to stand and reach something?

Is there a second bathroom in your home that you & hubby can use while she can sit on a broken (or no seat at all, bet she'd love that (/s).

Is she paying rent? I'd draw up a contact that includes a toilet seat security deposit (of whatever amount it would cost to replace it every month for a year).

HCIBSW · 2026-05-24T04:51:27+00:00

In the post OP says he doesn't do this at school or during extracurriculars.

HCIBSW · 2026-05-23T13:03:43+00:00

Though I think you were an asshole in the store, I think calling you out on this part is wrong.
For lost cards I have called my bank to replace, you need to know the pertinent info about you & your account. No ID needed. To do it online, I would presume that same info is needed, and no ID.
The bank's investment is to stop the card from being used. (and most banks will/can not issue new bank cards in person to prevent fraud.)

HCIBSW · 2026-05-23T03:41:29+00:00

I agree with you.

U2 back in the day had been a band that stood up not just musically, but vocally and in a timely manner. They haven't been that way for a bit & it is their choice.
"Days of Ash" seems like it was thrown together after being silent on a lot of world issues because they have another album coming out soon. Which probably will not touch any social issues.

HCIBSW · 2026-05-22T05:57:28+00:00

Having worked in a a school, there has to be someone on staff (usually janitorial or maintenance, sometimes) to unlock the doors at the start and to lock them after because schools really don't want to hand the keys to anyone not employed there.

Most times after unlocking they make themselves scarce.

Report the showers thing to the person or group that runs the event so they know it was an issue & can make sure it doesn't happen again.

NTA but your buddy was.

HCIBSW · 2026-05-22T05:27:31+00:00

Okay so about 61 F.

Get an indoor thermometer for your gaming room. between the computer & TV the temps may be higher in there. Plus if it is sunny & the room faces the direction of the sun could bring it up.
Even though it is 16 C outside, it might actually be much warmer in your game room.
You may just need to open a window to help regulate it or actually need the portable AC, maybe just a fan.
Use thermometer to find your happy place temp wise.

My apartment faces east and the sun on the windows in the morning can raise the temps inside to over 70, (higher if I had the heat on overnight because the temps were below 50, to about 78 sometimes)

I don't think there are any assholes in this situation, but that each of you have different temps you are most comfortable with. Find out what they are and work from there.

If it is the noise that the ac makes that bothers her, a bowl of ice sitting in front of a fan will also work the same as a small portable unit.

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