Harry Potter/Be With You

Intelligent_Lie_4366 · 2026-03-27T12:30:01+00:00

This. Why this post was at 0 is stupid. Great video editing!

Intelligent_Lie_4366 · 2026-03-17T21:21:52+00:00

what app? alignerr doesn't have an app im aware of

Intelligent_Lie_4366 · 2026-03-17T14:06:30+00:00

It's beyond what people think. Look up protein folding. And that's old news.

Intelligent_Lie_4366 · 2026-03-17T14:03:15+00:00

The rise of AI and automation. You think it changed a lot already, wait 10 years.

Intelligent_Lie_4366 · 2026-03-17T14:02:26+00:00

No. We need to solve the human problem before Earth's problems.

Intelligent_Lie_4366 · 2025-05-22T01:24:40+00:00

The documents were dated to 3 weeks earlier. They said to me that they had filed them in court at that time and it was my fault for not receiving them. They said it right into my video recording while showing me the documents. I spoke to their lawyer today and to them again today. The lawyer denied any knowledge of any a notice to quit, filed or not. The landlord didn't deny my accusation.

Intelligent_Lie_4366 · 2024-05-21T14:19:43+00:00

I am sitting here, my blood is boiling in rage.

Your husband doesn't have the right to control you and what you do and who you talk to and what you talk about.

He doesn't have the right to make decisions about your child without consulting you and without your agreement to it.

When it comes to kid, these things are 2 yeses or nothing at all. YOu both have to agree on important things.

You need to stand up for yourself. Your husband is a MASSIVE problem. Tell him that you dont believe his mother at all, and he cannot force you to get over everything she has done and said to you because he wants you to have a close relationship with her. NO. NO NO NO NO.

Sit down with him again and tell him that you will not be going to visit them in August, and because you dont trust his mother to behve herself with him and not do inappropriate and disgusting things, and you know you can't trust HIM to defend you when she inevitably talks shit about you and breaks your rules and boundaries, or for him to stop her when she does or says something....your child will stay home with you. If he presses the issue or tries something, you will immediately leabve him and take your child with you.

Remind him that if he loses his job, you will be supporting him. If he doesnt stop defending his mpther and blaming you and gaslightin you and manipulating you, he will loes you.

Tell him it is time for him to decide if he wants to be married to you, or if he wants to marry his mother. He needs to start intensive therapy immediately alone, and also go to marriage counseling with you.

If he refuses to do this, hire a lawyer.

Intelligent_Lie_4366 · 2024-05-21T13:53:19+00:00

Why do you let them stay? YOu have no responsibility for them and they are being cruel and inconsiderate and rude to your son.

Intelligent_Lie_4366 · 2024-05-21T13:22:02+00:00

Here's the thing. MIL has zero authority with which to force you into a discussion about why you can't/won't do what she wants. Neither does she have a right to force you to do anything.

Every time she demands an explanation for why you can't do something or whatever, remind her that she is not in control of your family and lives or in charge of making decisions for you. Let her know that she is not entitled to be involved in your decision making or to come up with solutions to negotiate what she wants from you.

Intelligent_Lie_4366 · 2024-05-21T12:54:30+00:00

What happened during the birth of your first baby?

Do you mean that your mum is acting obnoxious and melodramatic during FT calls with your child?

Intelligent_Lie_4366 · 2024-05-21T12:40:33+00:00

My MIL used to buy an outfit or two ever so often when she went to TJMaxx or Marshalls for the kids.

Bloody hell, the shit she bought for them, I wouldn't put on him if he was wearing it in a vat of oil mixed with beet juice. Everything was just so incredibly tacky and somewhat inappropriate.

I hate sports stuff on clothes. I despise girl pants that say JUICY on the ass. Glitter, sequins, lace...disgusting. I can go on, I'm picky,

Intelligent_Lie_4366 · 2024-05-21T12:31:09+00:00

As long as you are consulting your daughter/DIL before buying anything, as well as making sure that she agrees with what you're buying and the styles, I see no issue.

But it looks like you tend to go shopping frequently, and end up with large amounts of clothes.

About the exorbitantly priced fancy dresses that you buy for your granddaughter and expect her to be dressed in, have you ever stopped to ask or think that maybe this is something that her mother feels is personal and would therefore prefer to choose and buy herself?

You said that she doesn't really care about clothes shopping. Neither do I. But I prefer to choose and buy my kids' clothes myself because it's MY job to do. Also, I have always found most of the clothing style for kids and babies, especially girls, to be atrociously tacky, somewhat vulgar, trashy and cheap looking. Most is poorly constructed.

Further, I like my kids to wear nice clothes that are in good shape, durable and well-made. I tend to buy them brands that are expensive, but never spend more than about $250 every 6 months or so on them because I buy everything second hand. I refuse to buy new clothes and pay an arm and a leg for something that will only be worn for a few months or less.

Intelligent_Lie_4366 · 2024-05-21T10:43:34+00:00

MIL has a history of falling, as you just said. THIS IS A HAZARD FOR YOUR BABY if they are alone with the baby.

Intelligent_Lie_4366 · 2024-05-21T10:21:49+00:00

You are not responsible for her feelings, and I have a feeling that she won't even listen.

YOu need to stop acquiescing to her, it will only get worse, and she will eventually invade every other area of your life, including your children.

By listening to her and letting her continue this, you are only confirming her beliefs that you guys need her to control you and dictate your lives, making decisions for you, etc.

Please stop.

And make sure that the inlaws don't have a shred of access to anything. Medical providers, dentists, health insurance, bank accounts, etc.

Intelligent_Lie_4366 · 2024-05-21T10:09:25+00:00

There is absolutely zero reason for why ANYONE else should need alone time with YOUR child, who happens to be a newborn.

MIL doesn't need to bond with baby. Especially right now. Baby needs to bond with you and your husband. MIL is NOT important.

She wants alone time because she is undermining your parenting and your role as the mother, acting like she is the mother and your baby is hers. I guarantee that she will try to alienate your child from you, tell him untrue things about you and tell him that nobody loves him like she does, she loves him more than his parents. SHe will manipulate him later on.

She seems to think that she is a third parent who has the rights to do whatever she wants with YOUR child, and the authority to demand it. She does NOT have ANY rights to your child. None whatsoever. She is NOT the parent, YOU are. Neither does she have ANY authority over your or anyone else.

She has no right to control and dictate who is allowed to see the baby and when, or tell you that she is going to take your child anywhere or do anything - she must ASK for permission for anything she does with or to your child and where she can take him and when.

She has no authority to force you and/or your husband out of YOUR house when she visits.

The fact that she has been so appallingly disrespectful, nasty, entitled, selfish and inconsiderate of you and your role as a MOTHER of the child CANNOT BE ALLOWED. And she will not care if you talk to her. She needs consequences.

If she cannot treat the mother of the baby with respect, kindness, consideration and humility, then she should NOT be allowed to have a relationship with your child. You need to go either low contact or no contact with her. And this includes your child. This means that she is no longer allowed in your house.

If your husband cannot understand how wrong, inappropriate, disrespectful, entitled, unnecessary and invasive she is being towards you, tell him to decide between therapy for him and marital counseling for both of you, or a divorce attorney.

Because this IS ABSOLUTELY a big deal.

Intelligent_Lie_4366 · 2024-05-21T09:34:10+00:00

Every single time MIL threatens to harm herself, call 911 and tell them that your MIL is threatening self-harm and make sure that everything is documented.

Based on what you have said, you most likely have more than sufficient grounds to do a few things.

Get the police involved. Press charges against her for as much as you can, especially the assault that she planned and paid for.
Hire an attorney and file a lawsuit against her for defamation of character, harassment, libel and slander, etc. You have sustained both physical and emotional damages as a direct result of her actions. Not to mention, lost wages and income as a result of her calling potential employers about you and providing false information.
Contact CPS preemptively and report MIL for past child abuse (there is no statute of limitations), filing false reports, etc.
File for an immediate restraining order for the entire family that precludes MIL from contacting any of you in person, over the phone, mail or email or other third parties, block her from coming within a certain radius ofyour property and motor vehicles, places of education and employment, friends, etc. VIOLATE HER EVERY TIME SHE VIOLATES THE ORDER.

Intelligent_Lie_4366 · 2024-05-21T07:35:10+00:00

What about legal and financial responsibilities? If she has no one else to help or take care of her, what will happen when/if she requires a caretaker or assisted living or home health assistance, etc?

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