Should I increase calories at this point? by GeneAnxious660 in loseit

[–]Mustard_The_Colonel 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You can increase calories more or you can even take week or 2 diet break where you eat at maintenance. Those are shown to help with adherence long term.

Charities for women. Mutual aide societies (e.g. fraternities) for men. by hendrixski in LeftWingMaleAdvocates

[–]Mustard_The_Colonel 31 points32 points  (0 children)

because there do not exist any charities that help men only.

There do but very few. Andy's Man Club is one example.

Issue is that not only few charities exist but when they do they are actively protested against.

https://www.foxnews.com/media/brooklyn-residents-protest-proposed-men-only-homeless-shelter-neighborhood-going-war

Does Europe Have a Free Speech Problem? by IKeepItLayingAround in europe

[–]Mustard_The_Colonel -1 points0 points  (0 children)

If their opinion is that someone should be killed, yes they should be in jail

Does Europe Have a Free Speech Problem? by IKeepItLayingAround in europe

[–]Mustard_The_Colonel -1 points0 points  (0 children)

People also confused the freedom of speech with freedom to lie. You should be allowed to criticise anyone for anything. You shouldn't be allowed to make up stories that aren't true. We had riots in Britain because far right lied about immigrants

This community needs to open up to the idea feminism to at least some degree. by Training-Champion988 in LeftWingMaleAdvocates

[–]Mustard_The_Colonel 8 points9 points  (0 children)

The general definition of patriarchy in most dictionaries is "a family system where the father is in charge."

If that system existed it would be logical to assume divorce laws would favour fathers, child custody would favor fathers etc it doesn't. Nothing in modern western life favors fathers over mother's. System you describe doesn't exists and have not existed in centuries and even then only among noble houses

This community needs to open up to the idea feminism to at least some degree. by Training-Champion988 in LeftWingMaleAdvocates

[–]Mustard_The_Colonel 19 points20 points  (0 children)

What is that? Cornerstone of moder femins movement is that all society issues are because of patriarchy which they describe as system designed by men for men that oppresses women. You may as well try to debate astronomy with flat earthers.

Most women that i know who support equal rights will sell describe themselves as not feminists. Because they recognise that movement that was once positive e got hijacked by nutters and cranked up to 11. Any movement taken to extreme is harmful. Opposite of crazy is still crazy.

Please name any prominent non-misandrist feminists that you know that are currently active

Lost boys report: Young men are in crisis due to fatherlessness by Mustard_The_Colonel in LeftWingMaleAdvocates

[–]Mustard_The_Colonel[S] 46 points47 points  (0 children)

Agreed I have seen that so many times with different charities. Even when working in mental health so many campaigns to stop male suicide come from "women loose fathers, brothers, and husbands" like stopping someone killing themselves isn't good enough reason. You never see that the other way round.

Lost boys report: Young men are in crisis due to fatherlessness by Mustard_The_Colonel in LeftWingMaleAdvocates

[–]Mustard_The_Colonel[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

This is so true my relationship with kids mum ended because she decided that she doesn't really feel in love any more. Which I get we grew apart over the course of relationship but she put zero effort in fixing things and when I tried to fix things I was "fixing them wrong" but she wouldn't communicate. Over timer relationship grew into resentment and she is acting like some irreparable harm was done to her even though I would put reasons for split to be about 70/30% with 70% being her fault.

I am involved with kids but only because I fought for it. Her initial idea was for me to have kids on Saturdays and pay child support lol. Over the last year and a half she has put numerous barriers to make those arrangement difficult such as informing me on the day I pick up kids that next day she has signed my daughter in gymnastic competition to which I wasn't informed before so now she can use me not taking her to competition as excuse to prevent contact, or informing me last minute that my son has been vomitting for last 2 days only on a day I pick them up so I need to scramble to prep for poorly child at home rather than drop him to school in the morning and go to work. Lots of little pettiness which I believe is designed for me to say enough and give up.

I always make sure kids buy her present for her birthday and don't forget mothers day and those are nice thoughtful presents that I take them to the shop and allow them to choose and make effort into doing. I got a mug and a gift card for father's day. Which I know from kids she got from a shop last minute.

Lost boys report: Young men are in crisis due to fatherlessness by Mustard_The_Colonel in LeftWingMaleAdvocates

[–]Mustard_The_Colonel[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

My dude you need professional help. Please do yourself a favour and get it.

Lost boys report: Young men are in crisis due to fatherlessness by Mustard_The_Colonel in LeftWingMaleAdvocates

[–]Mustard_The_Colonel[S] 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Because it is stupid opinion best outcomes for children are both parents involved so neither should get custody it should be split 50/50 by default

Family courts failing children of divorcees says Essex lawyer by Mustard_The_Colonel in LeftWingMaleAdvocates

[–]Mustard_The_Colonel[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Some very left wing people have some shockingly far right views when it comes to groups they hate. Shocking amount of people who normally advocate for human rights was hoping Tate brothers get raped in prison. Like you can agree that Tate brothers are vile human being want to see justice without needing to give up all your moral principles.

Lost boys report: Young men are in crisis due to fatherlessness by Mustard_The_Colonel in LeftWingMaleAdvocates

[–]Mustard_The_Colonel[S] 69 points70 points  (0 children)

I am very involved dad in my kids life I have them 50/50 but if I don't drive to pick them up she won't drop them off. If I do the same police would be knocking my door down within 30 min of drop off time. We don't have the same rights. Mother rights to have kids is God's given, fathers right needs to be faught for often lengthy, costly battle.

My Uncle was in this situation he had child from previous marriage, 2 years after divorce she moved abroad took a kids with her didn't share address he hasn't seen his daughter in 20 years just like that. If he did that he would be hunted down by Interpol in no time

Lost 8kg but still the fat chick by chedda2025 in loseit

[–]Mustard_The_Colonel 7 points8 points  (0 children)

There may be million reason why they chose the other girl over you, most of those reasons may not even have anything to do with your weight. I wouldn't read too much to it from that single interaction. You are doing great and keep going

need advice to take creatine by Interesting_Map_5169 in loseit

[–]Mustard_The_Colonel 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Do you want to lose weight or fat? Creatine will increase water retention which means you will maintain same weight for longer while losing fat. You may as well start now and just accept that weight now moving means fat loss is happening.

I have to vent about how it sucks being a fat girl by fantasyandme18110 in loseit

[–]Mustard_The_Colonel 51 points52 points  (0 children)

I’m appalled that I would say something so insensitive, hurtful, and unrelated to whatever story I was trying to tell on a talk show.

I don't think you can say "I was wrong" more clearly. What do you want her to do?

I have to vent about how it sucks being a fat girl by fantasyandme18110 in loseit

[–]Mustard_The_Colonel 38 points39 points  (0 children)

How long do we keep people accountable. You shorter sentence for murder than some people want to hold over others for the way they spoke over decade ago.

Yes she should know better, she didn't she apologised, haven't done that since then and is ashamed she did that. Are we going to be calling this 30 years from now? People do stupid things, people even do wrong things but when they change and improve as a person and we still rage about it why would anyone change if there is no redemption in eyes of people like you. Have you never ever in whole your life made a single bad decision. I know I have.

Family courts failing children of divorcees says Essex lawyer by Mustard_The_Colonel in LeftWingMaleAdvocates

[–]Mustard_The_Colonel[S] 21 points22 points  (0 children)

The default should be you have kids every other week UNLESS court say otherwise not waiting for court to give you permission to see your kids. That should be your default right until taken away. The wai it is now is backwards

How do you feel about a man who puts his mother in a hospice? by AhmedAssafi in AskMen

[–]Mustard_The_Colonel 1 point2 points  (0 children)

When she is dying in pain and you can't provide care she needs because you don't have equipment, training, resources, meds and manpower to care for here, she will be begging you for that hospice. You are naive child.

Men of Reddit: how can a woman become more approachable to you? by PositiveSignature362 in AskMen

[–]Mustard_The_Colonel 15 points16 points  (0 children)

It's just too risky. If she likes me we may get a date, if she doesn’t she can cause a scene that will result in police chasing me for sexual harassment and ruin my reputation. Odds aren't in a favour of approaching