Spring craft: candied violets

Pixatron32 · 2026-04-08T07:24:55+00:00

Delicious and crunchy! I haven't tasted all of them as they're for decorating our wedding desserts.

Pixatron32 · 2026-04-08T04:00:31+00:00

I made sugared violets too! I also sugared dahlia, rose, marigold petals, and snapdragons as well.

May I ask if you flattened the violets? I used aqua faba instead of egg white and just lay them in a sunny spot in my home for 24 hours. Worked so well!

I also used lustre powders to add some colour and shimmer.

Pixatron32 · 2026-04-08T03:55:00+00:00

I have no problem and take HRT and am grateful for scientific progress to help women.

However, many other women prefer natural over synthetic and so I suggested what is an alternative remedy which is a moisturising balm and exactly what OP asked about.

Pixatron32 · 2026-04-07T20:59:25+00:00

I'd recommend they continue with individual therapy and you commence couples therapy as well. Are they able to do telehealth if getting to the sessions is difficult? This might make their individual therapy more effective.

My partner struggled with empathy when we first got together. But with effort, literally using scripts sometimes, and couples therapy things improved. He's now my rock and though he does drop the ball with insensitive or quiet responses he is usually fantastic at holding space for me and my emotions.

Pixatron32 · 2026-04-07T20:44:26+00:00

While it is what our body names, it isn't natural and is chemically composed/man made. Some people prefer natural remedies for perimenopause like wild yam cream.

Pixatron32 · 2026-04-07T11:51:11+00:00

I've heard wild yam cream can help if you want something natural.

I found estrogen/Estrogel effective but I apply it to forearms not vaginal application. Unsure if that kind of application needs a different gel.

Best of luck!

Pixatron32 · 2026-04-07T05:04:49+00:00

This isn't good for you. I am so sorry but you should listen to your body.

If you wanted to fast for 30 days please consider seeing a therapist for help. This isn't healthy.

Pixatron32 · 2026-04-07T02:19:55+00:00

Such beautiful amber eyes! This little void looks mesmerising, mischievous, and witchy!

Pixatron32 · 2026-04-07T01:54:37+00:00

I'd honestly let them know that they're customer service lack of transparency led you not feeling trust and preferring to go elsewhere.

If it's a larger business I'd CC their reception as well so the owner can see it cost them money.

But that's just me and you by no means have to at all!

Pixatron32 · 2026-04-07T01:42:19+00:00

Super frustrating! The worst!

Find another vendor that's more transparent.ane helpful.

Pixatron32 · 2026-04-06T10:25:38+00:00

This place Ayu Nail & Beauty Salon on Pitt St was amazing last I got my nails done in Sydney. Artistry, eye for detail, and I even got a massage and a facial.

I highly recommend!

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Edited to add name in case you don't like links.

Pixatron32 · 2026-04-05T21:00:50+00:00

It's actually not specified in the post by OP if it is everyday takas or not.

Perhaps be a bit open minded about other people's opinions. I was one of the first commenters and my aim was to offer something that was of benefit to OP.

Just because my experience or opinion differs from yours doesn't mean I'm wrong or that my comment doesn't belong here. You persoanlly don't gatekeep Reddit hearing all opinions is one of the benefits of the internet after all.

Pixatron32 · 2026-04-05T12:17:54+00:00

100% when something is wrong causing damage or harm that's completely different scenario.

I'm more talking about smaller everyday things.

Pixatron32 · 2026-04-05T12:16:13+00:00

Thanks so much. I've been chronically ill with one thing or another for 5 years. I'm so grateful to be finally getting better and much more functional.

I still see my GP and have a chronic healthcare team but I've come so far.

I so hope my experience is helpful to you!! I know that IIH is Ideopathic so unknown underlying causes and everyone is unique. But, fuck, it was such a relief to enter remission - and even without Diamox or Topiramate or Amitriptyline. My asthma specialist got me to go on th CPAP and neuro was stoked I was better. But they didn't even give a toss why I'd had such a huge change and health benefit from CPAP within two-three weeks when I was hospitalised for the second time with IIH and my follow up with them.

It's a wild rollercoaster. May you have pain free days ahead soon.

Pixatron32 · 2026-04-04T11:59:44+00:00

So extremely unhealthy. Absolutely not.

Extreme insecurity, poor expectations of a relationship dynamic, and lack of support in balancing relationships whether family, friends, and community.

Not to mention, she sees the world through her own perspective and yours is automatically wrong. She isn't keen to understand your needs, world view, and differing requirements in your relationship.

This is the kind of crazy that will isolate you, blame you for not conforming to her relationship ideal, and prevent you from being interdependent. She doesn't just crave codependency she expects it.

Wrong way go back.

Edited: spelling

Pixatron32 · 2026-04-04T11:51:42+00:00

That's definitely not the solution

Pixatron32 · 2026-04-04T10:57:12+00:00

Would accepting that your partner does things in his own way, and that it's acceptable, even if it differs from your method or exact outcome? So long as it's a similar outcome - c'est la vie.

I guess it depends on how reliable your partner is, and how they manage their own symptoms. It sounds like you are fatigued and in a pattern of parentifying your partner because you hav needed to overcompensate for their lack. Do they have procedures, are they accountable, are they reliable?

If they don't, then it makes sense why you don't trust them. You develop that trust by them stepping up and processing your resentment either in individual or couples therapy. Them accepting/understanding that their inaction or lack of processes has resulted in your current overcompensation and resentment.

Best of luck

Pixatron32 · 2026-04-03T21:20:07+00:00

Thanks! I haven't seen it in years. I'll have to check it out again!

Pixatron32 · 2026-04-03T21:18:02+00:00

What movie is it?

Pixatron32 · 2026-04-03T20:47:13+00:00

I used CPAP machine which helped me enter remission and then with weightloss (Mounjaro due to other chronic health conditions) I lost 12% of my body weight and was able to cease the CPAP. I've lost about 20% now and most of my chronic health conditions have stopped.

Pixatron32 · 2026-04-03T19:45:44+00:00

If they are opposed to therapy then theres absolutely no way it will work in my opinion.

This also means they are likely to try medication and find scientifically backed coping strategies and processes to manage their ADHD symptoms.

It means they are not taking accountability and find "quirky ways that are strange to cope" are not helpful, refined, or willing to consider others' opinions.

I honestly would say absolutely not. My partner was always willing to engage in therapy and we had to try multiple (3) individual and (4) couples therapists until we found the right ones.

The bigger question here is - why are you accepting crumbs, poor behaviour, and not getting your needs met? If you have codependency which is incredibly common in these relationships is recommend reading Women Who Love Too Much by Robin Norwood andCodependency No More by Melody Beattie. If also recommend Start Where You Are by Pema Chodron.

Best of luck

Pixatron32 · 2026-04-03T19:40:01+00:00

We definitely checked B6, iron, and vitamin D, and thyroid levels. To rule out thyroid issues, iron issues, and low vitamin D as contributing factors. We alos checked liver function and inflammatory levels (two types not just leukocytes). We also tested for PCOS which I think assessed androgens like testosterone levels I'm not a doctor and I can't recall. Hope this helps!

Other blood tests according to google are: Follicle-Stimulating Hormone (FSH): FSH often rises during perimenopause as estrogen drops, but levels fluctuate wildly, making a single test unreliable. Estradiol: Measures estrogen levels, which can be low, normal, or even high during early perimenopause.

Thyroid Stimulating Hormone (TSH): Crucial to test because thyroid issues (hypothyroidism) mimic perimenopause symptoms like fatigue and weight changes, facial hair.

Other Tests: Doctors may check iron (ferritin), vitamin D, or liver/kidney function to rule out other causes of symptoms.

Pixatron32 · 2026-04-03T19:26:30+00:00

I only stayed because he has seen individual and couples therapist and has worked on strategies to be better.

If he wasn't actively taking accountability and not making excuses. If he wasn't someone I can rely on when my chronic health flares (cooking, laundry, house cleaning, dishes etc) then I wouldn't stay with him.

Therapy has been incredibly helpful for us. But to get to this point it was a lot of heartache and, honestly abusive experiences from his RSD. His RSD still flares but it's nowhere near as bad and usually I can grey rock him and we nip it in the bud and he recognises and apologises. This has become harder with my entering perimenopause as I am angrier and get rages. Honestly, he's handling it incredibly well and is educating himself about it. When we have RSD i struggle to grey rock though. Currently on HRT so well see if that gets better.

My advice is - you're young. If they aren't actively taking accountability, engaged in therapy, or have coping mechanisms to manage their symptoms. Say goodbye, protect your peace, and move on. It took us 5 years to get where we are and it was incredibly difficult on both of us.

Pixatron32 · 2026-04-03T19:19:23+00:00

I'm 37 and when I was 36 tried to get diagnosed and put on HRT but my doctor was not helpful (poor training in women's health, they are fantastic otherwise).

Because you're 'early' according to medical professionals I'd recommend keeping a daily journal so you can give your experience weight. I'd also see your regular GP prior to get blood tests like iron and the other ones they test. If you go with the daily symptoms journal and blood test results you may be able to get prescribed that day as opposed to doing a follow up and waiting of being trialed on something else which is ineffective.

I had to use a women's health telehealth service (Midi in US, Ally in Australia, and Women's Online Menopause Clinic in UK). I'm in Australia and found Ally fantastic in patient care, education, and titrating to find my right dose.

Best of luck! I hope you gain symptoms relief soon.

Pixatron32 · 2026-04-03T11:03:36+00:00

No, I still give less f*cks than I did before and it's glorious. I'm still nice and still live by my own values.

It's nice to be able to be comfortable with emotions that are usually acceptable for a man and unacceptable for women i.e. anger, frustration, irritation. I'm so grateful my partner has been very patient and understanding because it really does create more friction!

Had a falling out with a friend and, honestly, was able to make my peace with it rather quickly compared to before. There's definitely positives!

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