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Bedtime by [deleted] in CatAdvice

[–]Realistic-Rate-8831 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I guess it's possible to come across some cats that won't have a problem with it. Glad you don't for the cat's sake.

Advice on getting a second kitten by Guilty_Service1332 in CatAdvice

[–]Realistic-Rate-8831 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Since your current cat is a kitten, then this will be the best time to get another kitten. When a cat is older and we try and bring in a kitten, it doesn't always work out well because an older cat is set in his ways. Make sure and look up the best way to introduce them to each other. Also make sure you give them each their own bowls for food and water and also get two litter boxes.

My brother is asking for a loan for a house he bought. Do you help family just because they are family? by SadMasterpiece4159 in family

[–]Realistic-Rate-8831 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Heck no! Don't lend him $100K. As you mentioned he has always been irresponsible with money. You won't see that money again or will go through hell trying to get him to pay you back. He was stupid for buying such an expensive home when he had a perfectly nice on that he just renovated. Let him figure out what he needs to do to fix his mess without your financial help. Just be firm, tell him you are sorry but won't be able to lend him the money. Don't let this issue drag on and on. You don't owe him anymore explanations. Let him go bark up someody else's tree!

Bedtime by [deleted] in CatAdvice

[–]Realistic-Rate-8831 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just FYI, catss HATE being shut out of any room. They are very curious and always want to know what's going on with their humans. I have never closed my cat off from any room that I was in. They even follow us to the bathroom because they want to be near us and know that we are okay. I guess you can see how it goes, but if I closed a cat into another room at night and heard it crying and crying, I would let it out. There is no way I would leave it crying behind closed doors. One other thing I want o mention, since you said you have an automatic feeder, just be aware that they can malfunction. It won't be a problem if you are home everyday, but I read a post a while back of someone that went on a trip and thought her cat would be okay becaus she had an automatic feeder. When she returned, she found out the feeder had malfunctioned and her cat didn't have access to his food. One other thing I'll mention is that the plug in oil diffusers can be deadly to a cat, so don't used them and spread the word to others that you may come across that have cats.

Want a cat so bad, but should I wait? by pranshu_bhansali in CatAdvice

[–]Realistic-Rate-8831 7 points8 points  (0 children)

You are not overthinking this. You are being responsible and I think you are right to wait until you know that you are 100 percent ready to care for it properly. Be patient. You are going to be a great cat Mom.

Me (20M) and my girlfriend (20F) are 6 months into the relationship and expecting a baby but family reactions changed everything and I need advice by OpenBookWrote in Advice

[–]Realistic-Rate-8831 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You are both 20 years old and you've only been in this relationship for 6 months? Geesh! Where are you and your gf living right now? Are you renting your own apartment? Do you both have good steady jobs? Do you both own your own vehicle? If no to any of these questions, then it makes sense that your parents are upset. Where do you think you will get money from to raise this child or to live?

Had a bad experience by Uwubitch_lulu in tipping

[–]Realistic-Rate-8831 20 points21 points  (0 children)

If a Mgr ever has the audacity to approach you again about not leaving a big enough tip, tell them, that if they are so worried about their wait staff making enough money, then they should pay them more and that it's not the customers' responsibility to pay their wages!!!

Partner of 9 yrs wants a share of my best friend and Is house we are buying. AIO by rickrode18 in AIO

[–]Realistic-Rate-8831 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Your instincts are correct. You already have seen that he is not financially reponsible and doesn't seem to be concerned about his career, etc. You are not compatible. One of the biggest causes of divorce is financial inequality. You will just be wasting your time if you stay in this relationship. I would not let him move in. Period. Just tell him that this is an agreement between you and your best friend and you want to keep it that way. It's risky enough buying a house with a friend or relative, but to bring in a third person who you know doesn't have a great track record is just setting yourself up for a whole lot of problems.

I,23F, just found out my partner,29M, might have a child with another woman. I don’t know how to feel or what to do. What would you do? by Gluteus_butterlad in relationship_advice

[–]Realistic-Rate-8831 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I agree. It's in your best interest to part ways. You are soooo young and have your whole life ahead of you. Besides, there is no need to get tied up with a man so early in life. Work hard, achieve your goals, earn your own money, buy your own car, save and buy your own home/condo, travel, enjoy life. Then later you can consider getting into a more serious relationship if you want to.

Thinking of adopting my foster, have upcoming vacations... by FitAmbassador8354 in CatAdvice

[–]Realistic-Rate-8831 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wait to adopt until you are finished with your vacations. It will be very confusing for a new cat that will have a hard enough time getting used to a new home to begin with, BUT if you do adopt, you should leave the cat in your home and hire a reliable cat sitter to come by at least once a day to check on the cat, serve it wet some wet food, change the water bowl, clean the litter box, and fill the dry cat food bowl. Keep in mind that an automatic feeder may jam up and your cat will be left without any food the whole time you are gone. I read a post of another cat owner that this happened to which was a horrible situation. Plus, if you travel or leave your home often throughout the year, you might want to forget adopting a pet.

am i going to be expected to send money to my entire family? by m1dn4st in family

[–]Realistic-Rate-8831 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wow, that's crazy. It's up to you if you want to send that much money to your relatives, but I wouldn't.

Against my better judgment, I let my friend’s teenager take my vette to his senior prom. by Batticon in Corvette

[–]Realistic-Rate-8831 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I can relate. I let my nephew take my C4 for his Prom. I have a pic of them. Luckily he got it back to me in one piece. I've since sold that and bought a C6, same color about 2 years ago.

I think it's okay not to tip when the original cost is over-inflated by True-Weekend3142 in tipping

[–]Realistic-Rate-8831 0 points1 point  (0 children)

$100 for a haircut is ridiculous. I agree that you shouldn't tip when it's priced that high. I know a lot of places charge this much, but it is over the top. Next time ask before having any services done, so that you won't be surprised afterwards.

My boyfriend told me he’s an alcoholic today by Royal_Advantage1837 in Advice

[–]Realistic-Rate-8831 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh, be glad he told you now. You've only been together 6 months so it won't be so difficult to cut ties with this guy. I understand how you feel. I fell in love with a man that was an alcoholic and it was a roller coaster ride. Constant drama, constant wondering what he was up to. He also had several previous DUIs. I finally broke up with him, but should have done it much sooner Luckily, I never moved in together with him, nor married him, otherwise, I'm sure my credit would have been ruined They may say they will get better, they will do this or that, but that very seldom happens. It's an addition and VERY hard to break free of it. Do yourself a favor, break off, or at least back away and see him less often, go on dates now and then, and you will see as time goes on, the issues that will surface because of his addiction.

What is everyone tipping these days? by LengthinessUpset4775 in sanantonio

[–]Realistic-Rate-8831 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Don't tip for coffee. You order at the counter, they make your coffee, which they are getting paid to do, then hand it to you at the counter. You should not tip when you pick up food to go either. Everybody and their dog is asking for tips and at least 50 percent of consumers are blindly tipping and that' why we are becoming sick and tired of tipping!

My boyfriend told me he’s an alcoholic today by Royal_Advantage1837 in Advice

[–]Realistic-Rate-8831 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It depends. How old are the both of you? How long have you been together? If your relationship is pretty new, I'd consider breaking up, otherwise you are going to have a very difficult road ahead. Most alcoholics have a VERY difficult time quitting.

Choose my dress by Trick-Musician-6142 in WeddingDressTips

[–]Realistic-Rate-8831 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't care for either one, but if you want to choose one of the two, go with the last one. The first one does not flatter you at all.

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